Be nice and gentle, and concentrate on expressing yourself to him. Then, when he gets it perfect, say something like, "Yes, I love that," or "A bit softer, a little slower." Or, even better, transmit it through pleasurable noises. Men are always looking for new ways to delight you. Then, keep reinforcing your positive feedback structure. If you want to learn more about men and their needs, check out the book He's Not Just Mine...He's Yours! by John Gray. It's a great guide to help you understand how a man thinks and acts, and what makes him happy. Now, go have fun!