You'll never know where you are in your relationship with a cancer man who is playing you. In one minute, he'll act like the ideal boyfriend, and the next, he'll act as if you don't exist. He'll also try to blame you for every conflict and disagreement you and your partner have. This player will do anything to keep you hooked, even if it means lying to your face. Here are some signs that your boyfriend or husband is a cancer player: He makes decisions without you. Your cancer man may seem like he participates in decision-making processes, but actually, he's making them up as he goes along. If you ask him what his plan is, he won't have one; instead, he'll come up with something new that he thinks will keep you interested. This player will keep you off-balance by being unpredictable. He's secretive about his life. Your cancer man will not want you to know anything about him that can be used against him in court. He might claim that he doesn't have any secrets from you, but that's only because he knows that you wouldn't tell anyone else anything inappropriate. This player has plenty of secrets that he hasn't told you about, such as another girlfriend or wife. He changes his story depending on how you feel about him.