There may be no bodily involved anymore, but the emotional component remains, and if this connection is with someone other than your existing relationship, it is not a good indication. You're having an emotional affair, which is still considered cheating. People have affairs for many reasons, but most often it is because they are looking to replace one feeling or experience with another. They might feel lonely, bored, neglected, or even ashamed and insecure about themselves and their relationships. An affair can also be a way for someone to gain control over their life or to escape from their problems. Finally, some people have affairs because they are in love and believe that what they are doing is right. An affair can happen between two people who are married to each other, or it can even happen between friends or colleagues. Sometimes there is no specific reason why someone would want to have an affair, but usually there is something missing in their lives that makes them feel incomplete without another person. Whether the infidelity is open or hidden, whether it is just once or repeatedly, whether it is with someone else in a relationship or out of pity for those who seem less fortunate than they are - the only thing that matters is that it is wrong.