Make creative date nights — Whether it's trying a new restaurant or cooking a meal together at home, taking the time to plan something special for just the two of you can help keep the spark alive. 2. Talk about your fantasies — Discussing fantasies and desires can be a great way to explore each other's sexuality and deepen connection in an ongoing lesbian relationship. 3. Take classes together — Learning something new together can be a great way to bond and have fun! Consider signing up for dance lessons, painting classes, or even martial arts training. 4. Get silly with role-play — Role-playing can be a fun way to spice things up between partners and help add some excitement into an ongoing relationship. 5. Find ways to show appreciation — Showing love and appreciation for your partner is important throughout any relationship but especially in an ongoing one! Look for ways that you can surprise your partner or show them how much they mean to you on a daily basis (like leaving love notes around the house).