The best way to be an eshay is to not. While it can be nice to feel like you belong to a community, especially one that's shared similar struggles, the eshay culture is tightly entwined with gangs and violence. It can lead you down a path of self-destruction and incarceration. Your energy would be better spent joining a sports team or finding an engaging hobby. Not to mention the fact that, like perms, shoulder pads, and acid wash denim, your eshay phase is 100% going to be something you cringe at later in life.