Love is not self-seeking means that love is not just looking out for ourselves, but also the welfare of others. In other words, Biblical love is not about us continually seeking things within our best interest but rather looking out for the interest of others. Self-love is widely promoted in our culture and while this is important, it is not God’s desire to exclusively seek our own welfare. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others. Phillipians 2:3,4