Resist the need to make important judgments right now. Accept that there will be days when you don't want to get out of bed with him, as well as days when you can't stop sobbing. 3. You will examine his phone. A great deal. Trust me when I say that it takes a long time to reestablish trust. He may try to convince you that he has changed for the better, but he hasn't. If anything, he's even more likely to hurt you again. Consider how you would feel if someone you had wronged got away with it without any consequences. You'd be furious at first, but in time, you might just let it go. You'll have to work through your feelings about what he did. But unless you learn from his actions, you won't be able to move on. And that's exactly what he wants. He's trying to wear you down by making you feel inadequate and guilty. That way, you'll keep forgiving him over and over again. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you know what's best for you. But only you can decide how you want to react to this situation. It's not what I would do in your shoes, but that doesn't mean it isn't right for you. Follow your heart. Do what makes you happy.