Faster  folder based builder + parquet support + allow repeated media + use torchvideo

This will be useful for LeRobotDataset (robotics datasets for [lerobot](https://github.com/huggingface/lerobot) based on videos)

Impacted builders:
- ImageFolder
- AudioFolder
- VideoFolder

Improvements:
- faster to stream (got a 5x speed up on an image dataset)
- improved RAM usage
- support for metadata.parquet
- allow to link to an image/audio/video multiple times
- support for pyarrow filters (mostly efficient for parquet)
- link to files using fields names `*_file_name` (in addition to the already existing `file_name`)
  - this allows to have multiple image/audio/video per row
  - there is also `file_names` and `*_file_names` for lists of image/audio/video

Changes:
- the builders iterate on the metadata files instead of the media files
- the builders iterate on chunks of metadata instead of loading them in RAM completely
- metadata files are no longer handled separately in `data_files`
- added the `filters` argument to pass to `load_dataset`
  - either as an [Expression](https://arrow.apache.org/docs/python/generated/pyarrow.dataset.Expression.html)
  - or as tuples like `filters=[('event_name', '=', 'SomeEvent')]`
- small breaking change: you can't add labels to a dataset with`drop_labels=False` if it has a metadata file
- small breaking change: you can't use one metadata file for multiple splits anymore

Example: `lhoestq/pusht-videofolder` is a video dataset with metadata.parquet where multiple rows can point to the same video

```python
In [1]: from datasets import load_dataset

In [2]: load_dataset("lhoestq/pusht-videofolder")
Resolving data files: 100%|██████████████████████████████| 207/207 [00:00<00:00, 1087.32it/s]
Out[2]: 
DatasetDict({
    train: Dataset({
        features: ['video', 'observation.state', 'action', 'episode_index', 'frame_index', 'timestamp', 'next.reward', 'next.done', 'next.success', 'index', 'task_index'],
        num_rows: 25650
    })
})

In [3]: load_dataset("lhoestq/pusht-videofolder", filters=[("next.reward", ">", 0.5)])
Resolving data files: 100%|██████████████████████████████| 207/207 [00:01<00:00, 183.03it/s]
Out[3]: 
DatasetDict({
    train: Dataset({
        features: ['video', 'observation.state', 'action', 'episode_index', 'frame_index', 'timestamp', 'next.reward', 'next.done', 'next.success', 'index', 'task_index'],
        num_rows: 5773
    })
})
```

Additional change for VideoFolder:
- decord can't be installed in many setups, I switched the backend to torchvision instead
- I also added streaming capability from HF (you can get video frames without downloading the full video from HF)

Example: load a robotics dataset

```python
In [1]: from datasets import load_dataset
ds
In [2]: ds = load_dataset("lhoestq/pusht-videofolder")
Resolving data files: 100%|██████████████████████████████| 207/207 [00:00<00:00, 624.81it/s]

In [3]: ds["train"][0]
Out[3]: 
{'video': <torchvision.io.video_reader.VideoReader at 0x1145dc290>,
 'observation.state': [222.0, 97.0],
 'action': [233.0, 71.0],
 'episode_index': 0,
 'frame_index': 0,
 'timestamp': 0.0,
 'next.reward': 0.19029748439788818,
 'next.done': False,
 'next.success': False,
 'index': 0,
 'task_index': 0}
```

Example: stream frames without downloading full videos

```python
In [1]: from datasets import load_dataset

In [2]: ds = load_dataset("BrianGuo/Tennis_Data", streaming=True)

In [3]: example = next(iter(ds["train"]))

In [4]: video = example["video"]

In [5]: video.get_metadata()
Out[5]: 
{'audio': {'framerate': [44100.0], 'duration': [2027.35]},
 'video': {'fps': [59.00002712894387], 'duration': [2027.355]}}

In [6]: video.seek(1800, keyframes_only=True)  # 30min
Out[6]: <torchvision.io.video_reader.VideoReader at 0x148d4d010>

In [7]: next(video)
Out[7]: 
{'data': tensor([[[ 76,  77,  79,  ...,  41,  39,  38],
          [ 76,  77,  79,  ...,  40,  39,  35],
          [ 76,  77,  79,  ...,  34,  30,  26],
          ...,
          [127, 127, 127,  ..., 125, 125, 125],
          [125, 126, 126,  ..., 125, 125, 125],
          [122, 124, 126,  ..., 125, 125, 125]]], dtype=torch.uint8),
 'pts': 1800.0}
```

TODO:
- [x] docs
- [x] fix tests


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