We all have an ego, but some of us do a better job at subduing it than others. When an action, incident or event takes place, we have control over how we respond to it. Anger and rage are considered low hanging emotional and immature responses which, if left unchecked, can eventually destroy us.As the saying goes, “before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” The negative energy and 24/7 battle you’re waging against your opponent will eventually boomerang back onto yourself.It takes time, energy and usually money to consistently stay pissed off. You have to remain in fighting mode. And if it isn’t the health risks and effects of consistently high cortisol levels that get you, it might be the nagging realisation that the person or thing you are fighting probably doesn’t give a shit about you. They’re probably out there living, maybe knocking back beers with mates, or managing their other vendettas to spare any time or energy thinking about you at all. As a society, we tend to be in greater awe of those who rise above and develop an indifference to the ones who wronged us. Being unphased by the wrongdoings of your boss, colleague, mate or past lover is a whole lot harder than playing out your days consumed by the drama of it all.  Harder, sure, but it’s more liberating too, and needs to be perfected if you want to get the maximum upside from spite with zero downsides. If you let go of your vengeance, you can return to living a life being defined by the present moment, and not one where your past confrontations go on to determine your future. Spite definitely has a place in our world. So much that if everyone, everywhere, gave up all at once in having the last say, humanity might reach a point of total and terrifying equilibrium with an indefinite halt in societal progress. But spite should only be seen as a useful strategy to the point it can get you going, and make you feel better about yourself, not worse.If you’re an easy victim to spite, at some point in the days or weeks that follow it, you need to ensure your key source of motivation transitions beyond needing to prove your worth and obtain validation, towards a more elevated state of consciousness. Use it to get you to the point you have the valuable product, service or mindset that can create something of value and lasting change in the world, and then let it drop to your wayside so you can finally be free to enjoy it once it gets you the winner. Liberate yourself because we only have a finite time on this Earth. Besides, you can always go the Disney route and write in a cheeky bi-line in your will, to ensure your revenge is reenacted by others who can carry out the dirty work for you. In 2006, Disney Studios bought back the rights of “Oswald” from Universal. Game, set, match.RELATED: Life Hacks By Larry David: The Art Of Saying No