If you have a family law attorney assisting in the presumed marital dissloution action, I recommend that you consult with him or her as to what you have disocvered with respct to your question.As to the missed house payments, assuming there is equity in it, you should cure the arrears by making the payments subject to approval by your family law attorney. The same goes with your time share payments.If your soon to be former spouse refuses to return money from the joint account, you should consider filing an order to show cause regarding contempt of any valid court order in effect that she has not been complied with.