If you meet someone on a dating app, the standard procedure is to first text and then call before asking someone out on a date. Before meeting in person, it is critical to determine whether there is strong verbal chemistry. "Most women feel safer after initially conversing over the phone," she continues. "This gives them time to look at your profile and learn more about you before they get into their car with you." In other words, starting with a phone call allows you to see how a woman reacts under pressure. You can find out if she is shy or outgoing, if she likes being talked to over the phone, etc. This can help you decide if the two of you would be a good fit romantically. Calling a woman first also shows that you are interested in her and that you are not just looking for a one-night stand. It demonstrates that you are a secure person who knows what he wants in life and is capable of taking charge even when faced with a situation where most men would have chickened out. As for texting, it's much faster than calling a woman and requires less social interaction from you. If you send a message and don't hear back right away, that doesn't mean that you should give up. Sometimes people need time to process messages and will get back to you later. In the meantime, there are many other men out there who might want to take advantage of you!