Choosing an agent can be difficult. Often spouses or siblings have a hard time making difficult decisions on behalf of a loved one. Plus, you need someone who understands the responsibility of being a healthcare agent and who is willing to accept the task. You need someone confident and assertive enough to enforce your wishes, which may be against the wishes of loved ones or their own beliefs. It may be difficult to find one person who fits your criteria. To make it even more challenging, you actually should consider appointing two agents. You need two agents in case the first one cannot, for whatever reasons, fulfill their duties. It is also helpful if your agent lives close enough to be there when you need them.