People can only be in love with one thing at a time. You can't be in love with your wife and your work simultaneously - you'll need to make a choice between them. A person can certainly have feelings of affection for both their job and their partner at the same time; it's just that they're only able to feel one way about each situation. In other words, if you love your job, you'll probably love nothing else. If you love something else, then you won't be able to love your job. Having said that, there are some people who can work under extreme conditions for long periods of time without any problems. These people are usually very successful at what they do so there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to find such a person attractive. The only problem is that they're rare. Most people can only handle being in love with one thing at a time. If you want to fall in love again, you'll need to get over your current relationship first.