Feeling safe

It’s weird, right. For some people, “feeling safe” means feeling like your protections are strong enough that you don’t have to even consider that they might be overwhelmed in the current situation. And for other people, “feeling safe” means feeling like there’s no reason to have any protections at all. It is my understanding that these two experiences are opposites. And thus if someone is asking you to imagine one of them, but you have no experience with it so you’re imagining the other, then everything that comes after that will be fruitless, at best.What do you do when you can’t find Self?