If you are asked by the family to be a pallbearer, consider it an honor. You should accept unless you have physical limitations that would keep you from helping to lift and carry the casket. If you must decline, do so with regret, and explain why. The funeral director will inform you of your duties at the funeral and, if applicable, at the graveside. Pallbearers usually carry (or, in the case of honorary pallbearers, accompany) the casket to the front of the church or funeral home, to the hearse, and from the hearse to the burial site.