If your spouse/partner is not listening to you it is probably due to the fact that he or she is disrespectful. Gaining someone’s attention does not occur through crying or yelling. A calm and insistent manner will help the other person understand that you mean business. If your spouse or partner continues to ignore you after earnest efforts to communicate with him or her, then it is time to take a stand. You may have to insist on mediation through a third person. Mental health professionals who specialize in marriage and couples therapy are most useful in this regard.