They objectify the emotion rather than embracing it as a feeling. They're distancing themselves from their feelings. If you're emotionally open, you may talk about your feelings as if they're something you're actively feeling. If your spouse is not emotionally available, this might be a source of concern for them. They might feel like you're trying to make them feel something they're not. Spouses need time to process their feelings. If you can understand this, then talking about your feelings will not be a problem for you. If your spouse shuts down when you try to discuss their feelings, this might be a sign that there is a problem between you. They may be feeling controlled or overwhelmed by you. You might want to consider seeing a counselor together. They could help you work through some of your issues around communication and intimacy.