Marriage Ritual These are the promises. The couple can remember and repeat the vows aloud, read the vows from a book, or have the priest read them and answer with "I do." The language used varies from church to church, although they all follow a similar pattern. In general, the vows include statements of love and commitment, and ask God's help in keeping these promises. In addition to the religious elements that take place at a Catholic wedding, there is also a civil side. The couple signs their names in an open book before witnesses. They are then declared husband and wife by the clergyman. A Catholic wedding can be as simple or elaborate as you want it to be. It can include only what is required by law, or it can have all kinds of special features. All you need to know about planning a Catholic wedding can be found on the web sites for the churches in your area. You should talk with your pastor or priest about any special prayers you would like said during the wedding ceremony. As long as your marriage meets the requirements of Catholicism, you can choose whatever form you wish to celebrate your wedding ceremony. Whether you want a traditional Catholic wedding with all the rites and rituals, a Jewish wedding with vows and a bar mitzvah, a Christian wedding with just the bride and groom standing up before friends and family, or something else, this type of event is possible.