Topic: depression

Question: My family says I have depression
I'm in my late teens and live with my dad. The only time I go out is for my college classes. Sometimes when I see my friends I want to talk with them, but sometimes I won't want to talk to them for days or even weeks.    Sometimes I feel i'm not worth knowing or i'm never going to do anything right.
   Are they right, am I depressed?

Answer (from Dr Traci KochendorferTime for you to " Claim IT" with over 15 years in health and wellness, Ph.D Psy.D D.D. F.P.L.C. recognized on TV and Magazines,):
Characterized by persistent sadness and a lack of interest or pleasure in previously rewarding or enjoyable activitiesYou're not alone. Globally, more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression - WHOFollowing could be potential causes of depression1. Family history. You’re at a higher risk for developing depression if you have a family history of depression.2. Early childhood trauma.3. Some events affect the way your body reacts to fear and stressful situations.4. Brain structure.5. Medical conditions.6. Drug use.Like I always state seeking to get physical and mental tests done then start a path in talk therapy

Answer (from Kellie Spear, LCMHC, LMFTCompassionate online support & encouragement ):
It is hard to make sense of the many different feelings and moods we have, especially during the teen years. I am sorry that you have been feeling like you are not worth knowing or that you do not do anything right. Those are hard feelings to have!  Added to the challenge is the current state of things related to COVID-19. Have you noticed an increase in these feelings during the stay at home mandates? If you felt this same way before all of the changes that have occurred over the past few months, how is it different (if at all) when you were able to go to classes and do things with friends? One way that helps me to understand what depression feels like is to imagine that you are wearing dark sunglasses all of the time; because they are always on they make everything that you look at appear darker. When sadness or a low mood is the norm and you cannot find things to get excited about or look forward to that is a good indication that it is time to seek professional help. There are many things that you can do to help lift your mood (exercise, eat healthy foods and drink, get adequate sleep, share your feelings with someone you can trust, decrease social media exposure, etc.), it is important to explore all of the options that are available to you. Seeking out counseling or talking to a doctor that knows you and your medical history well is a first step towards changing the feelings you described. If it is determined that you are experiencing depression there are options that will help you feel better. I hope this helps to give you hope that what you are feeling can improve. Once your mood lifts you will have the energy you need to combat the thoughts that say you are not worth knowing or that you cannot do anything right. There are great cognitive behavior therapy resources and counselors out there that can help you fight those thoughts and as you do you will learn the tools that will help you silence the thoughts that defeat you and tear you down.

Answer (from Kaileen McMickle, MS, LPCLicensed Professional Counselor):
Those are really heavy feelings to have, even if you don't meet the cookie-cutter criteria of depression.It seems like you are still pretty young and maybe have recently graduated?  It's normal in the late-teen development phase to have a lot of self-doubt about who you are and what you want in life.  There's so much pressure on people your age to figure out what you are supposed to be doing and it can be easy to criticize and compare yourself.  It's also common to feel like a sense of loss if your high school relationships have changed since going to college.  Maybe these things aren't happening for you, but if they are that's OK.  Many college students experience what you are going through and there are usually campus counseling services at reduced rates for students.  Right now with COVID-19, those may be via telehealth.What are your personal relationships in your life like?  You mention living with your dad--is he a support?  Is anyone else in your family supportive for you?  It's not clear what role your family plays in your life or depression, but it seems like they are noticing some concerns about your behavior.  If it seems like they are highlighting those out of concern, I wonder if they would also want to help you.  That's not always everyone's situation, but there are a lot of online support groups, counselors, and resources if you are feeling alone.Other ways to cope with depression (no matter how intense) is to exercise.  It's not a cure, but it has awesome benefits for the brain and has shown in studies to reduce anxiety and depression symptoms drastically.  Even something like walking can help.If you feel it's unmanageable, you can talk to your primary doctor about medications that could be right for you.  There are a lot out there developed for depressive symptoms that work pretty well for most people.Lastly, find some ways to show yourself that you are worthy!  Notice in your question that you said "sometimes"--what are those other times you feel worthy?  Or times that you feel you are doing things "right"?  Reframing that voice in your head can help as well--like maybe you are just doing the best you can with what you have.  Could that be true?  And that doesn't mean you don't make mistakes!  Mistakes are part of being human, and you can definitely cope with them.  Hope this helps!