According to Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky (author of The Myths of Happiness), there are three main happiness myths that make us miserable: 1. The myth of happiness as a destination. We often think that happiness is something that we will achieve once we reach a certain point in our lives, such as getting married, having children, or getting a promotion. However, Lyubomirsky argues that happiness is not a destination, but a journey. It is something that we must work at every day, and it will fluctuate throughout our lives. 2. The myth of happiness as a feeling. We often think of happiness as a feeling, such as joy, contentment, or peace. However, Lyubomirsky argues that happiness is more than just a feeling. It is also a state of mind, a way of thinking about ourselves and the world around us. 3. The myth of happiness as a personality trait. We often think that happiness is something that we are born with, or that it is something that we cannot change. However, Lyubomirsky argues that happiness is not a personality trait. It is something that we can learn and grow into.