It's possible that your inability to connect with others stems from childhood trauma. It appears that connecting with others has become increasingly difficult for many individuals these days. In my years as a psychotherapist, I've noticed that people who experienced substantial childhood trauma struggled with their relationships more than most. They had problems establishing trust with others and often felt unworthy or inadequate. When you were young, your parents probably tried their best to protect and provide for you. However, if they were suffering from their own issues (such as depression or anxiety), then they may have been unable to give you the love and attention you needed. You may have perceived this lack of love as punishment for something else that you had done wrong. As an adult, trying to connect with others requires putting yourself out there emotionally. You are asking people to open up to you, which can be scary. People don't want to be used as tools to fix someone else's problem; they want to be appreciated for who they are. You may also find it hard to connect with others because you're not sure how to behave in a relationship. Everyone wants to be accepted by others, so sometimes we try too hard to fit into society's expectations of love and marriage. This can cause a lot of stress and frustration for anyone involved. Finally, maybe you just don't try hard enough. It's easy to feel like nobody cares about you or your problems.