We now live in an increasingly kink-positive world. Hurrah! Not before time. This had a marked impact on how we classify different types of sex.
There are many plusses to this ongoing shift in attitudes. Experimentation is celebrated. Shame is diminished.
But simultaneously, a different type of shame appears. Yes, Gay Vanilla shaming is a real thing. And it’s built on the idea that if kink doesn’t get you hot and wet then you’re a tedious lay.