Fetters

It would be near impossible to put a number on it, as we are typically unaware of exactly how many parts or facets of our mind are constantly functioning.
I will give a short description of the 10 Bhuddist fetters and how they relate to IFS parts.
The fetters can be seen as “tendencies of the mind”.
We can view them as parts as well. Protectors, firefighters, and managers.
None of which are true self, but all form coherently what we call “ourself”
False identities layered on top of one another creating who we think we are.
When in actuality, our true nature is none. Our true nature is compassion, love, and understanding.
----1. Self Image
The ways in which we refer to ourselves.
I am my body, I am not my body, I am selfish, I am honest, I am not worthy… etc
2. Doubt over imagined problems
Tendency to worry or doubt about problems our mind imagines.
Will I survive this pandemic, do I have cancer, did I leave the stove on, what will these people think of me, will I be successful, what will happen if_____…etc…
3. Rituals
The “If-thens”
If I go see my therapist everyday, then I will be happy. If I go to the gym and workout, people will like me. If I am really smart, people will want to know my knowledge. If I am good looking, I will have lots of friends
4. Seeking pleasure
Wanting to possess that which gives pleasure.
Eating food because it tastes good, watching TV because it makes you laugh, being around a girl because she makes you feel good, smoking weed because it feels great, eating ice cream because it’s delicious
5. Fixation of non pleasure
Tendency to fixate on that which caused us non pleasure. Fighting back.
he hurt my feelings so I’m never talking to him again, she made me feel sad so now I’m going to make her regret it, if you don’t believe me then I won’t say anything else to you
6. Pull towards form
The desired to be drawn to objects.
I like movies, I like computers, I want that car, I like collecting salt and pepper shakers, I love having clothes
7.Pull towards formless
The liking/wanting of something regardless of object.
I like collecting, I like having, I like watching, I like owning, etc…
8. Restlessness
The tendency of the mind to remain restless. Getting distracted.
watching tv but thinking of your ex, drinking a soda but thinking of the time as a kid when you were camping, writing a paper but thinking of what you’re going to eat later
9. Head held high
Tendency to fight back when life gets rough. To overcome and be the hero
My girlfriend broke up with me but I have all these other things going for me, I lost my job but I’ll find a better one, I feel alone but a great house and cool car, etc…
10. Ignorance
Our mind resisting any change of how it views itself, creating distractions to advert ourselves from changing how we see ourself.
anger, sex, lust, desire, adversion, power, proudness, lazy, self hatred, etc…
----The infinite capacity of our mind and the parts correlating within it, is vast.
Parts work intertwined with one another, protecting each other and keeping things in tact. (At least in tact to them)
However, our parts are not fully aware of who we are, or can become, so parts remained trapped in the past.
Unaware of true self energy, they remain as parts.
Separate, afraid, and protecting.
Through true self energy we can recognize, separate, and integrate all parts of ourself to become a whole being. Rather than being tied to wounded identities from the past.
----The descriptions of the fetters was a shortened and modified version of a post from a Reddit user Adivader. I can link full post if you want.
I have found many links between IFS and bhuddism. I feel they interconnect nicely and are helpful in areas where the other may lack"scumbagChilly · 15 hr. ago"
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Mindshare; Headmates; Mindparts; Parts of the mind; Mind person
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