I am in a somewhat similar situation. Except it wasn't drugs and violence. Instead, my kids were sleeping at my exu2019s house when the police arrested him at 3am for carnal knowledge of a juvenile.They were 3 and 5 at the time. As you can imagine, being awakened by pounding on the door and then seeing their dad hauled off in a police car was a traumatic experience for them both. It still breaks my heart that they were there to witness it.My kids are 7 and 9 now. That night was the last time they ever saw their dad unsupervised.I enlisted the help of a very good therapist to deal with the aftermath. I used the judge as an excuse for a long time. But kids ask a lot of questions and can be pretty persistent. Eventually, I had to give them a little more information so they would not constantly worry that I will be whisked away in the middle of the night.I've worked to keep it on a level they can understand without being overly critical of their father. At this point, they know that their dad did something he knew was wrong. They also know that it involved having a girlfriend that was too young.What they don't know is that sex was involved. Hell, my 7-year-old doesn't even know that sex exists.Now that they're getting older, I do worry about the day they decide to Google their dadu2019s name. The first thing that pops up is a news article detailing the charges along with his mugshot.