Asked by user in Massachusetts. Answered by Enjuris Editors.
I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time.
Generally speaking, court reporters have an obligation to type every word that is said in court unless both parties agree to go off the record. Next time an incident like you described occurs, make clear that you don't want to go off the record.
You might also consider contacting the Massachusetts State Bar Lawyer Referral Service to see if you qualify for free legal assistance.