You should balance sensitivity to their emotions with a rational understanding of their needs. Some elderly people will accept their increasing limitations and recognize the importance of developing a strategy to address them. Others will feel reluctant to confront the effects of age and will fight hard to retain their independence. Either perspective is understandable, and you will need to approach discussions of elder law issues carefully. However, if you suspect that your parent is being abused or exploited, you should not hesitate to take action. If you are not able to care for them regularly, you should take the time to identify other people or organizations that can fill the gaps. You should not feel compelled to neglect your own health or the well-being of your family so that you can care for your parents.