Once you hire an attorney, your attorney will become your voice, both with your spouse and with the legal system. In fact, your spouse will legally be required to direct all communications relating to the divorce to your attorney unless you choose to discuss the matter with him/her. If your divorce is amicable, you are certainly free to try and work out the details of the divorce with your spouse; however, your attorney will handle putting any agreement you reach into writing. If your divorce is not amicable, you should let your attorney handle all communications with your spouse.