Turn Deem on and place it against your clitoris. You should start to feel the vibrations pulsing through you.  Be patient and kind with your body, and give yourself time to experience these new sensations. If you don't, add a little bit of lube and move Deem around, exploring different areas of your vulva to find the spot that feels most pleasurable to you. A small amount of lube can help avoid any friction that could lead to redness or irritation. Deem’s speed levels and vibrations differ to create different degrees of arousal.  Start with the lowest speed, then gradually work your way up to discover the one that feels right for you. Remember that Deem is not intended for vaginal insertion.