7 Steps to True Forgiveness Step 1: Acknowledge. Acknowledge the hurt. ... Step 2: Consider. Consider how the hurt and pain has affected you. ... Step 3: Accept. Accept that you cannot change the past. ... Step 4: Determine. Determine whether or not you will forgive. ... Step 5: Repair. ... Step 6: Learn. ... Step 7: Forgive. Dec 10, 2013