The most important first step is to identify why you have low libido. If you skip this step you'll likely try a lot of different things to get your sex drive back that won't work. In turn, this will create frustration and hopelessness fuelling even lower desire and more anxiety surrounding your lack of sex drive. To work out what might be the cause you'll want to take a holistic approach considering your possible relationship and its impacts, psychological causes that might be negatively affecting your desire, and biological and medical reasons. Once you know where the issues lie - that's when you can make a change. Some common ways to increase female libido are: - Working on the emotional connection between you and your partner - Increasing general physical intimacy - Switching birth control or medications - Fantasizing about sex - Introducing novelty to the bedroom - Reducing pressure surrounding sex - Communicating more about sex and expressing your wants, needs and boundaries