Dont wear band, game, or joke tees as your default attire anymore. Make an effort to dress and smell good. Get a haircut/style that is flattering. Clear up your skin if needed. If youre overweight, reign in your diet and become more active. Most importantly, dont think of women as this nebulous hive-mind monster you have to impress. Come up with your own standards and wants in a woman, and strive to find a woman who meets them as close as possible. If you go looking for just cute girls with nothing else in mind, you will open yourself up to being abused, and/or conned. Talk to women, all kinds of women, and any fears or sheepishness you have of them will go away. Youll also be able to better discern a woman's maturity, mentality, and character. Theres plenty of weird looking guys out there with families. Theres poor crazy men out there with families. You have just as much a chance as them, and better. Read more