Domination

As Benjamin (2004) showed, the alternative to intersubjective recognition and relating is complementarity: the sadomasochistic, domination-submission dynamic of “doer - done to.” Relating in this mode, each party insists on the supremacy of their own subjectivity, and each becomes locked in to the conviction that they are the victim of the other. In this situation, the one making the loudest, most intimidating accusations—in other words, the one who best imposes their “narcissistic egoism”—can dominate and control the other.-- Enter Ghosts: The Loss of Intersubjectivity in Clinical Work With Adult Children of Pathological Narcissists[1]-there was no context that made her contradiction reasonable either. it's pure domination, honestly.-
Narcissistic domination
Category:Psychology