Go to 12-step meetings with them. Open 12-step meetings allow for supportive friends and family members to show up for support and to take part. Take the time to understand the “rules of engagement” to avoid offending anyone and respect everyone’s privacy when they share personal stories.Avoid drinking or drug use of any kind around them. Exposure to substances can trigger a relapse. If you keep drugs or alcohol around or are routinely under the influence, it will become a problem for the two of you.Do not keep prescription painkillers, benzos, or stimulants out or accessible. Similarly, even if you are taking prescription drugs for a legitimate medical reason and do not abuse them at all, it can be a temptation to someone in recovery. It’s a good idea to keep them out of sight or locked away. If you have unwanted medications lying around, dispose of them properly.Notice when they are going through extreme stress. If your partner is struggling with stress at work, with family, or with friends — or if they are out and having a hard time staying sober — do not wait to show up for them. Speak up, let them know what you are noticing, and express your concern and support.Avoid interrogating or tracking them constantly. No one likes to be nagged. Even if your partner has asked you to keep them accountable, your relationship should remain a partnership rather than a coach/student situation.Be on the lookout for signs of drug use. If you notice changes in your partner’s habits, personality, or demeanor and believe they may be using drugs or alcohol without telling you, take note. You cannot change their choices, but it may be something you need to consider for yourself in terms of whether or not this will remain a viable relationship.