The best approach is to be honest and upfront in explaining FASD, but not forceful. Explain what FASD is and the risks of drinking alcohol and not using contraception. Make it clear you are not criticizing her or her lifestyle but are just worried about what could happen – tell your friend you want her to be armed with all the facts. A great way to support her is to not drink when you are socializing with her. Australian culture can make it difficult to abstain from alcohol, and we know it’s much easier to say no to alcohol with a support person. Your friend may be interested in reading this birth mother’s story or this mother’s description of raising a child with FASD