Keep the computer in a communal location, such as the family room or kitchen, so the screen cannot be concealed from your husband. Avoid using chat rooms and discussing sensitive matters, such as personal or marital difficulties, with strangers over the Internet. Controlling your extramarital affair involves more than just having a secret phone or email account. You need to make sure that you do not leave any evidence of your dealings or your marriage could be destroyed. For example, if you use your partner's laptop to search for information about your affair, then his or her password might provide evidence of your involvement together. Ensure that you delete all relevant information from the device before handing it back to your spouse. Your husband must never know that you have an extramarital relationship. This would destroy your marriage instantly. If he finds out, he will never trust you again and this could cause major problems for your relationship. It is important to remember that while you may not want to hurt your husband, ending your affair will probably cause him significant pain too. Try to be understanding and patient during this difficult time. The only way that you can really control your extramarital affair is by not allowing yourself to become involved in it in the first place. Stop meeting other people online and stop listening to mysterious voices on the other end of the line.