Co-Dependents Anonymous is a 12-step program, so along with the 12 steps and 12 traditions, the program provides 12 promises that members can begin seeing fall into place as they begin making an honest effort to work the program. 1. I know a new sense of belonging. The feeling of emptiness and loneliness will disappear. 2. I am no longer controlled by my fears. I overcome my fears and act with courage, integrity and dignity. 3. I know a new freedom. 4. I release myself from worry, guilt, and regret about my past and present. I am aware enough not to repeat it. 5. I know a new love and acceptance of myself and others. I feel genuinely lovable, loving and loved. 6. I learn to see myself equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners. 7. I am capable of developing and maintaining healthy and loving relationships. The need to control and manipulate others will disappear as I learn to trust those who are trustworthy. 8. I learn that it is possible to mend - to become more loving, intimate and supportive. I have the choice of communicating with my family in a way which is safe for me and respectful of them. 9. I acknowledge that I am a unique and precious creation. 10. I no longer need to rely solely on others to provide my sense of worth. 12. I trust the guidance I receive from my higher power and come to believe in my own capabilities. 13. I gradually experience serenity, strength and spiritual growth in my daily life.