Steps 1 of 10: Give her a compliment. ... 2 of 10: Ask open-ended questions. ... 3 of 10: Follow up on something she told you about. ... 4 of 10: Tell her a cool story. ... 5 of 10: Ask her deep questions about herself. ... 6 of 10: Create an inside joke with her. ... 7 of 10: Start a fun debate. ... 8 of 10: Text pics of what you're up to. More items...