No. However, the criminal court system has some procedures that the civil system does not have like probation, which may be effective in dealing with abusers. That said, pressing criminal charges may have unintended consequences on other issues like child custody and support so you should discuss the pros and cons of criminal charges with your lawyer to make a decision that is best for your family.  Some jurisdictions have evidence-based prosecution, such that law enforcement/the State of North Carolina can press charges on behalf of the victim even if the victim does not want or request such action.