If you are having trouble making your payments specific circumstances such as a disability will not play a part in the lender deciding how to proceed. Although they may feel badly their business is about lending money and being repaid and they cannot make specific circumstances result in a change to that policy. However that being said you should call your mortgage company & ask if you can re-negotiate , to get a lower interest rated.If your just at the point where money is tight because you had these issues with your partner again call your mortgage company & see if you can defer a payment & ask if you can do this with out any penalties.The thing is the mortgage company or bank does not want your house , They are dealing with so many people going under that some will do almost anything to keep you in your home & keep the money coming in. If they take your house it will just go onto a list of other houses they have that they have foreclosed on or they will have to sell it out at a loss.So keep making calls and trying to figure ot what will work for you at least long enough for you to get back on your feet. Good luck