Choosing someone to make health care choices for you may be difficult. The person that may best support your wishes may not be your spouse or close family member. Your family may be too stressed to make good life-saving or end-of-life choices for you. You need to select someone who understands your preferences and one who is steady enough to resist family pressure if needed. To make the task of choosing even more difficult, you need to select two agents, in case one is not available.
When you have a few names selected, discuss with each of them the responsibilities of a health care proxy and your wishes. After the conversation, choose the two that best understand your wishes who are also willing to take on the obligation.