Tell the individual how you feel when they try to overcome your view or feelings on an issue in the moment. "Tell them, 'When you say that, it makes me feel ___,'" Smith said. Ask them to respect your feelings by not being so combative while speaking with you. Also discuss issues before they arise, such as saying yes to some requests even if you don't want to, just to make others happy. This shows that you are reasonable and can be negotiated with. If someone is being contrarian, it may be because they do not get to decide what role they play in a discussion. If this is the case, offer to let them speak first next time. This gives them the opportunity to explain their point of view without being opposed immediately. Finally, remember that everyone has a right to their own opinion. If someone tries to force their opinion upon you, ask them to stop until you have had a chance to think about it yourself.