Allowing insecurities to keep us inside our bubble. Example: I've lived here for five years and don't know my neighbors' names. Not adjusting the busyness in our lives to make space for neighboring. Dave and Jay in the “Art of Neighboring” identify several harmful lies that we believe that seem harmless but can wreak havoc on our lives: Lie #1: Things will settle down someday. Lie #2: Everybody lives like this. Motive matters. Neighboring is more of a Crock-Pot approach rather than an Instant Pot approach. If you jump the gun, they will think you care more that they join the church than join the kingdom of God. Not forgiving. If you live in a neighborhood long enough, there will be disagreements. If you let those disagreements simmer for too long, they will eventually cause a fire. The ability to forgive is key to relationships.