Before initiating the discussion, all involved adults--including the loved one's children, siblings, and in-laws--need to be on the same page about what they see and the best course of action. Once everyone agrees on what should happen next, follow these tips below:
Smooth out any conflicting opinions, and don't spring the issue on your loved one(s) without warning. Instead, ease into the discussion by pointing out the things everyone agrees they're seeing. Then, discuss ways they can help with finding home care or assisted living.
Emphasize the positive side--in particular, that this decision will improve their lifestyle and safety. Suggest touring some facilities, meeting with home care services, or consulting with a geriatric care manager.
Reassure your loved one that they will have a support system every step of the way, and encourage them to ask questions. It is essential that they feel secure and that you conduct an ongoing open dialogue about the process. If they do react negatively, be patient with them. Try to listen to, empathize with, and support them.