A recovered codependent, like a recovering addict, requires a great lot of support and aid, whether through their own 12-Step program such as Al-Anon, professional help, or both. Those closest to the addict are frequently just as sick (or sicker in their own way) as their addicted loved one. It's not easy being around someone who is actively trying to destroy themselves. Al-Anon has three basic principles: 1 You are not alone. 2 You are responsible for your own recovery. 3 Self-help is essential. These groups are not drug or alcohol treatment programs and they don't provide therapy sessions or other services that address the emotional issues surrounding addiction. However, members do share experiences and resources which can be very helpful. Al-Anon meetings are open to family members and friends of alcoholics. They're not meant to judge or criticize, but to provide support and encouragement for those who have lost all contact with an alcoholic. Participants discuss the disease of alcoholism and its effects on others. They learn how to identify symptoms of addiction in themselves and others. And most importantly, they work on improving their personal recovery skills. Codependents feel responsible for the actions of people they love. We try to fix what we think is wrong with them or give them advice on how to change for the better.