While the love avoidant may develop addictions in order to keep themselves apart-work, substance abuse, sexual encounters, and so on-their spouse may have no idea what sparked this behavior and begin to blame themselves. Love avoidants frequently attract love junkies mysteriously. Sometimes an addiction will manifest itself in a love-seeking behavior while others remain oblivious to their condition. Love addicts cannot stay away from those they love. They require attention and affection in order to feel alive. Without it, they suffer from deep depression which often leads them to make irrational decisions or engage in self-destructive behaviors. Love addicts will go to any length to get their needs met. This can include stealing from spouses or children, using drugs and alcohol excessively, and committing acts of violence. Love avoidants are people who have issues with intimacy. They may feel uncomfortable being close to others because they're looking for signs that their love is not worth investing energy in. If they give their love to the right person, they will change this habit. Intimate relationships are difficult for anyone who avoids feelings. You must deal with your emotions upfront in order to have healthy relationships with others. Love avoidants usually have problems with trust and faithfulness. If you are involved with such a person, try not to take their lack of interest in love affairs as rejection.