This is very common; your mother or father have been independent their whole adult lives and having a caregiver can make them feel like they are losing their independence. We find it helpful to include them in the decision-making process. For example, ask them if they prefer a male or a female caregiver. Ask them if they prefer the caregiver to start at 8:00AM or 9:00AM. Start with shorter shifts to let them become accustomed to home care. We find that after an initial adjustment period, the caregiver becomes a part of the family.