From what you have written about, you need to consult with a family law attorney and law enforcement about the threats that you are subject to regarding the man that you are with and the posisbility of getting an emergncy protective order where he is not allowed within so many yards of you.Just because the state or states that you reside in with this man may recognize common law marriages, there is nothing preventing you legally from simply moving on with your life without this man that you seem afraid of being with.Under the laws of states recognizing common law marriages, one in such a situation can simply move on without the common law spouse.