Contact with both parents is typically in the best interests of the child. According to the legislation, dads must have "reasonable access" to their children. However, there are no defined rules for dads' acceptable access. What is reasonable access for one dad may not be reasonable access for another. Dads may be granted access to their children in several different ways: by court order, after hearing from both parties; voluntarily; or because the mom does not want the dad to have access (for example, if she believes he is abusive). In some cases, dads can also request access through their attorneys. It is important for dads to fight for access whenever possible since denying them access could affect the relationship they have with their child. Access should not be denied just because the mom does not want her husband to see the child. If this were the case, then many separated dads would not get any time with their kids at all. The mother's wishes should be taken into account when deciding how much access the dad will get, but they do not automatically win out over his rights. Reasonable access means that you will be given a chance to be part of your kid's life. You should be able to spend time with them on a regular basis and have the opportunity to participate in important decisions about their lives.