As Aurelius points out, losing a loved one may happen to anybody. However, not everyone is unaffected by it. We are in mourning; we are conscious of what we have lost. But we've come to realize that "genuine good fortune is what you produce for yourself." Stoicism teaches that our minds - not our feelings - control our actions. So, despite the fact that grief is normal, it doesn't mean that we aren't rational people. We make choices every day based on what has happened before and what could happen in the future. Grief just makes us more cautious. Also, remember that while we can never truly escape death, we can try to escape from its apparent inevitability. That's why Aurelius tells us not to fear something that will probably happen anyway. He wants us to live life to the fullest while we can.