Couples’ counseling and/or marriage counseling are most effective when both partners are present.  When each partner is present a fuller, more balanced and nuanced perspective is provided. In situations where only one person enters therapy and the focus is marital therapy, I will work with the partner who has entered therapy and we will work toward the goals that person has established. Working individually to accomplish goals for your marriage is possible and realistic because therapy changes a person, deepening their self-understanding, the dynamics of their marriage, and how they interact with others.  It invites them to dance differently with their partner and when they dance differently it will have an impact on the partner.  Never underestimate the power of one person changing.  It is always possible that when one spouse sees changes in their partner that they may be more open to entering counseling.