No, you cannot, unless she is disabled or infirm and you are her live-in caregiver or you are disabled and she takes are of you. While a younger spouse can move in with an older, over-55 spouse, that is the only family relationship that allows an under-55 to live in an over-55 community. Otherwise, only a live-in caregiver who is less than 55 can live in the community, or a disabled child whom the over-55 parent must care for.