Becoming a stepparent can be both challenging and rewarding. It is important to talk openly with  your partner about the expectations, take things very slowly so that everyone has time to adjust.  Over time, you can take on more of a parenting role if that is what you all want.  Meeting the challenges   When your family first blends, don’t expect things to be wonderful overnight. There will be some  definite highs and lows before things start to even out into a comfortable balance for everyone. It  is important to give everyone some time to get used to this new arrangement.   Ease into discipline   Set boundaries around discipline with your partner, so together you can agree on consistent  guidelines and rules. Discuss everything. Never keep emotions bottled up, listen respectfully, and  always provide opportunities for communication. Let the parent remain primarily responsible for the  discipline of their child/ren until the stepparent has developed a strong bond.  Take time and don’t expect too much too soon  Blended families take time to adjust. The plan is for you to be in their lives for the rest of your life.  There is plenty of time to build relationships with your new partner’s children and to establish your  role within this new dynamic.  Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help   Remember, you are not alone in this and there are lots of people here to help you. Try talking to a  friend first, but if you feel like you need more professional advice there are some useful links (below)  that can help you with information and connect you with the right people to talk to. Help www.linkage.co.nz www.msd.govt.nz  www.kiwifamilies.co.nz/articles/step-parents