Think vanilla ice cream. The plainest of flavours. Minus any additions. No tangy sauce to titillate your taste buds. And certainly no chocolate chips. Boring, some may say.
Similar assumptions are made about being Gay Vanilla. Indeed, the term is frequently used as an insult. Because we all know that gay men can be amongst the judgiest of peeps.
Typical Gay Vanilla sex acts include the good old-fashioned hand shandy. A blow job. Minus tonsil tickling. And if you’re lucky, some anal exploration. But slowly and gently does it. God forbid it gets too heavy.
Broadly speaking, Gay Vanilla is used to describe anything that’s not part of the kink or BDSM sphere.
But the issue here is that people’s views on what constitutes heavier sex vary. Often greatly.