It’s important to consider how much information to give your children regarding your divorce in the early stages of the process. You should think long and hard about what information to disclose and what to withhold.
Consider your child’s age - News of a divorce will affect children of different ages in distinct ways. If your child is younger, they might not need as much detail about why their parents are separating. Older children, such as teenagers, will probably have more questions and need more information.
Be practical - Make sure your child understands the practical impact of the divorce. Explain what their living arrangements will be like and describe other changes, but don’t get too bogged down in the details.
Be truthful - Whatever you decide to share with your kids, let it be the truth. Always be honest when discussing the divorce with your kids.
When you address the divorce with your children, it is best if you and your spouse can present a united front and have agreed on the terms of the divorce in advance. Once you have a plan, try to follow it.
When you sit your children down to discuss the divorce, both spouses should be present. Try not to criticize one another in front of your children. Don’t say negative things to try to turn your children against their other parent. Be respectful of your spouse by letting them explain their reasons for separating.