1) You can't get medical records of your stay destroyed; not only is there nothing improper about the facility and pyschiatrist keeping records of a legitimate visit or stay, but they are actually required to keep them by ethical and insurance rules.2) You can't get records of a civil committment destroyed, since those are public documents.3) The psychiatrist may have committed a breach of the governing medical ethical standards, and you can certainly report him to the state agency which liceneses doctors and pyschiatrists for that, but you most likely cannot sue him. That's because to have a viable lawsuit, you need not just wrongoing on the part of the other party, but also damages (such as an economic injury) *directly* caused by the wrongful act. Telling your father about your being held would not directly have caused  you any cognizable losses or injuries (the law does not provide recovery for embarrassment or being distraught)--even if your father then in turn misused the information to injure you, the psychiatrist is not responsible for that misuse, since there was an intervening action by another party, which broke the causal chain.