GPT-OSS Flash Attention and memory-efficient attention via Native PyTorch SDPA
Author: markrogersjr
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Adds support for native PyTorch SDPA for GPT-OSS, including Flash Attention and memory-efficient attention.


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Models:

- text models: @ArthurZucker @Cyrilvallez
- vision models: @yonigozlan @molbap
- audio models: @eustlb @ebezzam @vasqu
- multimodal models: @zucchini-nlp
- graph models: @clefourrier

Library:

- generate: @zucchini-nlp (visual-language models) or @gante (all others)
- continuous batching: @remi-or @ArthurZucker @McPatate
- pipelines: @Rocketknight1
- tokenizers: @ArthurZucker and @itazap
- trainer: @SunMarc
- attention: @vasqu @ArthurZucker @CyrilVallez
- model loading (from pretrained, etc): @CyrilVallez
- distributed: @3outeille @ArthurZucker
- CIs: @ydshieh

Integrations:

- ray/raytune: @richardliaw, @amogkam
- Big Model Inference: @SunMarc
- quantization: @SunMarc @MekkCyber
- kernels: @MekkCyber @drbh
- peft: @BenjaminBossan @githubnemo

Devices/Backends:

- AMD ROCm: @ivarflakstad
- Intel XPU: @IlyasMoutawwakil
- Ascend NPU: @ivarflakstad 

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Comments:
**[For maintainers]** Suggested jobs to run (before merge)

run-slow: gpt_oss