We have disabled the private chat facility in the chatrooms. Dependent on your membership level you may have a "whisper" facility to communicate privately with another member however please be aware that whispers are limited in number and if you overuse the facility it will prevent you from using it. We would recommend chatting in the main room whenever possible, after all, it's a Chatroom with a Whisper facility, not a Whisper room with a Chatroom facility. But, if you need to send a whispered message - To open Whisper click on a person's name and select 'Whisper' from the drop down box. The name of the person you wish to whisper to will appear in the text input box. Type your message as normal and press send and it will be visible only to the selected person.