Thatu2019s a hard oneu2026..There is no simple answer to this. From my perspective, the most important thing you can do is let your spouse know how much you care for them, and that their well-being is very important to you. That being said, honesty will be paramount in this situation. Coming out the first time is like biting into aluminum foil, it hurts. And no matter how you phrase it, itu2019s likely your spouse will feel pain. Once you tell them, accept their feelings , be it anger, disbelief or feeling used. Past that point, the future is up to you. Stressing that you want your spouseu2019s support and input could help them becomw willing to start a conversation on what comes next. I wish you the very best.