Defeat is the inverse of triumph. When you lose, you are defeated. You beat your opponent when you win. Only losers give up when they lose. No one likes to lose, but sometimes things happen that are out of our control. When this happens, we feel defeated even if it is only for a moment. The more we resist this feeling, the harder it is to do so. Eventually we will succeed because we must learn to accept defeat with dignity. If you have lost a game or argument, you can still be victorious even though you have been beaten. You just need to change your perspective and view the situation in a new light. For example, you could view it as a challenge instead of a loss. Challenges make us excited because we know that we have something to prove. Challenges also help us grow because we need to overcome them to show ourselves who is better than whom. Losing is part of life. We should not let small losses bring us down, but rather see them as opportunities to learn from them. If you focus on your defeats, they will continue to happen over and over again. However, if you look at your victories too, they will continue to happen as well. There is no use in focusing on what you cannot change.