If someone is kissing you too hard or with their tongue when you don't want it, you should be able to pull away and say, "I like it when you kiss me gently, like this." Following: We Just Kissed! After that, step back and look them in the eyes. You are not required to say something straight immediately. Another ideal opportunity to attempt to convince someone to kiss you is after a date, when you say goodbye in the car or at the front door. If you're at a party or a social gathering with your crush, ask them if they want to get a drink or walk outside for some fresh air to get some alone time with them.