Codependency

Everyone is on the spectrum of co-dependency, so you know. WW2 happened because the Germans were codependent. They did not have the right quality boundaries vs. Hitler — that's why he could control them.That's why people say "you have no boundaries," if you get abused often, e.g., about people who get abused often in a sense.16. June, 2020. Through "Telegram," an instant messenger app.Dong
"Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity." This is kinda inaccurate. Because it's only excessive when it is maladaptive.
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The real root of the word “codependent” and the original definition came from the legal use of the word in contracts and documents. It (codependent) meant that an action was mutually dependent on or influenced by something else – someone or something besides the original factor or persons involved.May be a symptom: Feelings or actions of another affect you to the point of losing control of your own life.
----When we look at codependency through the lens of the axis of desire, we can see how codependent individuals often suppress or deny their own desires in order to prioritize the needs and desires of others.
For someone struggling with codependency, their axis of desire may be tilted heavily towards their partner, family, or work, with their own desires barely registering on the scale. They may feel guilty or selfish for having their own needs and wants, and may suppress them in order to maintain a sense of connection and worthiness.
However, this suppression of desire can be deeply damaging to the individual's mental and emotional health, leading to feelings of resentment, burnout, and low self-esteem. By recognizing the importance of their own desires and finding ways to prioritize them alongside the needs of others, codependent individuals can begin to rebalance their axis of desire and move towards a healthier and more authentic way of living.
Codependency is a complex and often dysfunctional pattern of behavior that can be explored through a narrative program. Here's one way to frame a codependency narrative:
* Actant: The protagonist is a codependent person who derives their sense of self-worth from taking care of others and neglecting their own needs.
* Sender: The person or situation that triggers the protagonist's codependent behavior. This could be an abusive partner, a needy family member, or a challenging work environment.
* Receiver: The protagonist's inner self, which is being neglected and damaged by their codependency.
* Helper: A therapist, friend, or support group that helps the protagonist recognize their codependency and begin to break free from its grip.
* Opponent: The protagonist's fear of being alone or rejected, which keeps them trapped in their codependent behavior.
* Object: The goal of self-love and self-care, which the protagonist is striving to achieve through their journey.
By exploring codependency through a narrative program, we can gain insight into the complex dynamics of this condition and the difficult journey towards healing and self-empowerment.
A Greimasian analysis of codependency might look something like this:
* Actantial model: The codependent individual (subject) is driven by a desire to care for others (object), but this desire is complicated by their fear of abandonment or rejection (opponent). They may seek help from a therapist or support group (helper) to overcome their codependency and find a more balanced way of relating to others (receiver).
* Semiotic square: The semiotic square can be used to map out the contradictory and complementary relationships between different elements of the codependency narrative. For example, the desire to care for others (A) may be in tension with the fear of rejection (non-A), while the desire for independence (B) may be in tension with the fear of abandonment (non-B). The goal of therapy or self-development may be to reconcile these tensions and find a way to integrate all aspects of the individual's experience.
* Narrative program: The narrative program of codependency may involve a series of tests, struggles, and transformations as the individual learns to recognize and assert their own desires, set healthy boundaries, and build more balanced relationships.
----Codependency is a self-perpetuating machine. -- November 22, 2014 By Paul Colaianni 
== Rhizomata ==
Self-perpetuating machine; Virality; Viral behavior; Epidemic behavior
== References ==
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