How To Avoid Responsibilities

To me, one of the sad truths about the world today is that most people look upon work as something to escape from. To them, this major part of life is a necessary evil, even an obstacle to the life they dream about. There’s not a doubt in my mind that some of the discontent we feel about work comes from our faulty thinking on the reason for it. In our desire to get out of work, we are missing the point of it. Your work contributes to the good of society and moves us ahead. We need your talents and abilities. We need you to work hard and do it well. It makes us better as people and it enriches our lives.
This is so unfair. It’s fair to say that inevitable things will happen at all times, and when they do, no amount of crying or complaining will change the fact you have work to do, you don't always get your way, or that you must wake up early everyday. So by resisting the natural phenomena of life, you are only increasing your suffering of situations that cannot be changed.
When we discuss resistance, we are referring to the misguided belief that unchangeable features of life can be changed, or when we look at a painful situation and tell ourselves that it isn’t fair, or that it shouldn’t be happening. When the reality is that there is no way of changing this feature and that there is really nothing that can be done to alter it. Therefore, when we feel pain and try to resist the reality that it is a natural and normal part of life, we will suffer.
The antidote for suffering is acceptance. If you can accept pain for what it is, an inevitable part of life, and practice this acceptance in the place of resistance then your suffering will lessen. We can stop directing all of our energy towards trying to change the unchangeable or lament the unfairness of a situation that was always going to happen. By freeing up our energy, we can stop focusing on the pain, and live a more content and peaceful life beyond it. The pain will still be there, but our perception of it will have changed.
==Part 1==
Like any human with endless responsibilities, I picked up my dragging butt and started my daily routine. I tried to practice what I preach like in my 5 things to do every day to be happy article by moving, nourishing, and connecting. Everything just felt like I was phoning it in. My mind wasn’t into it and my heart wasn’t even in the building. Yes, embracing my sucky day was the last thing I wanted to do. I did everything but embrace it for more than 8 hours. I denied it, rationalized it, got angry at it, but embrace it, no thank you. What you resist persists, so I finally decided to embrace my bad day.
==Part 2==
Anyone who has lived past the age of 4 is well acquainted with the idea that Life Is Not Fair. And yet, when something annoying/sad/frustrating and, yes, completely unfair happens, inevitably someone says, “Oh, well, who says life is fair?” And you realize, as a fireball stokes in your chest, that it is not the unfairness of life but the random commentary that is eating at your soul. It’s just so unhelpful, this kind of toothless insight that is meant to allay the speaker’s discomfort rather than your own. We'd tell you it's just not fair, but...
== Part 3 ==
You slink into the kitchen in the morning, and you're tired but it’s time to be up, and you’re heavy with dread for the day ahead, and there is no coffee. You hold the empty canister in your hand for a moment before hurling it against the wall, startling the dog and also yourself. May I suggest something and then immediately duck for cover? Could it be that you are not actually mad about the lack of that precious brown dust? Could it be that you are storing a general anger -- at being overtired, at your too-busy life, at the irritating meeting you’re headed to -- in your fingertips? A thought: Apologize to the coffee canister (yes, it feels silly), and then apologize to the dog, and then apologize to yourself.
How many of us hate it when that alarm rings and it’s time to get up? It’s not you, it’s your body and you can master this morning demon with a bit of help. Mornings are often the most challenging time for many of us. We toss and turn, push the “snooze” button on the alarm and wish we could sleep for just five more minutes, but that alarm is relentless. Yes, we’d all love to remain in bed, but our version of the bugler’s call summons us, and it won’t stop. Work, school, or appointments are on the agenda, and each requires our physical presence. What is going on? Much of this bed-induced reiteration of what the next day will bring is one of the impediments to restful sleep. But there’s more, and it has to do with your body’s biorhythms.
== Part 4 ==
While you are wasting your time and life holding onto your grudge and being consumed with hatred, resentment, and bitterness towards those who have wronged you who are not sorry and don’t care, they are carrying on with their lives freely without a second thought for you or any feelings of remorse or guilt and therefore the only person who is suffering still with it all is you, so you are allowing them to continue to keep taking more from you than they already have by hurting you in the first place.
You have to let it go for your own sake and not allow them to keep taking up your valuable time or energy and occupying space in your head that is preventing you from focusing upon other things that are far more beneficial to you.
Just because you choose to let it go doesn't mean that you are letting them off the hook and accepting or condoning their poor behavior, it purely means that you are not prepared for them to have any effect or impact on you and your life anymore as they are not worth it.
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