However, considering how close a 16-year-old is to maturity, forcing a child to visit the non-custodial parent against his or her will may have long-term emotional ramifications for their relationship. It's best if you can work out a compromise with your child's father so that he doesn't force the issue. If this situation arises again in the future, be sure to include your child in the discussions about visitation rights. If you think it's important for him to see his father, let him know ahead of time so he has time to adjust his schedule. Also remember that state laws on visitation may be different from what you believe to be right. In some states, judges can order children to visit their parents even if they don't want to. If you are in such a situation, it's best to agree on some kind of visitation plan with your ex so there aren't any arguments over who gets the right to make decisions about the child's life. Finally, remember that at age 16, your child is still being educated by his or her parents, not by you. So unless you have been granted specific permission to make your own decisions about the boy or girl's upbringing, don't try to do so. The best thing you can do is be patient and understanding.