Whatever is agreed upon by you and the birth parent(s). It is common for birth parents to want to speak to the prospective adoptive parents on the phone, exchange letters and/or meet at lunch or the time of placement. Almost always, this face-to-face contact is limited to pre-birth and the hospital period, although some birth mothers request a baby dedication or one-time meeting shortly after birth. On-going contact after adoption through pictures and letters is required for a minimum of five years (unless waived by both parties) and in many cases, birth parents request eighteen years. This is done confidentially through the agency or Child Connect, so identifying information is not exchanged.