Virginity

The loss of virginity can be viewed as a milestone to be proud of or as a failure to be ashamed of (particularly if a lack of self control was involved), depending on cultural perceptions. these perceptions were heavily influenced by perceived gender roles, such that for a male the association was more often with pride and for a female the association was more often with shame.However, today women feel pride about this not in western culture but in other countries too.
In Sikhism, sexual activity must occur only between married individuals for the purpose of producing children. Before marriage it is said to be a sin, as it is a pat of kaam(lust or sexual desire). If virginity is lost through masturbation it is also a sin due to impure thoughts. Virginity is an important aspect in Sikhism and must be guarded before marriage.
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ਖਿੰਥਾ ਕਾਲੁ ਕੁਆਰੀ ਕਾਇਆ ਜੁਗਤਿ ਡੰਡਾ ਪਰਤੀਤਿ ॥
Let the remembrance of death be the patched coat you wear, let the purity of virginity be your way in the world, and let faith in the Lord be your walking stick.
Guru Nanak DevThe above quote from Guru Nanak says that to get the god not to become a sanyasi or Yogi : one should make contentment your ear-rings, humility your begging bowl, and meditation the ashes you apply to your body. Let the remembrance of death be the patched coat you wear, let the purity of virginity be your way in the world, and let faith in the Lord be your walking stick. The guru informs mankind of the importance of the purity of virginity here.
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ਕੁਆਰ ਕੰਨਿਆ ਜੈਸੇ ਕਰਤ ਸੀਗਾਰਾ ॥ ਕਿਉ ਰਲੀਆ ਮਾਨੈ ਬਾਝੁ ਭਤਾਰਾ ॥੩॥
I decorate myself like a young virgin; but how can I enjoy pleasures, without my Husband Lord?
Devotee Kabir
Here Devotee Kabir expresses the spiritual pleasure with unity of God here one logic also plays a role that a female decorate herself for making husband happily physically but what about the lord husband?. Husband Lord can get only through Naam as it is said ਲਾਲੁ ਰਗੀਲਾ ਸਹਜੇ ਪਾਇਓ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਬਚਨਿ ਲਹੋ ॥੧॥ i.e I have intuitively obtained my Darling Beloved. Through the Word of the True Guru's Teachings, I found Him.,So only through his remembrance when you decorate yourself as above line Guru Nanak says you will get definately that true god you can see how the lines are interrelated.
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ਕੁਆਰ ਕੰਨਿਆ ਜੈਸੇ ਸੰਗਿ ਸਹੇਰੀ ਪ੍ਰਿਅ ਬਚਨ ਉਪਹਾਸ ਕਹੋ ॥ ਜਉ ਸੁਰਿਜਨੁ ਗ੍ਰਿਹ ਭੀਤਰਿ ਆਇਓ ਤਬ ਮੁਖੁ ਕਾਜਿ ਲਜੋ ॥੧॥
The virgin speaks with her friends about her husband and they laugh together;but when he comes home, she becomes shy, and modestly covers her face. ||1||
Guru Arjan DevHere Guru Arjun Dev jee says about a virgin girls attitude that she comes before her husband or fiance she becomes shy and at his back she talk about him with her freinds and laugh
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ਜਾਂ ਚੈ ਘਰਿ ਲਛਿਮੀ ਕੁਆਰੀ ਚੰਦੁ ਸੂਰਜੁ ਦੀਵੜੇ ਕਉਤਕੁ ਕਾਲੁ ਬਪੁੜਾ ਕੋਟਵਾਲੁ ਸੁ ਕਰਾ ਸਿਰੀ ॥
In His Home, the virgin Lakshmi dwells. The moon and the sun are His two lamps; the wretched Messenger of Death stages his dramas, and levies taxes on all.
Devotee Namdev
Here virgin means that Lakshmi is always young and her youthfulness never ends this word dedicated only to lakshmi by Bhagat Namdev
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ਜਾਂ ਕੁਆਰੀ ਤਾ ਚਾਉ ਵੀਵਾਹੀ ਤਾਂ ਮਾਮਲੇ ॥
When she is a virgin, she is full of desire; but when she is married, then her troubles begin.
ਫਰੀਦਾ ਏਹੋ ਪਛੋਤਾਉ ਵਤਿ ਕੁਆਰੀ ਨ ਥੀਐ ॥੬੩॥
फरीदा एहो पछोताउ वति कुआरी न थीऐ ॥६३॥
Farīḏā ėho pacẖẖoṯāo vaṯ kuārī na thīai. ||63||
Fareed, she has this one regret, that she cannot be a virgin again. ||63||
Sekh Farid
This tells the thinking of a girl when she thinkns about marriage and all socialbazi moh maya etc. and when she get married she have to follow his husband and remains under feet of husband. One thing is this is quote of sheikh fareed who was a muslima nd he knows how muslim deals with women. But in sikhism both are equal and the same thing is happening is sikhism which is not acceptable at all so by giving this theory of women slave of husband and her feelings to regret on the decesion and dreams of marriage. This all happens worldly but in god world this is not happens. Here also Bhaga fareed supprots that when she was virgin she was happy.
It doesnot means that one not have to marry and remain virgin. Its clear from above discussion thatnot to become a whore or not make anyone a whore.
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