In April 2014, it became compulsory for separating couples in England and Wales to consider mediation before issuing divorce proceedings. Couples have to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before they can apply for a Court order to settle disputes over parenting, finance and property.
There are exceptions where there may have been serious domestic violence in the relationship or child protection issues, in which case, exemptions will apply. Otherwise, attendance is necessary to find out about mediation as an option although you cannot be forced to mediate.
Family mediation is a voluntary process for separating couples. If your case is considered suitable for mediation by the mediator after they have met you and your ex, you must both agree to mediate then a first joint mediation session is arranged that usually lasts about an hour and a half.