Alternatively, a spouse may dismiss a wife's concerns regarding the safety of the children. Finally, the spouse who is subjected to these insults feels irritated, unheard, furious, and resentful. The partner tends to share less and less, until the personal level of sharing is lost. Closeness and intimacy are lost when this occurs. The invalidation process can also occur between spouses. For example, if a woman believes that her husband does not care for her, she might unconsciously treat him as though he were already dead. She might avoid communicating about serious issues, cut off emotional connections, or have affairs. When her husband fails to react in accordance with her expectations, she feels isolated and alone. In addition, an employer can invalidate his employee by failing to provide support during times of hardship, by refusing to recognize effective work done by the employee, etc. Employees can also invalidate their employers by failing to perform their duties or by engaging in misconduct. For example, an employee may steal from her employer or abuse drugs at work; if discovered, she would be dismissed from her position. Last, but not least, people invalidate others when they choose to act like them- or feel like them- instead of the other person. For example, if you want your partner to stop nagging you, you could try arguing with him/her, which will only make him/her do it more often.