Your emotional unavailability will result in superficial relationships which will lead you to disappoint your partner multiple times. However, repeated disappointments and broken relationships will hint at the problem someday. That’s when you’ll understand you must leave behind some emotional baggage and heal yourself. Your emotional unavailability doesn’t itself label you as bad or unlovable. So, as long as you’re willing to accept that you need some change for working things out in your romantic life or any personal relationships, you’re a good person. Know your emotional depths and ponder on stretching them for better personal relationships. Of course, you might fail and start from the beginning, but that’s not enough to call quits. Your relationships and your loved one’s reactions will help you identify the dysfunctional parts and tend to them. If you feel guilty for "using" relationships to overcome your situation, don't forget you'll live a better life with them afterward.