Women in violent relationships often lack self-esteem and confidence, making it more difficult to leave the relationship. I developed How to Let Go of Someone You Love to assist women leave unhealthy or harmful relationships. Women need to understand that they do not deserve to be treated this way and that there is help available for them. The first thing a woman needs to know how to let go of someone she loves is how to recognize if this person is willing to change. If he isn't, then he should be given a chance to show himself or herself in another relationship before being allowed to have contact with the loved one again. This may seem like a lot of trust to put into a man or woman who you just met, but this is what is required to create a safe environment for yourself to recover from an abusive relationship. The next thing a woman needs to do is seek help from others. An abusive partner will try to make you feel alone and isolated, so be sure to keep close friends who will listen to you and support you during this time. Finally, remember that you are not your partner's property. You have value independent of what he does or doesn't do. No one has a right to abuse you physically or emotionally.