In the worst-case scenario, an unfaithful spouse will not demonstrate guilt because he or she does not feel remorse. This may be the case in couples with profound or long-standing issues and resentments. It may also be the case when one partner has committed many infidelities over a long period of time. The unfaithful spouse may even try to justify his or her actions by claiming that he or she was wronged in some way by your current partner. This may be true in cases where there have been emotional affairs, but it does not apply to physical infidelities. In this case, the unfaithful spouse is acting out of self-interest rather than love. If you think your spouse is cheating on you, try these suggestions: Ask questions. Be sure to ask specific questions about your spouse's behavior. For example, you can ask if your spouse has been seeing someone else. You can also ask if your spouse has been having an affair. However, do not ask directly if your spouse is cheating on you; that would be invasive and could cause a fight. Show understanding. Even if you believe your spouse has done nothing wrong, he or she will still feel loved if you show sympathy for his or her situation. Tell your spouse how you feel about his or her actions and listen without judgment.