This can be understood in two ways. Most commonly, this is when one person identifies as having one type of sexuality, but their actions do not align with it. For example, the person identifies as a heterosexual, but behaves as a homosexual. It can also describe the discordance between your sexual feelings and your experience. For example, when your genitals react (i.e. an erect penis or wet vagina) to something you don’t find arousing at that moment. And vice versa, you feel aroused and horny, but your body does not respond to it.