Pick Me

She likes beer. She loves sports. She prefers male company. The term ‘Pick-me girl’ has become unavoidable on TikTok whether that be by videos created or comment sections filled to the brim with this insult. Notably, the term is used to target girls who exhibit quirks not usually associated with females and is another example of prejudicial insults used to pit women against each other and make one type of woman more favourable than the other, but who is really to blame?injectionmag.com
At the heart of the ‘Pick-me girl’ trope is the implication that women are in the constant pursuit of male validation. Remarkably most of the time the people accusing girls of being a ‘Pick-me’ are other women, constantly pushing the idea that one type of woman is superior and, in a way, - women should all be carbon copies, so as to not be branded with these problematic labels. If a girl enjoys football, she is a pick-me. Why? Because football is a male sport and if she likes football, boys like her. With the extent to which the label is thrown around online now almost every female behaviour is invalidated and the line between the accuser and the accused is so blurred that it is hard to know who to blame and who has internalised misogyny the most. Don’t get me wrong, if a girl is demeaning other women to be picked by men then she is a definite agent of the patriarchy yet often online, the girls accused of being a ‘Pick-me girl’ are inadvertently displaying the traits and are not actually seeking male validation.injectionmag.com
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