What occurs to you isn't as important as how you react to it. When something bad happens, the only thing you can do is choose whether to accept it or hate it. It's your choice. If you choose to accept it, that's fine too. But if you decide to hate it, then you're in trouble. The way you react to things is an indication of what's going on inside you. If you cry when someone dies, you know that you're sensitive. If you stay calm in stressful situations, you have control over yourself. These are just some examples of how you react to things. The most important thing is that you understand how you react. Sometimes we feel like reacting in a certain way but instead we must respond in another way. For example, if someone hurts my feelings, I might want to get even with them, but instead of hating them, I should forgive them. As long as they don't hurt anyone else, their actions aren't worth getting angry about. It's not what they did, but rather how they act towards me that counts. In other words, they're important people in my life so I'll keep my feelings to myself unless I need to say something. We all know people who seem to take pleasure in making others' lives miserable.