We all know the classic wedding vow line, “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” But the reality is that divorce rates increase dramatically following traumatic life events like the death of a loved one, severe physical or mental illness, miscarriage, bankruptcy, or foreclosure. If an external stressor has caused your marriage to fall apart, you may want to hold off on the decision to dissolve your marriage until after you’re both able to move past the trauma, at least as much as is possible. You may find that your marriage wasn’t the problem, after all.