There are several issues going on here.  First of all, your Miranda rights need only be read to you if you are arrested and then questioned (other than for your name, address, age, etc).  If you are arrested and not questioned then your rights need not be read to you.  Secondly, it's not up to you to "press charges".  Whether or not to prosecute a case (i.e.drop charges) is a decision that rests with the prosecutor and not with the victim.  What that means, is that case may be prosecuted over your objection.  While the states case would be stronger with your testimony, if there is other evidence to support the charge the prosecutor may still decide to go forward with the case.Finally, you should take your husbands's lead and hire a lawyer.  An experienced criminal defense attorney may be able to have the charges dismissed, reduced, or otherwise resolved favorably.