That doesn't mean you shouldn't seek for your father; it simply means you should step gently so you don't inflict any needless suffering. If you have any doubts, seek a second opinion and consult with a relationship coach. Looking for your father may involve going to his workplace or school, looking up information online, or contacting family friends or relatives who may know where he is. Avoid doing anything that might cause him pain - such as showing up at his house unannounced - until you're sure this is the right thing to do. Be prepared for the fact that he may not want to be found! As long as you remain civil to one another, looking for your father will not cause any further problems between you. It's best to address these issues head on instead of hiding them from view. This way you won't end up ruining what little remains of your relationship.