Topic: workplace-relationships

Question: Why do I feel like I'm always wrong in everything in my relationship?
My wife is always accusing me of cheating and telling me that I'm doing things she finds disrespectful even when I don't mean it like that. For example, she gets offended when I call someone at work "sweetheart." I wish I had a penny for every time she accused me of cheating on her. She doesn't, and never will say she was wrong. How do I get her to understand?

Answer (from Dr. Meredyth LawrynceServing Clients Nationwide):
People often project their insecurities onto others.  Has she been cheated on prior to your
marriage, or has there been infidelity in the marriage? Would she seek therapy for her insecurities, and/or couple’s
therapy?
Also, something to consider is not to allow someone else’s
insecurities to become your insecurities. Do not allow their words to penetrate your psyche.  Your worth is not based on others’ estimations
of you. You may enjoy this video Self-Esteem & Worthiness Affirmations - Remember Your Worth and value

Answer (from Sherry Katz, LCSWCouples and Family Therapist, LCSW):
You may not get her to understand your point of view with any more success than your wife is having with you to do the same.It is possible you are a balanced couple in the sense of neither one of you understanding the other.The deeper question to ponder is whether each of you can accept the other person even though you each have very different terms for defining "cheating".You will find either there are enough strong similarities to keep the two of you happy as a couple, or there aren't these similarities.Then, the new question would be whether either of you want to address your findings or not.