If possible, sit down with your spouse and tell him or her about the process.  Give your spouse links to this website and www.collaborativelaw.org. If you don’t succeed, talk to someone your spouse respects, perhaps a professional, like a minister or counselor, or a trusted family member or friend, and direct that person to the various websites.  Perhaps if your spouse learns about Collaborative divorce from someone other than you or an attorney, he or she might be more receptive to the process.