Concerning how we find love. One of the most damaging illusions is that our need for love is a sign of weakness, and that we should simply be OK on our own, and if we find a relationship, well, that's wonderful. However, we should be certain that we will be alright. The truth is that without love, we die. The need for love is natural, and while it can sometimes seem like a curse, it also provides us with an opportunity to grow. We must remember that love isn't just an emotion; it's also a choice. If we make the conscious decision to take care of ourselves first, then we are embracing our strength. And if we're ready to share our life with another person, by all means do so. But don't expect your partner to meet all of your needs. The next time you feel like giving up because you think you cannot live without love, remember this: your desire for love is not a defect; it is a part of who you are. You were born with this need, and until you learn to satisfy it yourself, no one else can either.