According to Spira, the second component of real intimacy, dubbed "emotional intimacy," means that your emotional needs are being addressed. "This happens when someone accepts you for who you are, cares about what's going on in your life, and you get the sense that your partner is involved in you and your relationship," she adds. People need different things from a relationship. Some people want to be loved for their brains or their muscles or their wealth; others want to be loved for their hearts or their kindness or their spirit. The only way to know what kind of love people are looking for is by asking them directly. The more open you are to receiving whatever your partner has to give, the better prepared you will be for whenever love comes knocking at the door.