Most people want their needs met, but they often struggle with how to express them without alienating others unintentionally. Here are some methods for approaching complaints constructively: 1. Communicate grievances when you are calm and collected. 2. Use “I” statements rather than blaming your partner (“I feel X whenever Y happens”). 3. Find out if he or she is open to feedback. 4. Be specific (e.g., I desire, not just ‘need’).