When you’re not calm during sex, you’re experiencing sexual anxiety. There are a ton of ways to handle this sexual dysfunction. If you can, it’s important to de-stress before indulging in the act and you can do this by taking a bath prior. When you’re clean, it’s easy to feel confident in your body and practically nothing can stop you from enjoying the time when you’re confident. If you’re constantly anxious, nothing your partner does would get you to the happy ending you deserve. Another way to stay calm is to take deep breaths in between, let go and use other methods and ‘tools’ as well.