Topic: depression

Question: Can I change my feeling of being worthless to everyone?
I'm going through some things with my feelings and myself. I barely sleep and I do nothing but think about how I'm worthless and how I shouldn't be here.
   I've never tried or contemplated suicide. I've always wanted to fix my issues, but I never get around to it.
   How can I change my feeling of being worthless to everyone?

Answer (from Bill LeavittOffering you help in dealing with Anxiety, Stress and Depression):
You have

several things going on here. The sleep should be addressed with a primary care

physician to rule out any physical issues. Sleep is the big reset and allows us

to function in the day. What happens during a depression is that our thoughts

race and it is as though our “brain won’t shut off.” Medication can help with

this. I also use a Pranayama yoga breathing technique called the four

fold breath which has great usefulness for relaxing us  and often does work quite well with allowing

us to sleep.. You can read about it here:    https://billleavitttherapy.com/breathing-techniques-the-four-fold-breath/Your

thoughts on feeling worthless to everyone fall under a heading of thinking

error in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) known as overgeneralization. In CBT

thoughts lead to emotions, so we are going to pick the statement apart and then

reframe it. First list

the evidence that contradicts the thought. Has anyone in the past made positive

comments toward you? This might be hard to recall if we are in a rut, but at

some point in life we frequently have had some positives expressed towards us

by others.  “Everyone” is an absolute. The

specifics on why you are thinking this need to be addressed. How are you

arriving at this conclusion? There may be specific people that we want more

validation from. Or specific people might have made offhand hurtful comments, (such

as a family member, teacher or co-worker) but if I extrapolate that to a global

and think that everyone thinks I am worthless, that thought is not rooted in

facts.  
What are

the Pros and Cons of thinking this way? What are the Benefits and Costs? There

are very little pros or benefits to thinking this way. It’s just going to

continue to tear you down and make you feel bad. So can we reframe the thought

about the situation? Is there another way of looking at the situation? Again,

we need the specifics on how you are arriving at this conclusion, and a one on

one therapist can definitely help you with this, but the thinking that you are

using to arrive at the conclusion needs to be re-cast into a more helpful

mindset.

Answer (from Amelia Mora MarsHi, I'm Amelia. I help overwhelmed, stressed out teen girls and women find peace again.):
Hello, you sound like you have so much on your mind! I am relieved to hear that you have never tried or have contemplated suicide, but not being able to sleep, feeling worthless, and like you shouldn't be here are big issues that need addressing.Please get around to counseling.  Having someone to listen to you is a gift to yourself. You deserve the help of someone helping you change your feelings of worthlessness. You have not been able to do this alone. It's time to reach out for help.  You can do this! Best to you!

Answer (from Adriana DyurichCOUNSELING, WELLNESS, AND CONSULTING for for Moms, moms to be and their children):
You can, for sure... and the first step is to believe you are worthy TO YOURSELF. Recognizing you are in a quest is already a big first step. Taking the time to start figuring out who you are is definitely the next... do so with SELF COMPASSION and kindness. Know this is a process and just look forward for what you might find.  I do recommend you find someone to talk to (there are many options out there that can fit the situation you are in), and I also recommend you start by giving yourself the importance to invest some time and effort in this quest. YOU DESERVE IT. There are some excellent TED Talks you can google, great books you can read, or even joining a yoga practice, team or some kind of hobby may help. Anything that shows yourself you are worthy of this effort. Have patience and start!!!! the answer is out there waiting for you. Asking these questions already set you on the right path.

Answer (from Heather BradleyHelping you heal from trauma and live meaningful lives):
Oftentimes we can change our feelings about ourselves by building a better relationship with ourself.  It sounds like there is a very critical aspect of your self that is alive and taking over.  Sometimes when we are stuck it is because a part of ourselves, a way that perhaps we learned to cope with difficult situations earlier in our lives, has decided to run the show.  Like a highly critical part that may actually be desperately attempting to protect us from a past hurt. Slowing down and even forming a relationship with this critical internal part will help you get some space from it.  When we can begin to observe parts of ourselves, be curious about them, get to know them like a new friend, then we have room for other ways of being.  Beginning therapy could be a great way to change this feeling of worthlessness.  Beginning to build a better relationship and understanding of yourself will deeply influence the relationships around you.  This first step may feel hard, to reach out to someone, and it could be the beginning step to a path of radically shifting your relationship with yourself and others in your life.

Answer (from Grace BrooksCaring, Kind and Experienced):
Feelings of worthlessness often originate  from what you learned about yourself when you were young. Improving your self esteem needs focus on that original message from parents, teachers or siblings that may be suppressed.  Most of us need help to uncover the "lie" because you were born valuable!

Answer (from Debbie Gottlieb):
The feeling of being worthless is caused by your inside being not matching your outside result. Your comparison to others and you thinking you need to be someone other than who you are. You are not worthless. No one is worthless. You need to find your worth and not let yourself talk yourself out of the good you find in yourself. I hope these words resonate with you and that you start looking for your worth even if it’s as simple as I am able to get out of bed and call someone and make a joke.