Amanda Grayson ( alternate reality ) Amanda Grayson was a Human teacher from Earth born around the turn of the 23rd century . ( ) During the early 2230s , Amanda met , the Vulcan Ambassador to Earth . The two later married , and she returned to with Sarek . ( ) In 2230 , Amanda gave birth to her only son , . In the 2240s , Spock got into a fight with another Vulcan child at the Vulcan Learning Center when he referred to Spock ' s mother as a " Human whore . " Around 2249 , when Spock was considering completing the " kolinahr " discipline , which would have purged the last vestiges of his emotions , he expressed his wish that Amanda not consider his choice to live a life free from emotion as a reflection upon her . Amanda assured her son that no matter what he chose , she would always be proud of him . Spock ultimately decided to enroll in Starfleet Academy rather than the Vulcan Science Academy after the head minister of the Vulcan Council referred to Spock ' s mother as a " disadvantage " . In 2258 , was attacked by the Romulan mining vessel " Narada " . Attempting to preserve the knowledge of the Vulcan culture , Sarek , Amanda , and the Vulcan Council went into the Katric ark , making evacuation by transporter impossible . Spock beamed down to the surface and evacuated them from the ark so that they could be beamed aboard the . As the transporter was initiated , the ledge beneath Amanda collapsed , preventing a viable transporter lock , and Amanda was lost . Following Amanda ' s death , Spock gifted a Vulcan amulet she had owned , which was made of vokaya , to . After Spock ended their relationship , Uhura tried to return the amulet but Spock refused . Spock was later able to use the amulet to track Uhura and the captured " Enterprise " crewmembers on Altamid . ( ) Appendices . Background information . Amanda Grayson was portrayed by Winona Ryder . Additional scenes featuring Amanda were shot for the film , but cut before the final release . One such scene features Amanda and Sarek ( predating Nero ' s incursion , Ryder and Ben Cross were actually playing Jane Wyatt and Mark Lenard ' s " prime " characters ) , together with the newborn Spock . Another involves Amanda arguing with Sarek about the boyhood Spock and how he should react to bullying , after he has been involved in a fight with another Vulcan boy . Though Amanda at one point admits she wants Spock to embrace being Vulcan , she is of the opinion he should , every now and then , do the " Human " thing by occasionally walking away from conflict . Frustrated with Sarek , she goes on to do precisely that . The writers expected that , because Spock was to lose his mother later in the film , writing Amanda into a lot of the early scenes of the movie would increase the impact of that loss . According to Producer Damon Lindelof , however , the writing team actually found the opposite turned out to be true . ( " Amanda and Sarek Argue After Spock Fights " audio commentary , DVD / / " " Blu - ray special features ) One reason why the writers decided to have Amanda die in the film " Star Trek " was that their depiction of the friendship between Kirk and Spock was inspired by that between Paul McCartney and John Lennon , both of whom suffered through the death of a parent in childhood ( Kirk loses his father , , in the film ) . In the film ' s script but not the final version of the movie , Amanda ' s final words were to tell Spock , " " " It ' s okay . To be scared . " " Spock ' s memory of her , immediately after her death , was referred to in the script as " the ghostly image of her – beautiful , holding , frozen in space – an image he ' ll be haunted by forever – as it fades away , evanescing like mist . " Concerning Ryder ' s performance as Amanda Grayson , Spock actor Zachary Quinto once stated , " " Winona brought a real tenderness to the role and she really highlights the juxtaposition between her heartfelt way of being and Sarek ' s logic . " "