If a married guy flirts with a married lady and she falls for him, both of their lives are ruined. The mudslinging and grief that would ensue would rob you of any tranquility, and you would conclude that the relationship was not worth it. 2. "Allow your emotions to go" - If he is really interested in her, he will get over his wife. In other words, don't feel sorry for him. A relationship is a two-way street, and he should be willing to give as much as she can take. If she were to break up with him, then he should be able to handle it. The truth is that men need women to fight for them. If a woman cancels on him every time he wants to see what's next with her, then he will never grow up and he will always be left alone for Christmas and birthday gifts. So, if a married man is being romantic or showing affection to you, understand that he is looking for an escape from his marriage, not another chance with his old girlfriend. He might seem nice but he is playing with fire. Women look out for #1, especially when it comes to love and marriage. She will not risk her future for some fun with a married man. Also remember that married men are not allowed to have relationships with other women unless their wives know about it.