start with some self-reflection, and then make sure that you can whittle down your wants and needs to the bare-minimum as a foundation to approach your co-parent. Then, compare and contrast your respective bare minimums. If there are things that you can’t reach an agreement on that are very important to you and very important to the success of the co-parenting relationship (and therefore the best interests of the child), you can use the help of a professional to either re-focus your priorities and drop it, or come to some sort of mutually agreeable resolution with your co-parent.