There are several things to do in preparation for separation; some of these include: Having support measures available Document your family property, family debts, and excluded property Keep track of the money coming in and out of the household Have your own personal bank account Have the original marriage certificate   Prior to telling your spouse that you want to separate, it is important to speak to a lawyer. A lawyer can inform you of your rights and duties. By attending a free consultation with a lawyer, it provides you with an opportunity to get an opinion of your individual situation and a better understanding of what your future options may be.