You are doing a little estate planning and that is a good thing.  There are many organizations that can help you plan with out the need to spend money on huge legal fees. Please seek them out.  What you should do is gather all his important legal documents and put them in one place. At the very least have him execute a Durable Power of Attorney, a Living Will, and Medical Directives (like a Do Not Resuscitate order). If you can discuss a Living Trust or a Life Estate in real property with some one please try.  Good luck.