I enjoy helping couples find their way out of old fixed patterns of interacting and into a more authentic, flexible, compassionate, and accepting intimate relationship. I consider marriage counseling an opportunity for a couple to clear up long standing misunderstandings and a chance to find one another again. Marriage counseling can be both a means to heal old wounds in the relationship and the beginning of a lifelong adventure of discovering one another anew every day.
In couples’ therapy, I make use of the work of John Gottman and other evidence-based approaches. I also make use to some extent of the work of Harville Hendrix. In addition, I emphasize the use of the Enneagram in couples’ therapy. I find that the Enneagram helps people understand themselves and their partners better, and this understanding often leads to greater empathy, caring and compassion for their partners, which is enormously valuable in couples’ therapy. The Enneagram, when used with an experienced guide, can create powerful opportunities for growth, healing, and reconciliation in relationships.
I enjoy working with couples of all sexual orientations.