Couples that are resilient understand the importance of working on their relationship every day. Experts believe that what they do on a daily basis when things are going well is what truly distinguishes them. If you and your spouse can achieve these things, your relationship may be able to withstand adversity. 1. Spend time together. Spend time with your spouse doing something you both enjoy. This will help to keep your relationship fresh and exciting, which will help you stay connected during difficult times. Make sure that you don't just have "spend time" time though - make time for real conversation. Couples that work on their relationship by having regular "date nights" where they get away from home and have some privacy are more likely to stay connected later on when things are hard to handle. Date nights don't need to be expensive - a walk or bike ride together will do! Try not to become too busy with your own lives to stop connecting with yours. Adults need relationships too - if you don't connect with others, you'll lose touch with who you are and what matters to you. Don't underestimate the value of sharing your feelings with someone else either - research has shown that people feel better after expressing themselves emotionally.