Divorce represents a major upheaval for your entire family, including your children.  You can help your kids through the process by creating a game plan of how and when to discuss your divorce with your children.  In many cases, it is a good idea to reach out to a child therapist for guidance before you discuss your divorce.
Although you and your spouse may be at odds during your divorce, it is critical to your children’s well-being that you present a unified front when you do talk to your children.  Once you’ve decided to discuss your divorce plans with your kids, make sure you’ve picked a neutral time and location for the meeting.  It is best to be honest with your kids, without going into too many unnecessary details.  It is also very important to assure your children that both parents love them, and that love won’t go away.
Your children may take the news hard, or in stride. Your kids may struggle with the fact their lives will never be the same.  You can help your children by fostering their relationship with the other parent.  A parent’s biggest mistake in a divorce is putting the kids in the middle of their own emotional battle.  Keep your kids out of your arguments with your spouse.  No good can come of highlighting the bad qualities of your child’s other parent.