You and your spouse must negotiate the divorce terms to agree on key divorce issues. While this can be challenging, there are strategies you can use to communicate with your spouse and negotiate the terms of the divorce, including the following:nUnderstand the difference between a contested and an uncontested divorce. A contested divorce involves issues that a judge must settle. In an uncontested divorce, both spouses agree to work together to resolve their issues outside the courtroom. Couples will come together and negotiate the terms of the divorce. In most cases, an uncontested divorce is much less time-consuming and expensive than traditional litigation.