Narcissist caretaker

Ns project a lot of their own insecurities or flaws onto a scapegoat that they have picked. So their behavior is really a reflection of how shitty they are as a human being. They simply can't STAND the thought that they are anything less than perfect and if anyone tries to hold them accountable, they will DARVO or project their own bad behavior in order to avoid it.
NParents, particularly, choose a scapegoat to blame for the dysfunction that THEY (Ns) are creating. If you're the unfortunate scapegoat, it is the Ns's desire to make you hate yourself so THEY don't have to hate THEMSELVES.
[–]messedupbeyondbelief 6 points 3 years agoWhy does a narc make you hate yourself? : raisedbynarcissists (reddit.com)–------
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