Generally, wedding vows fit into three categories: a qualities pledge, a vow pledge, and a mixed qualities-pledge vow. A qualities pledge is an outpouring of love for your spouse-to-be, while a vow pledge tells them what you plan to do to support and love them throughout your life journey together. A mixed qualities-vow pledge is a combination of the two. If you and your partner decide that you're not going to share your vows until the ceremony, you might want to discuss which approach makes the most sense for you so that your vows to one another flow nicely.