Employ patience. Arrange your day to allow adequate time for the older adult to work through tasks at a pace that's most comfortable. A small amount of extra time will make an impact in increasing the person's self-esteem. Emphasize the positives. Identify work-around methods that ensure your loved one can continue being involved in the activity in accordance with his/her specific strengths. Welcome input. Have an honest, open, heart-to-heart conversation with your family member to express his or her expectations about your part in providing care support.