Don't use your fingers to separate your curls after you wash your hair. Detangle your hair in the shower with a wide-tooth comb, then wash your hair. After you rinse out the shampoo, scrunch a leave-in conditioner into your hair while it's wet. Then, open your hands and let go of your curls. Don't run your fingers through your hair after that, because you don't want to separate your curls. Air dry your hair, or you can use a blowdryer with a diffuser if you want a little more volume and lift.