If you fear that your safety may be in jeopardy when asking for a divorce from an abusive or narcissistic spouse, seek legal help right away.
A lawyer versed in domestic violence law will be able to help you make an action plan for safely divorcing your spouse.
Seek legal help before contacting law enforcement so that you have an advocate when communicating with your local law enforcement agency.
If possible, ask your attorney to communicate with law enforcement on your behalf to convey the magnitude of your endangerment.
If you’re currently in an abusive marriage, make your supportive person aware of the situation so that they can act accordingly.
Involve them and your attorney in your safety plan if needed.
If they don’t need to be physically involved, make them aware of the plan in writing.
If you’re unsafe and you feel your partner will violently retaliate upon being asked for a divorce, solve one problem at a time.
Seek legal advice and get yourself to a safe location (and stay there) before considering asking for a divorce. Your safety is priority number one.