Reciprocity

Reciprocity must … be preserved as a condition of conceiving the ethical relationship, in which, as Bernstein (1992) says, both self and other “stand under the reciprocal obligation to seek to transcend their narcissistic egoism.” For “without a mutual recognition of the Aufgabe [task/obligation] of searching for the commonalities and precise points of difference, without a self-conscious sensitivity of the need always to do justice to the other’s singularity…we are in danger of obliterating the radical plurality of the human condition” (75). (p. 100)
Relational narcissism