Dating is just not as prevalent as it once was, and sadly for Generation Y, we are lucky if we even know the state of our present relationships. Valentine's Day might be stressful if you don't know whether you and your "other" are simply talking, friends with benefits, or unintentionally exclusive. According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 40% of men and 30% of women admit to having an affair during their marriage. If you're part of this number, you're not alone. It is estimated that 20 million Americans are involved in some type of infidelity relationship. The study also found that men in these affairs tend to be more emotionally unavailable than their married counterparts. They were more likely to report feeling disconnected from their partners and less interested in what they had to say. This seems like an obvious point, but people in adulterous relationships need to realize that they are committing adultery no matter how much they might want to deny it. Adultery is a choice that has serious consequences including loss of reputation, divorce, and sometimes criminal charges. If you aren't ready to end your affair yet, then stop seeing your partner as a friend and start treating them like someone you intend to hurt. It's important to remember that marriages are difficult things to maintain, especially when money is an issue.