Self-talk

Self-talk is a relatively universal human process.
"Using the IFS lens, you can understand the self dialogue on a deeper level."psychreg.org.If you still feel afraid then you’re still blended with the part. Dick Schwartz says it’s only safe to dialogue with a part when you’re unblended from it and in Self.
I think part of the issue with your approach is that you’re reassuring the part that it has nothing to be afraid of, which (even if true) can come across as condescending or dismissive to someone who’s in distress. What’s more helpful, in my experience, is to ask it about its fears, listen to them, and just affirm that yes, those things are really scary, and yes, it’s really difficult and painful to feel that scared and no one should have to feel that way. Just hold the part and affirm its emotions while also affirming that it doesn’t deserve to have to feel so scared. Often a part needs to feel totally affirmed and understood in order to feel able to unburden itself.reddit-
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Category:Psychology
Category:Behavior