per_device instead of per_gpu/error thrown when argument unknown
Author: LysandreJik
Pull request: yes

Modified the trainer argument so that `per_device_train_batch_size` and `per_device_eval_batch_size` are preferred over `per_gpu_*`.

`per_gpu_*` still works when `per_device_*` isn't used, but is deprecated.

The trainer argument parser now throws an error if an argument is unknown, only if the `return_remaining_strings` flag is kept to `False`. 

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