Relationships are time-consuming. Relationships are hard work. Being a good partner requires investing in each other, being there for each other, listening to each other, and taking time away from your own needs to support each other. Relationships tie people down. Being unconnected brings a lot of personal freedom. When you’re committed to another person, you have to consider the other person and her needs. You can’t simply do whatever you want (or flirt with whomever or take attention or favors from whomever). Relationships can take up a lot of time and energy, and some people just don’t have the physical, emotional, or mental capacity for that. Many people prefer the security of a relationship, but some people aren’t willing to trade away the freedom of being single, especially if they have other goals or obligations (building a business, making art, taking care of a family member, or traveling the world without being held back by another person’s needs or desires). Some women are emotionally unavailable. It’s impossible to change this about someone. If a woman is emotionally unavailable, there’s nothing we can do to convince her to become available. She’s not withholding anything; an emotional connection is simply not something she has to give. Whatever you think she’s withholding is just your own projection (your own desire to love and connect).