When you wish to get married, don't call the church with simply a rough concept. Choose the day and time of day for your wedding. Choose a backup date as well, so that if the church is already booked, you may still use it on another date of your choosing. Discuss who you want to be your officiant. If you can't find one, or prefer someone else, let the church know early in the process so they can make arrangements. Asking the church to marry you is simple enough. You will need to contact the pastor or priest of your local church to let them know that you would like to get married at their place of worship. They will then work with you to choose a date that works with your schedule as well as theirs. You will also need to let them know about any special requirements for the wedding ceremony (e.g., no cameras allowed), as well as how you would like them to address you during the marriage ceremony (e.g., as "Mr." or "Mrs."). Once you have contacted the pastor or priest of your local church, you will need to follow up by sending them a formal letter requesting permission to marry you. In this letter, you will need to explain why you feel married yet alone capable of providing for each other. You should also mention any special requirements or accommodations needed for your wedding (e.g., no cameras allowed).