Spousal abuse can be verbal (such as screaming or threatening) or it can be physical. It can happen to men and women alike and we see plenty of both, sadly. If you are in an abusive relationship, it is best to remove yourself and consult an attorney to determine your rights. If you are being physically abused or fear for your safety, it is best to contact the authorities and remove yourself PHYSICALLY from the situation as quickly as possible. After you have filed police reports is the time to seek counsel of your attorney. Your attorney can do such things as attempt to persuade the court to grant you the temporary rights to your home, custody of your children and a protection from abuse order while you seek further action such as a divorce.