This is 2020. Women don’t have to wait on men to do anything. We had a meeting about it. Seriously, gals, you may feel nervous about sending the first message, making the first move, or asking a guy out on a date, but that’s exactly how nervous guys feel in those situations. Give a guy a break! Most modern men enjoy being wooed because it takes the pressure off them and makes them feel desirable. Women don’t have to stick to gender norms and stereotypes to attract a good guy. “Nowadays, we are not gender-bound,” Jodi said. “This means any person is allowed to ask out any other person. Just remember, according to etiquette, the person who does the asking does the paying. Be sure to be clear by adding ‘my treat!’ when you do the ask.” Jodi has written extensively about etiquette for modern women, and nowhere does she suggest women act like it’s 1920 and adhere to old-fashioned gender roles. Once you’re in a relationship, you’ve got to put your best foot forward and deal with all kinds of emotionally charged issues. Fortunately, Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting has the wherewithal to help things run a little more smoothly so healthy relationships can blossom.