First, determine whether your child’s temperament predisposes them to be motivated by rewards. Many strong-willed, “oppositional” kids are not motivated by rewards. If your child does respond to rewards, it’s important to raise your expectations periodically so that it becomes harder to earn the same reward. This shows them that it’s important to develop and grow. Also, use connection as a reward; don’t just give toys or food. For example, a young child would consider 5 extra minutes of snuggle time a reward. An elementary-school child might enjoy 10 minutes of basketball with you. Finally, understand that rewards can backfire. If you rely entirely on rewards to motivate your child to complete an activity, this tells your child that expectations always earn them a reward.