One might say this is more complicated. To us, a shower or bachelorette party is acceptable if this is the bride's first wedding. The most frequent bridal shower gifts are kitchen gadgets like pots and pans, but if it is the bride's second wedding, she likely already has everything she "needs" to set up housekeeping. You could celebrate with the couple and give them gifts they can use in their new house. These are not issues for couples who are getting married for the second time.