Use names and pronouns that fit their stated preference and gender. Do not make assumptions, such as about their sexual orientation or that they must be pursuing hormonal or surgical treatments. Learn about trans identity from books, organizations, or trusted websites, and ask questions of a friend or loved on with an open mind. If you are struggling with your own feelings about a partner, parent, child, or close friend expressing a different gender identity, don’t feel ashamed or guilty about it, but do seek support from a mental health professional to help you take steps to maintain your strong relationship.