No need to ask if she can because she apparently did.  Your boyfriend needs to get help with this as soon as possible.One order does not necessarily over ride the other and the order of protection remains in place until it is taken care of or expires.  I would strongly suggest that he not speak with her or do anything else to violate the order from this point forward.  It could hurt him with the issue of visitiation and custody in the end.  She is playing games.  Have a family member drop off the boy or have her have a family member pick him up.  But get a lawyer asap.  Good luck.