We suggest you call the VA Helpline and explain your situation, though you will probably be told the veteran themselves must seek care, unless he’s a danger to himself or others. The National Veterans Foundation has support assistance as well as local resources you may Google: https://nvf.org/. Another is the VA Homelessness line, https://www.va.gov/homeless/nationalcallcenter.asp and ask their assistance. Both schizophrenia and bipolar disorder are complex and need medical care to manage, but it IS possible. For yourself, there is an excellent resource, www.Vets4Warriors.com. This is a helpline staffed by veterans, milspouses, caregivers, and others who know the military lifestyle and the problems that come with that. They will happily take your call, text, or email and have resources to guide you to additional help. Regrettably, when one person serves in the military, often so do family members. By seeking help for YOU, you will be given tools to manage the stress of your son and his choices. Know you are not alone, and please take care of yourself and your marriage. Being a parent never ends, and you are a blessing to your son. Wishing you the best of success with this difficult problem.