It is entirely normal that separating people have some level of anger, resentment or disagreement between them. The collaborative process does not require a perfect relationship to be successful. However, it does require that spouses have respect for one another, a commitment to acting fairly throughout the process and a desire to work together to find a solution, even if they cannot agree on what that solution looks like at the outset. Often, spouses are able to agree on some fundamental goals they have in common, including, for example, ensuring that their children feel loved and supported, or that they can both attend future events like graduations or weddings without conflict. Often, with the help of a family neutral, spouses can begin to address underlying issues between them and improve their relationship for the future. Parties who have an extreme level of conflict or who are unable to work together to identify at least some common goals may find that the collaborative process is not the right fit for them. A collaboratively trained lawyer will work with a client to determine whether this is the case.