It is my understanding that only 4 states in the United States allow marriage by proxy.  California happens to be one of them.  However, California limits the ability to be married by proxy to specific situation and a specific class of people.  Here is the law:The law allows marriage-by-proxy in California for members of the armed forces who are stationed far away in wars or conflicts. It allows them to give their power of attorney for someone to stand in for them during their wedding ceremony. Documents have to be signed and acknowledged by a notary or by two military officers. Section 350 of the California Family Code.So unless you guys fit in to this specific class of people stay away from the proxy website.  Good luck.