The earlier you speak with a divorce lawyer, the better. As noted, many offer no-obligation, confidential consultations, so you do not have to worry if you change your mind or reconcile. Also, no one will know you were contemplating divorce unless you tell them personally. An early consultation with a lawyer can help you understand the facts of your case, your options, and the next steps if you choose to take them. You can discuss where to file, if you want to file first, and other common questions.