She would have been correct ten years ago. Many persons in abusive relationships have supporting friends and family who are blind to the abuser person's poor behavior. They will be captivated by the abuser's charisma, generosity, kindness, and charm. All of these are the outward manifestations of an abusive individual. These friends may even encourage the couple to stay together, arguing that something better might come along. Such advice is dangerous and wrong. In reality, there is no such thing as a good relationship or bad relationship. All relationships carry some amount of pain and pleasure. Some relationships are more balanced than others, but no relationship is entirely positive or negative. Any relationship where one person is constantly trying to hurt the other physically or emotionally is not healthy. An abusive person will not change unless they are confronted with evidence that they is harming others. Their friends should be aware of their surroundings at all times to prevent any harm coming to the partner. If someone you know has been abused, they need your help. Get help from a local support group, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or visit www.thehotline.org for a list of resources across the country.