[s2s] support early stopping based on loss, rather than rouge
Author: sshleifer
Pull request: yes

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# [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#6927](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/commit/207ed8cb78ceb4980e40c89f867b06202e660395?el=desc) will **decrease** coverage by `3.98%`.
> The diff coverage is `n/a`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&height=150&src=pr&token=9qOlN6Hb1c)](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
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##           master    #6927      +/-   ##
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- Coverage   80.60%   76.61%   -3.99%     
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  Files         161      161              
  Lines       30119    30119              
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- Hits        24278    23077    -1201     
- Misses       5841     7042    +1201     
```


| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [src/transformers/configuration\_reformer.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9jb25maWd1cmF0aW9uX3JlZm9ybWVyLnB5) | `21.62% <0.00%> (-78.38%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/modeling\_reformer.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9tb2RlbGluZ19yZWZvcm1lci5weQ==) | `16.87% <0.00%> (-77.64%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/modeling\_tf\_mobilebert.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9tb2RlbGluZ190Zl9tb2JpbGViZXJ0LnB5) | `24.55% <0.00%> (-72.36%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/configuration\_mobilebert.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9jb25maWd1cmF0aW9uX21vYmlsZWJlcnQucHk=) | `26.47% <0.00%> (-70.59%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/modeling\_mobilebert.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9tb2RlbGluZ19tb2JpbGViZXJ0LnB5) | `23.49% <0.00%> (-65.97%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/tokenization\_xlnet.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy90b2tlbml6YXRpb25feGxuZXQucHk=) | `66.66% <0.00%> (-23.43%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/modeling\_transfo\_xl\_utilities.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9tb2RlbGluZ190cmFuc2ZvX3hsX3V0aWxpdGllcy5weQ==) | `52.98% <0.00%> (-13.44%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/modeling\_transfo\_xl.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9tb2RlbGluZ190cmFuc2ZvX3hsLnB5) | `67.10% <0.00%> (-12.67%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/tokenization\_auto.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy90b2tlbml6YXRpb25fYXV0by5weQ==) | `95.65% <0.00%> (-2.18%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [src/transformers/configuration\_utils.py](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-c3JjL3RyYW5zZm9ybWVycy9jb25maWd1cmF0aW9uX3V0aWxzLnB5) | `95.97% <0.00%> (-0.68%)` | :arrow_down: |
| ... and [10 more](https://codecov.io/gh/huggingface/transformers/pull/6927/diff?src=pr&el=tree-more) | |

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