If you are trying to get out of a controlling relationship with an intimate partner, it's important to first assess your safety. If the controlling behavior comes to a point in which you feel fearful, threatened, or intimidated, you may be dealing with abuse. If so, it's important that you carefully plan your departure with support from others. You can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help. They are available 24/7 at 800-799-SAFE (7233) or live online at thehotline.org.