Someone in the audience at one of my speeches, whether a conversation partner or a student, will say that they never lie. Even more intriguing, some will swear not to speak any lies for the following many weeks. Serious lies—the big-time betrayals of trust—are generally never beneficial for any form of relationship. So it's safe to assume that relationships can't survive without some type of deception. Lies are like air; we need them to breathe. Without them, life would be very uncomfortable if not impossible. Relationships require honesty to function properly. If one party is always lying to the other, then no matter how strong the bond, it will always be damaged by this lack of truthfulness. In order for there to be truth between two people, there needs to be trust. Trust is vital to any relationship, especially one built on lies. Without it, nothing good can grow between two people. Even though we may want to protect those we love by keeping secrets from them, it's important to understand that this only hurts them in the end. The ones we care about deserve better than this. They deserve someone who will stand by them through anything and everything. As long as there is love between two people, they can stay together through good times and bad. It's when that love starts to fade away that things become difficult. When you stop feeling love for your partner, that's when you should think about changing things around.