Sometimes it can seem like you can’t help someone, especially if they don’t realize they’re in an abusive relationship. But the best ways to help them are simple. Be there for them, and let them know you’ll continue to be there for them. Listen to them, and try not to tell them what to do. Be supportive, and suggest they talk to someone. Offer to go with them if they want. Reach out. If you think something is wrong, ask them if there’s anything they want to talk about. One of the best things you can do for someone who may be in an abusive relationship is to listen to them and be there for them. Believe them. The fear of the abused is that no one will believe them, and, in fact, their abuser may tell them that directly. Check in with them. Just continue to let them know you are there. Abuse is always a tinged topic and invites a lot of high emotions. We need to be better at not blaming the victim and not minimizing the abuse. I know a lot of men especially won’t report abuse for fear of being shamed, made fun of, disbelieved, or emasculated. I was raped by a woman in college, and, while I wasn’t overly affected by it, I was laughed at and even congratulated for it. At the end of the day, just try and be there for anyone you think may need support. If you’re the one who needs support, please reach out to the resources in this article.