It can be difficult to know what to say – or not say – to an elderly parent. You may want to avoid saying anything that could upset them or make them feel uncomfortable. Here are some things you should avoid saying to an elderly parent:
1. You're forgetful.
This is a common complaint from children of elderly parents. While it's true that memory does decline with age, it's important to remember that this is a natural part of the aging process and not something your parent can help. Telling them they're forgetful will only make them feel bad about themselves and could lead to further decline in their memory.
2. You're not as young as you used to be.
Again, this is something that is true but best left unsaid. Reminding your parent of their age will only make them feel old and vulnerable. It's important to try and focus on the positive aspects of aging, such as wisdom and experience.
3. I don't have time for this.
Patience is key when dealing with an elderly parent. They may move a little slower than you're used to and need more time to do things, but it's important not to rush them or make them feel like they're a burden. Try instead to be understanding and patient, even if it means making some extra time for them in your schedule.