You remember that youu2019re not in jail and there is nothing you can do for them if you cannot bail them out, except write them and send them money for commissary. Although the jail does prbasic needs it does not supply deodorant and many other things that are available on commissary that could make a personu2019s stay in jail more comfortable.Send them some pictures if you can and keep them posted whatu2019s new, but always keep the correspondence positive. Avoid expressing that youu2019re stressed out beyond the fact that you care about them. Remember that they also cannot do anything to help or console you while theyu2019re in jail. The last thing you want to do is stress them out when theyu2019re in jail and cannot do anything about it. They already have enough problems on their plate. Your job right now should be to keep them in good spirits even if the world is falling apart outside. Trust me, the person in the jail is going to be doing the exact same thing because they both donu2019t want to worry you and also because they cannot show any weakness. Make sure you are on their visiting list and visit them as often as possible.