Victim Mentality

If their point is that you have choices that you can't see, or that trauma has you feeling stuck in learned helplessness/hopelessness, then they can point specifically to those issues AND tell you how that awareness is empowering and can be used to make changes that are doable. Otherwise, this is nothing but a cut down, whether intentional or not.
This "victim mentality" term has negative connotations that are useless for most people, unless they find the term illuminating or empowering in some way.
It implies passivity at best and laziness at worst. It implies it's all our fault, completely ignoring the context that trauma therapy is all about. It implies thoughts or beliefs are everything, when trauma is much more complex than changing thoughts, or even beliefs.My therapist called me having a victim mentality and I can't stop crying about it : r/CPTSD (reddit.com)
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