If you're like most people, you're already feeling a bit uneasy. Not simply because you're sad about your friend's misery, or because you're uncomfortable with being privy to such private information. If we're sensible, there's something more for most of us. We also have a strong feeling of foreboding. As if something bad is going to happen. Your body language says it all - you're leaning away from your friend, and you might even be looking over their shoulder. Your instinct is telling you that something isn't right. And it's not just you - animals sense danger too, and will avoid strangers or even familiar faces. The reason why you feel so uncomfortable is because you're putting yourself in emotional jeopardy. When you hear something sensitive like this, the best thing to do is keep silent. Even though it might hurt not to know what's going on in your friend's mind, they need to tell you themselves. It's better for them to get closure later rather than early. Sayings like "there's no point asking why someone tells you they're sorry - they don't really mean it" are true more often than we would like to admit. But that doesn't mean we should stop trying to understand them. Sometimes we can learn from our friends' mistakes, and sometimes they can help us through ours.