If Freud was sitting here with us, from a psychoanalytic perspective, he would say there are a number of possible theories as to why this phenomenon occurs. For one, our society idealizes masculinity. Growing up in a homophobic culture where anything associated with femininity as a man is deemed unacceptable, a damaging collective assumption is made that “gay men aren’t real men.” As such, for a gay man to “land” a straight man, it can be seen as the ultimate validation that he’s accepted and approved of after what may have been a life lived in which he felt different, rejected, alienated and perhaps even bullied and harassed. This is his ticket to feeling OK, and this then gets eroticized and draws the gay man further into a cycle of seeking out heterosexual men. For some men who experience “father hunger” due to a disconnected relationship with their father, this unresolved issue gets projected into a cycle of seeking sexual conquests with straight men to feed that longing they have for a connection with their father by using sexuality as the vehicle.