You will need to get the restraining order lifted.  To remove such an order you will have to go to court.  Until you do you must obey it, regardless of what your custody arrangement is. If you are found in violation of the order it will be condisdered to be a criminal offense carrying with it the potential of jailtime. Additionally, you will put your existing custody order in jeopardy and could lose custody entirely.Since this is such a sensitive ans serious matter, you should definitely consult will an attorney in your area.