Chances are you can. A mediator’s job is to facilitate communication. While you and your spouse may not be able to agree on issues, after listening to both of you, a mediator can often help you find common grounds. To some extent a mediator can also act as buffer and help diffuse arguments. It helps when you each can say your piece. And sometimes hearing your spouse’s side of the story is a good thing, helping you look from a different perspective and find a way to compromise. If you are absolutely opposed to sitting in the same room with your spouse, many mediations occur where the parties never even lay eyes on one another.