In order to help someone with silent BPD, you need to first take care of yourself and follow the following measures: Avoid isolation. You are encouraged to have a life besides taking care of the BPD person. Enroll the BPD family member or friend in a support group. Do not neglect your physical health. Learn stress management to deal with the situations with the affected family member. Listen empathetically and attentively. Learn to focus on the emotions and not just the words.