Shame

People with an intense experience of buried (often deliberately forgotten) shame manifest a deep sense of personal inadequacy in direct proportion to the intensity of the original experience of shame. [...] You can likely perceive the paradox at play - the more shame (or loathing) your husband holds onto and is reinforced by you & society about his attraction profile, the more the vice tightens. Shame will enhance the underlying source and can actually intensify the very sexual excitement and intrusive thoughts that the shaming is intended to eradicate.
----My self worth part eventually showed me a lot of memories that created her burden of low worth. Yours might have more to share with you, at the pace they are ready to do so.
I agree with others that shame comes from a part, not from Self. Shame is a burden. I have a Shame burden. Many of my parts share the shame burden.
"Ashamed" and "Shame" are not the same thing. We feel ashamed as a call to see what we did wrong, to make it right, and to do better in the future. Shame is not useful. It doesn't point to a thing we did wrong. It points to a belief that "I am bad" or "There's something wrong with me" or "Everything is my fault". It isn't useful because of two things--- one, it doesn't point to a thing we can atone for, and Two, it is a disconnect, an untrue belief formed when something intolerable made us choose to believe we were bad, because we so desperately needed to find a meaning for something (like abuse or neglect) which had no meaning--- no basis--- because it was done from a dysfunction.badmonkey247, rddt
----Media
# PODCAST EPISODE Brené on Shame and Accountability Unlocking Us with Brené Brown
== Rhizomata ==
* Feeling; Emotion; Guilt
* Experts: Brené Brown
* Dislike