Narcissist sad life

In all actuality, they are not pretending, they victimize themselves. They suffer from , not developing empathy , being unable to embrace being loved, and from not being able to feel true soft love for another. In there life they torment themselves as much as they torment those they abuse. They suffer from the inability to share true love, trust, or friendship with others.
They tend to make their victims miserable to the point of torture. They make themselves miserable and feel tortured because they can not trust or believe others could love them, unless that person is used, put under their control, manipulated with lies and made to feel sorry for them. It is sad to be the victim of self torture believing that not being in control of everything makes them worthless.
I feel sorry for them and would help them change if I could. I’ve learned that changing a narcissist is almost impossible. They can not change because they trust no one including themselves. They will live their life being victimized by themselves.