This is a wonderful way to strengthen the emotional bond with your partner. Before you jump into befriending his kids, you must discuss it with your partner. Understand what his views are on the matter – whether he wants to introduce you to his children or wants to take it slow. Whatever it is, you both need to be on the same page when it comes to “his” kids. If at all, he agrees to introduce you to his kids, make sure you have your stories straight and do not make up different stories about each other. If the children find room for suspicion, it will be very difficult to convince them to like you later on. Also, make sure you do not force yourself into their lives. Do not try to be their mother but show interest in their lives. Win them over with kindness and love. Remember, just as your partner has lost his spouse, his children have lost a mother too, so be kind and gentle with them.