Relationships that are anxious-avoidant can work, but occasionally couples are simply incompatible. Attachment anxieties may not be deal breakers on their own, but they might be when combined with incompatible needs and beliefs. Anxious or avoidant behaviors may serve to protect someone from being hurt again, but these defenses can also prevent them from experiencing intimacy and happiness. Anxious or avoidant behaviors may not be apparent right away, but over time they will likely cause problems in a relationship. If you are aware of any anxious or avoidant behaviors in your partner, discuss this topic with them so that you can better understand each other's needs and feelings.