To find a member with whom you are already friends, simply select the Friends icon (this looks like two people) and find their username. To search for a member on Togetherall who you are not already friends with, you can go to your messages by selecting the speech bubble icon. When you select the ‘Send Message’ button on the left a search box comes up allowing you to search all members on the site by their username. When you select their username it will take you to a message that is being sent to them.