Mediation is a fairly open forum, but there are specific rules that help keep the process moving forward as effectively and efficiently as possible. These golden rules include: Only one person may speak at a time. Each party is expected to focus on potential solutions - and not on the other party. Each party does well to remember that mediation is about problem-solving and is not about advocating solely for one's best interests. Once the paperwork is signed, any agreements reached in mediation are binding. Both parties are entitled to ask the other party to verify any information proffered. Both parties are required to enter mediation with the understanding that, without compromise, an agreement will not be reached. It's important to note that mediation only proceeds as quickly as the slowest party involved in the process. The mediator cannot and will not make decisions for you, but he or she will strive to help you and your divorcing spouse reach an agreement. Any issues involving your children that are addressed in mediation must be approached from the perspective of their best interests (the best interests test).