Ask yourself whether your child attending funeral services will be disruptive during this solemn occasion (crying, fussing, talking, wiggling, or unable to sit still). Children who are very young and can’t understand what is going on generally should not attend services. Not only may they disrupt the service, but the grief displayed may be upsetting to them. It may be appropriate to take older children who knew the deceased and have at least a basic understanding of the service. Children old enough to understand death also should understand the purpose of a funeral and be allowed to ask questions before or after the service and to work through their grief. If they will be attending the service, they should be told what to expect so they can be prepared. This is especially important if there will be an open casket. Addressing questions in advance also helps prevent spontaneous and potentially embarrassing questions during the funeral. Recognize that children, like adults, may respond to grief with humor, behavioral issues, and sleep problems. Be patient and tolerant.