Itu2019s unclear if you are the one who has the contempt hearing or STBX. Regardless, different judges do wildly different things. Never know in family court especially with no lawyers and no one brings a court reporter. Most judges would not hear a motion to modify custody at a rule to show cause hearing. A few would. To move things along. Itu2019s improper.If you are to be held in contempt advise the judge why you should not be held in contempt. Bring whatever supports your claim. Donu2019t be argumentative.If itu2019s your ex looking at being held in contempt you just need to show up. judge will ask you whatever he needs to. Try not to interrupt. If you want him/her held in contempt ask yourself why. Many judges see a contentious litigant as difficult and usually rules against them. If itu2019s for attorneys fees itu2019s understandable. Otherwise just say you want whatu2019s in the kids best interest and focus on the kids in any statements.If you arenu2019t getting to see them bring dates. Phone records. Photos from social media. Texts. Whatever goes to your immediate need to see the kids.Most judges wonu2019t admit it but retired judges have told me they knew in first few seconds or minutes what they were going to rule. So be civil.