In the evening, the child came to employ the poet. 14 She found him sitting by the river with a rapt audience of birds before him. She said "Poet, please write a poem for me on this theme: 'The one who comes first to hire the poet shall be the master of the song.'"' Now it happens that there is no one special person who comes first in life. But according to what has been said about marriage being a covenant between two people, we can assume that it was your husband who came first. In other words, he hired the poet. This does not mean that you have to wait for him to give you a call before you can see someone else. Or that if he calls another woman "wife" then that ends our argument. All it means is that according to God's perfect will for his world, marriage begins with him hiring the poet. He did so because he loved her and she deserves better than anyone else available. Not only that but also because he knew that she would love him back even more than anyone else could. It's simple really - he wanted to make sure that she was his first priority before moving on to any others.