If you're lonely, your lover is definitely lonely as well. Don't get stuck in a stalemate where you're both too scared or resentful to make the initial step. Instead, reach out, show attention, and express your emotions. If you keep doing this, your spouse will most likely reciprocate your kindness. Reconnect with pleasant recollections. Loneliness can be very painful, but it doesn't have to be permanent. There are many ways you can help your loved one feel less alone again, including making new friends, going on adventures, and giving and receiving love.