The eulogy should act as a springboard for others to call to mind their own special memories. So, talk about your feelings for this special person. Tell some stories about your experiences with him or her. Anecdotes are a splendid way to celebrate life – there is no reason to avoid the things that were amusing! Many immediate family members may understandably feel unable to speak publicly themselves, yet have important things to say. Check with them. If they want to offer a few words or a precious memory, try to briefly include these. As a very general guide, we offer the following checklist of things you may want to include… Birthplace and short details of early childhood. Educational and sporting achievements, military service. Work/career. Marriage and family life. Hobbies, club memberships, charity involvement. Preferences in music, literature, theatre, etc. Characteristic words and sayings. Personal qualities (perhaps illustrated by stories). People often ask how long a eulogy should be – five minutes or a couple of typed A4 pages is ample.