Working in a happy, healthy marriage does not seem like labor in the traditional sense of a duty or a to-do list. However, taking the time to listen, organizing quality time, valuing each other, and communicating feelings are all worthwhile investments. Accept that no one, not even you, has a monopoly on the truth! Accept disagreement as a necessary aspect of any relationship and as a source of life learning. 3. Recognize that your spouse has a valid point of view. Inquire about it! Take note of it! 4, Find a shared dream and make it a reality.