With all the anger, sadness, and confusion in the air, it can be difficult to see how separation can end propitiously. As challenging as a separation or divorce can be, it is entirely possible to handle it amicably and get through it smiling in the end. Steps to facilitate the process include: • Take care of yourself — While this may seem obvious, in times of emotional turbulence, it can be difficult to perform even the simplest tasks. Take everything one step at a time and make sure you drink plenty of water, eat three meals a day, get an adequate amount of sleep, and stay on top of your personal and professional responsibilities. • Be civil — Handling a separation or divorce amicably is one of the most important steps to facilitate the process; being civil, respectful, and kind will help you let go of anger and resentment, and also sets a good example for any children involved. • Take it slow — Spending years with someone can be hard to let go, and it is important to take it slow and not rush the process. There is no set time by which you should feel better; every situation is different and people handle their separation in their own way. The most important thing to remember is to not force yourself; know your own limits and set realistic goals.