The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs cannot help you in complying with State laws, especially if you volunteered to apportion your benefits (and moreso if there's a State law or court order requiring the apportionment).Quora is a lot of things, but a place to get detailed and personal legal assistance it is not. You need to seek professional legal and financial assistance off the site. My personal advice would be to find a lawyer who's experienced in veteran benefits laws who may be able to work an arrangement with the State where less of your benefits are apportioned, but that may or may not help resolve your other woes. Best of luck to you. Thanks for the A2A, Jon.