Dealing with toxic elderly can be a tricky and emotionally draining task. That doesn't mean you have to give up, though. With the right tools, you can learn more effective ways to approach conflict situations with toxic seniors.  Begin by validating their feelings and remaining respectful as much as possible so they don't feel attacked or unheard. Respect is key, but it also helps to recognize that sometimes the behaviors of an elderly person stem from deep despair or anger at feeling powerless.  It's important to try and understand their perspective while gently showing that while you may not always agree on a topic, you care about them enough to engage in the conversation respectfully.