The first thing to do is assess your safety and understand the nature of the relationship – whether it is healthy or abusive. If it is abusive, reach out to your support system for help. If it is a healthy relationship and you otherwise feel safe with your partner, the first thing to do is to sit with what you are feeling—all the hurt and the pain—without disowning the negative emotions. Express them to the person who has hurt you without resorting to blame. In most cases, that may help resolve the conflict and pain. If that does not help, or resolution is not an option, you can make time for self-care and do the things that help you heal from the hurt and move on.