BDSM.com is a real dating site, but it does not appear to be an active one with many users. It appears that the website was created in 2012 and has since been inactive for some time now. The website does have some content related to BDSM topics, such as articles about safety tips when engaging in BDSM activities or advice on how to find partners who are into the same things you are interested in exploring. However, there doesn't seem to be any evidence of actual members actively using this platform as a way of connecting with other people interested in similar activities and lifestyles - at least none that can easily be found online through public searches or reviews from former users of the site itself.