Shortly after you get engaged, set up a fun date night at home to go over not only your wedding budget, but your priorities. Sit down with your computers or pen and notepad, and write down how much you each feel comfortable spending on your wedding. If you're comfortable spending $30,000 (whether it's your own money or family contributions or both) and your partner is only comfortable with $15,000, you can each calmly discuss why you feel that way, and see if you can both settle somewhere in between. A wedding is a great opportunity to get on the same page financially as your partner, and learn how to resolve any issues in a healthy, positive way.