It is important to learn why your child is refusing visitation. Getting to the underlying issue can help you resolve it and avoid future custody problems. In most cases, a child not wanting to see a parent after a divorce or legal separation is temporary. It may stem from the child’s anger or hurt regarding the divorce in general, or the child may blame one other parent for the divorce. It may also come from something that you do or say, such as if you have made your child feel like he or she needs to pick a side.
Be careful not to be the cause of your child refusing visitation with a parent. Although divorce is an emotional time, you should not let your emotions interfere with the relationship between your child and your ex-spouse. This can put your child in the middle and place an undue amount of pressure on him or her during an already difficult time. It can also result in issues such as your child refusing visitation, which can have legal consequences for you.
Speak to your child openly about how he or she is feeling after your divorce. Do not take it personally if your child does not want to spend time with you. Your child may simply need time to process major changes. If your child is really struggling with the divorce, consider therapy. You should communicate with your ex-spouse about the situation as it evolves so that he or she can help you get to the bottom of what is bothering your child.