Eilistraee

I think she’s an interesting and thoughtfully developed character/deity. She has a strong sense of agency. Despite loss and hardship she strives to exemplify truth, beauty and creativity. She’s always believed in her people seeking a peaceful future for them, alongside the other races of Faerun.
-- IronBeagle631y agoWhy do you like Eilistraee? : r/Forgotten_Realms (reddit.com)
Most gods are hypocrites that help their worshipers in order to gain power. Eilistraee doesn't care about power, she is willing to sacrifice herself for the things that she believes in, she wants the drow to live in harmony with the other races, not because it will expand her influence but because it is the right thing to do. She is your cheerleader and personal trainer, psychiatrist and mother all in one package.
-- bozo116•1y ago
)*Starlights and Shadows*, by Elaine Cunningham, is a really good series featuring Eilistraee. Eilistraee's meant to be an empowering and nurturing figure for the drow. She strives to watch over them in all the important or difficult moments of their lives, to confort them when they feel lost, to protect them when in dire situation, and, overall, to help them forge their own path in life. However, she's also very subtle and delicate, and does all she can to avoid forcing a choice on the drow, because she wants them to be free to choose that path. Starlights and Shadows captures that aspect of Eilistraee's character in her relationship with the protagonist.
It also does a good job at painting Eilistraee's society, which is meant to be a matriarchy, but a foil to Lolth's "women in power=bad" thingy. In fact, Eilistraeans are a nurturing matriarchy, that empowers its people to find their happiness, and rewards freedom of expression and creativity. Priestesses act as teachers, diplomats, artists, and protectresses, who help ALL drow--male and female alike--thrive and prosper, who lift them up, and who give them a family and sense of belonging. Sure, there are some Eilistraeans, mostly converts (not those born in the society), that still have their Lolthite imprinting and will act sexist, aggressive, jumpy etc... but that's natural, and doesn't change that the *majority* of Eilistraeans reflect what I said above.
4)Evermeet: Island of Elves, also by Elaine Cunningham, is a novel that has info on her origin story and that of the drow pantheon. It includes a section that shows Eilistraee's choice to give up on the luxury and safety she could have had in Arvandor and choose to instead be with the drow, in order to be by their side in the times of need that she had foreseen and despite her fear of the path that awaited her.Books pertaining to the Drow goddess - Eilistraee : r/DnD (reddit.com)
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