First, you cannot force your husband into marriage counseling under the laws of all states in this country. Counseling is a voluntary proceeding and it does no good to force someone to attend if he or she does not want to attend in the first place.You are entitled under the laws of your state to get all documents that you may have signed concerning the dissolution of your marriage. Whether or not your husband is entitled to keep your tax return refunds is subject to debate. Unless there is an agreement stating that he can signed by you, you are entitled to one half of the tax refunds typically under the marital laws of all states.I suggest that you consult with a family law attorney to assist you in the matter that you are writing about before you sign any paperwork concerning the dissolution of your marriage.