text: 165,184,1324775339545882624,1028632965121626114,Jiaxin Pei,"Excited to share my #emnlp2020 paper with @david__jurgens. We build an NLP model to estimate intimacy in language and study social norms in interpersonal communications Paper: <LINK> Pip: <LINK> Model @huggingface: <LINK> 1/11 We build a new model to quantify the intimacy of questions and examine social norms in interpersonal communications in a variety of settings: How do these norms shape the way we communicate with each other? 2/11 One famous example from Psychology of a social norm around intimacy is who you can ask an intimate question to. Close friends are fine—but so are strangers! The low social cost of potentially offending a stranger means you can engage in a more intimate discussion. 3/11 But acquaintances are in this middle ground; if you get too intimate and they get offended, they know people you know, which could have a real cost. 4/11 There are plenty of friends, acquaintances, and strangers online. Do we see the same trend there? Yes! In fact, using a 1.1B edge social network on Twitter, we see people are highly sensitive to social distance in their level of question intimacy. 5/11 <LINK> What about gender norms around intimacy communication? Across books, movies, and social media, we consistently find that male-male interactions are the least intimate. 6/11 <LINK> Looking at book author’s gender, surprisingly, we also see these norms be upheld by women authors too, underscoring how ingrained these social expectations are! 7/11 <LINK> Could all of these differences be due to the topic? Actually, no! While topic is moderately correlated with intimacy, questions about a topic often fall along a broad range of the intimacy spectrum. 8/11 <LINK> The paper has more fun results on the effects of anonymity on intimacy and different linguistic strategies people use in phrasing their questions. 9/11 As a fun teaser, would swearing make a question more or less intimate—and why? Theory and answers in the paper! 10/11 The website for the paper has a longer summary of results and more details on how you can get the data and python libraries to do your own studies of intimacy. <LINK> 11/11",https://arxiv.org/abs/2011.03020,"Intimacy is a fundamental aspect of how we relate to others in social settings. Language encodes the social information of intimacy through both topics and other more subtle cues (such as linguistic hedging and swearing). Here, we introduce a new computational framework for studying expressions of the intimacy in language with an accompanying dataset and deep learning model for accurately predicting the intimacy level of questions (Pearson's r=0.87). Through analyzing a dataset of 80.5M questions across social media, books, and films, we show that individuals employ interpersonal pragmatic moves in their language to align their intimacy with social settings. Then, in three studies, we further demonstrate how individuals modulate their intimacy to match social norms around gender, social distance, and audience, each validating key findings from studies in social psychology. Our work demonstrates that intimacy is a pervasive and impactful social dimension of language. ",Quantifying Intimacy in Language,11,"['Excited to share my #emnlp2020 paper with @david__jurgens. We build an NLP model to estimate intimacy in language and study social norms in interpersonal communications\nPaper: <LINK>\nPip: <LINK>\nModel @huggingface: <LINK>\n1/11', 'We build a new model to quantify the intimacy of questions and examine social norms in interpersonal communications in a variety of settings: How do these norms shape the way we communicate with each other? 2/11', 'One famous example from Psychology of a social norm around intimacy is who you can ask an intimate question to. Close friends are fine—but so are strangers! The low social cost of potentially offending a stranger means you can engage in a more intimate discussion. 3/11', 'But acquaintances are in this middle ground; if you get too intimate and they get offended, they know people you know, which could have a real cost. 4/11', 'There are plenty of friends, acquaintances, and strangers online. Do we see the same trend there? Yes! In fact, using a 1.1B edge social network on Twitter, we see people are highly sensitive to social distance in their level of question intimacy. 5/11 https://t.co/2vIhwBQFsK', 'What about gender norms around intimacy communication? Across books, movies, and social media, we consistently find that male-male interactions are the least intimate. 6/11 https://t.co/r48ApCijAF', 'Looking at book author’s gender, surprisingly, we also see these norms be upheld by women authors too, underscoring how ingrained these social expectations are! 7/11 https://t.co/NKRspkC25i', 'Could all of these differences be due to the topic? Actually, no! While topic is moderately correlated with intimacy, questions about a topic often fall along a broad range of the intimacy spectrum. 8/11 https://t.co/tYNeFfNzsy', 'The paper has more fun results on the effects of anonymity on intimacy and different linguistic strategies people use in phrasing their questions. 9/11', 'As a fun teaser, would swearing make a question more or less intimate—and why? Theory and answers in the paper! 10/11', 'The website for the paper has a longer summary of results and more details on how you can get the data and python libraries to do your own studies of intimacy.  https://t.co/CGIjsj41It \n11/11']",20,11,2129