If your partner is just a bit apprehensive about therapy, talk to them about their concerns. Usually, one partner is more enthusiastic about attending therapy than the other. This is normal. For many people the idea of revealing personal things in front of a stranger is daunting. Some people are also afraid that the therapist might take sides or criticise them. Reassure your partner that this isn’t the case. A professional relationship therapist will remain neutral and provide an open, safe and confidential space to help you work together for the benefit of your relationship.
While it’s ideal to attend couples counselling together, if one partner refuses to attend it is still worth seeking relationship help individually. You can gain useful skills in communication and conflict resolution that you can use to improve your relationship. Or you might gain a better understanding of your needs and how to express them.