It can be confusing and worrying when you never want to have sex anymore. The good news is you don't have to settle for a low or non-existent sex drive. In fact, there are lots of things you can do to start wanting sex again. It all starts with asking yourself the most important question: why are you not in the mood for sex anymore. When you answer that question you'll also know what you need to tend to to get your libido back. Common reasons for not being in the mood for sex are: Biological causes such as hormonal birth control, menopause or chronic illnesses like hypothyroidism or diabetes. Psychological causes such as feeling unattractive, depressed or anxious, or experiencing shame and embarrassment surrounding sex. Relationship causes such as feeling pressure to have sex, high levels of conflict in your relationship and feeling a lack of emotional intimacy. Cultural causes of low desire are comparing your sex life to how you think it should look according to society, or feeling like you're broken because you believe you should want sex all of the time like the media suggests. The above clearly shows how low libido can be multi-faceted and how truly understanding what's going on underneath the surface will point you to the solution/s so you can long to have sex again and revel in the pleasure.