It may take discussions to accept that your spending habits are going to be different. Some couples come up with an amount they can spend without discussing it or hearing about it from their partner. Some couples create small individual accounts that each can use at their discretion for whatever they want. Some couples meet weekly to talk about the outstanding and upcoming bills and the planned expenses for the week. In some marriages, the couple works closely together to manage the finances (usually recommended), and in others, one person likes doing that work.