A husband might put you down as a means of dealing with their own sense of incompetence or insecurities, and many psychologists say that when someone is putting you down they are actually projecting their negative feelings about themselves on to you. If your husband is constantly putting you down, you need to make it very clear that that sort of behavior will simply not fly, and if they still don’t learn, you need to leave the situation for good because they are not going to change.