Such is the obsession with sexual roles in gay life that one could be forgiven for thinking that being a Top or Bottom Gay is in one’s DNA.
As soon as a guy comes out, there’s an inordinate amount of pressure on him to decide precisely what he should do with his undercarriage. Expectations abound. And are frequently unhelpful.
Undeniably, some gay men feel that they were born to ride the salty salamander. And they’ll devote the rest of their mortal time to perfecting the art.
However, deciding whether you are a Top or Bottom Gay usually comes with experimentation. The trusted suck and see technique. There are some key considerations here.
Firstly, choosing the right partners is crucial. Those who make you feel comfortable. Follow the chemistry.
Secondly, it’s important not to let one bad experience as a Gay Bottom put you off uphill gardening forevermore.
And thirdly, remember you can always switch matters up sexually. Choosing to be a Top or Bottom Gay does not mean you’re signing up to some inescapable cult. Whatever some guys may claim.