Best way is to contact a Veteran Service Agency - like the DAV, VFW or American Legion. Ask to talk to a Chapter Service Officer, they can help you determine if your mother is eligible - she will need a copy of your stepdadu2019s DD-214.There are some requirements, for example did he die from something service-connected, what is her income, etc. Iu2019ve included a few links to the VAu2019s website so you can familiarize yourself with what they will likely be looking for, but I wouldnu2019t suggest you do this on your own. Chapter Service Officers will help you for free, and you shouldnu2019t need to get an attorney involved unless the initial claim is denied.Aid & Attendance and HouseboundVeterans Benefits AdministrationDirectory of Veterans Service Organizations