Divorce after 30 years implies that the family's matriarch and patriarch will be living apart after many years of sharing a house, which means that holidays and get-togethers will most certainly alter. You or your spouse may decide to live with your children. Some families opt not to split up their assets or seek joint custody if one parent isn't willing to agree to this type of arrangement. If you were the wife and didn't get support from your husband after his 30 year marriage failed, you might feel like quitting. However, since divorce is an option, you should never give up hope of being reunited with your husband in the future. Even if he doesn' want to reconcile, at least you know you weren't responsible for the breakup. Your husband's new love interest might also be part of the equation. If he finds happiness with someone else, he might not want to burden you with his personal issues. Likewise, you would not want to lose your husband to another woman. Under these circumstances, it might be best to separate peacefully instead of fighting over who gets the kids or the money. The length of time that a couple spends together determines the type of relationship they will have later after divorce. If you both work full time but spend much of your time with your children, you'll have a close bond that won't be easily broken.