Although you may not have caused these problems, you have to solve them for yourself. This means there is a focus on learning skills to live the life you want versus blaming others for what is wrong. Dialectical behavioral therapy focuses on what happens before and after a target behavior. In DBT, dialectical strategies help clients detach themselves from extreme positions. Dialectics, which means logic through conversation, is the way we balance acceptance and change. It allows the client to sort out issues one conversation at a time. It’s how we can look at two ideas that seem contradictory as related. You know what is true about your position because you love your perspective. It’s what you understand. What’s difficult is figuring out what is correct in another person’s situation, allowing us to have the whole truth or a synthesis. It will let you free yourself from unhelpful ways of thinking and feeling. After all, people in a lot of emotional pain get stuck between wanting to embrace life and feel they can’t tolerate anything, finding themselves frustrated about what life may bring. You and your therapist will work towards the goals that you define. Your therapist will be focused on helping you build YOUR life to be something worth living. DBT is most helpful with people who have powerful emotions or take extreme positions. Clients can even reach out to their therapist for in-between session coaching when clients need help in crises.