You may not need another father; all you need to know about him is that he exists. You may have grown up without a father. Or perhaps you had a stepfather who wasn't all that loving—or who wasn't really a father figure at all. In any case, not knowing who your biological father is may have left an impression... You may be a little shy around men because you're not sure how they'll react to you. Maybe you think they want to control you or abuse you. Or maybe you just don't trust them. Whatever the reason, if you don't know this man and he hasn't taken the time to get to know you, then he can't be your father. He might think he knows you well enough by seeing you on television or in magazines, but until he has the opportunity to get to know you face-to-face, he doesn't know anything for sure. You must understand that being a father involves more than just providing money for your children's education or buying them gifts on their birthday. It also means giving them guidance and helping them learn from their mistakes. This man cannot do that if he has never met you before now. So don't let another man become your father simply because he gives you money or takes care of you when you are sick. If he has never shown you any love or affection, then he isn't your father. You need someone who is capable of caring for you and directing you toward better decisions.