The story is that despite all the rumbling to the contrary, suggesting open-mindedness, it’s not cool. We’ll stay away from a political-sexual manifesto. Suffice to say same-sex handholding may not go over well in parts of Italy. Cities are easier, but not always. It’s still testosterone driven. Being judgmental can be seen as quaint. Your best bet is to keep your intimacy to yourself. If you don’t wish to, that’s fine too. But we can’t vouchsafe disinterested understanding, much as we’d like to.