There are a lot of dynamics that can play out between a BPD mother and her child given that the relationship is solely based on the mother’s symptoms. The BPD mother has expectations of her child to tend to her needs while neglecting their own needs. These children learn that in order to feel accepted or loved in some way, they must be caring for their mom’s emotional needs and catering to her demands, which creates a false sense of security and identity. It robs children of healthy development and leaves them with ingrained fears of abandonment or rejection. These children grow up without an authentic sense of self and are unable to trust themselves. They experience great feelings of shame and guilt and grow to have difficulties forming healthy and safe relationships.