When shooting a DM, be friendly, and if the person is receptive, ask directly in a way that can potentially lead to a real-world connection. Joy Ofodu, a content creator and host of podcast Dating Unsettled, believes the best way to approach Instagram flirting is to first try and discern whether or not they’re single. If unsure, it's okay to ask for clarity via a DM, but be sure to ask respectfully. Avoid sending a thirst trap message and prioritize building rapport first.