Every situation is different, which is why it’s important to think about how to best make amends for your past actions. Some options you may consider include:
Making amends by replacing items that you stole or damaged
Making amends by paying back the money you borrowed or stole
Making amends by offering a genuine apology with no excuses and working to improve your relationship with the person you hurt
When you make amends, you want to be as specific as possible in explaining the reason for your actions. Don’t simply say, “I’m sorry for everything I’ve done to you.” This can be seen as an attempt to minimize the effect your actions had or to imply that the other person doesn’t have a right to be upset. You want to specifically state what you’ve done to cause harm, then express your commitment to lasting change. Listen to what the other person has to say, validate their feelings, and ask what you can do to help rebuild trust in your relationship.