That’s the million dollar question, since so many of our kids are on gadgets! Here are a few thoughts. Use of social media can sometimes be linked to depression and anxiety. It tricks us into wanting “instant” communication a lot of the time. People sometimes fall into a trap of seeing who has more “likes” or connections, or who seems to be “happier” or “better” than we are. So, in reality, we should already be thinking about being healthier with our social media use. Parents can do a world of good by limiting tech at night — try collecting all family phones at 10 or 11 and disconnecting the router or cable for internet. Staying up late (or waking up intermittently to check on things) really hijacks our ability to get a good night’s sleep. Getting a good night sleep can help us feel more prepared for the negative interactions we might have, and feel more rationale about what to do about them. Likewise, if a child is having difficulties on social media, the last thing they need is to be bombarded at all times of the day. Because kids have a tough time letting go, it helps when we step in and make the decision. They put up a fight but are usually grateful in these situations. It’s okay to periodically check what’s being posted. Sometimes parents are afraid of invading privacy, which is important. We want to respect our children as they grow, but we have to realize that it’s not all that private if it’s going out into the world. So, assert yourself.