My 35 year old son died three weeks ago (Aug. 13, 2018). He was not diagnosed with diabetes, but autopsy found his cause of death ketoacidosis. He was found by his brother. The experience of finding the body has been traumatic. We have sanitized death with funeral homes, embalming and other rituals that remove any hands on experience. Only simulated deaths in movies are stark, yet they also remain removed.To help my son deal with his feelings, we have kept him busy with living. That is where our focus should be, not on adding even more rituals to death. If we wash the body or otherwise prep for burial, it wonu2019t make people live more acutely. It wonu2019t make them understand how short their time is and the importance of breathing in life every moment you can.It will only add more responsibilities at a time when the friends and family are busy grieving. I couldnu2019t cook dinner, remember to walk my dogs, or even pick out clothes to wear in the days after Andy died. I needed peace, not expectations. Believe me, I am fully aware of the process of death, the consequences. We are not out of touch with death, but with the fragility of life.