Here are some organizations and suggestions for you, but please seek out a VSO to assist you since your situation is somewhat unusual, but you are still legally married. Go to www.veterans.ny.gov for the NY State Dept. of Veterans Affairs or call 1-888-VETS-NYS for guidance to programs to help you. If you need help paying the bills, ask about the social assistance from New York at www.needhelppayingbills.com. Non-profits usually assist the veteran, but a faith-based support system may exist near you that may help, along with counseling and perhaps employment support. Social services through the state can provide temporary help and be specific about what you need: transportation, emergency funds, childcare, and employment help. You may also wish to contact www.publiccounsel.org for legal advice.