Assertiveness is a skill and being assertive means being able to stand up for your own or other people’s rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive, or passively accepting ‘wrong’ and having the strength and full right to say “no”. Individuals are able to get their point across without upsetting others, or becoming upset.  Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain with oneself or the task in hand. When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more “self-confident” because one is worrying far less about failure or the disapproval of others following potential failure. One is then more likely to focus on the actual situation which means that enjoyment and success in that situation is also more probable. Belief in one’s abilities to perform an activity comes through successful experience of both assertiveness and confidence.