Acts of IPV are very personal and often the victim of this type of intimate abuse feels very alone, sometimes embarrassed for putting themselves in a situation where this could even happen. More often, the abusers have groomed the victims to receive the abuse. Grooming takes place over time, with little statements that serve to make the victim feel unworthy, incapable or at fault for any issues that arise in the relationship. Remember that these are intimate partners—they know the victims very well and through grooming, can assert a great deal of control over the victim. It is possible for someone to be the victim of grooming and have no idea it is occurring to them.