If niceness comes from a place of strength it works in your favor. If it comes from a weakness (for example fears confrontation) it's negative. The first would be called charismatic, the later self denying. \r \rAnd this whole talk about niceness is so stupid. People often conflate self assertive behavior with asshole behavior and self denying as nice while it's doormat shit. Meeting the niceness threshold is hella easy, virtually NO one is such an asshole that he isn't nice enough for a woman. Read more