Intergender friendship

This is how I see it: In a friendship where at least one person is potentially sexually compatible (straight, gay, whatever), whichever side sees the other as compatible will experience strain in the relationship. If both sides feel sexually compatible, then both will experience strain. That strain can be tiny, or it can be large enough to bring people together or force friends apart. I have an 80% male friend group, and it's worked out. Over the years, some of them had crushes on me. Most "got over it", as in healthily accepted and coped with the strain until it naturally reduced somewhat, or we had to part ways. One of those friends became my husband.My mom says women and men can't truly be friends. I think this idea is typically held by people who find all of a sex or gender somewhat potentially compatible (ex. a man who sees all women as attractive enough to have sex with, or a woman who is willing to date someone, anyone regardless of who they are). Not everyone is like this. People who are naturally attracted to a narrower range of people and people who are attracted to a wider range of people often don't know that the other kind of person exists. So they assume everyone is like them, which can lead to awkward situations.-- princessbubbbles1 hour agohttps://www.reddit.com/r/Adulting/comments/mmfm5v/is_there_no_such_thing_as_opposite_gender_friends/
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