Probably me, I think the kids can probably get around Tom a bit easier. If Molly hits Zac I’ll say 'Go say sorry' and I’ll not back down until she says sorry, so I just say 'when you’re ready Molly'. Last night it took 20 minutes just before bath time she was laying there doing her own thing, and I said 'No, no when you're ready' and I just kept reminding her. And she’ll go, 'I'm ready' and she’ll come and say sorry.
"Whereas Tom is like I'll give you some chocolate if you say sorry. I think we’re both quite strict but not in a harsh way. You can read the situation when you have to be strict or when you just have to give them a hug.