At the end of the service, we will play a final piece of music and guests will either make their way, to pay their respects and then leave the room - or if they have already said their goodbyes, they will make their way out. In order that this is not awkward, I  will always nominate somebody to lead - and if necessary, tell guests that family members will remain.If you want to spend time with guests after the service, in a traditional wake - or less formal gathering, it is good to let them know before the day, what the arrangements are. It is also helpful to tell me, so that I may remind them, as the service comes to a close.