If you want your partner to connect with his heart, you should do the same. Allow yourself to truly experience what you are feeling at the time. When my spouse truly expresses her feelings, especially when she does so without criticizing or condemning me, the armor surrounding my heart frequently begins to dissolve instantly. The more you express your feelings, the easier it will be for him to do the same. This is how you connect with his heart. Love and respect are the keys that open any man's heart. If you want your husband to love you, listen to what he has to say. If you want him to respect you, let him know you care about what he thinks. Don't expect your husband to feel passionate about you if you don't show him some affection. Don't expect him to have strong opinions about things that matter to you if you don't give him a chance to speak his mind. Love and respect go a long way in helping men open up and communicate their feelings. Men are generally not good at expressing themselves. That is why most of them end up complaining about one thing or another all day long. To help them out, try not to criticize or condemn them when they come home late or leave early from work. It's best to accept them for who they are instead. It's important for a man to feel valued by his wife.