You might not agree with all the habits of your partner. Be vocal about it. According to experts, this feeling could be nothing but a reaction to your past trauma. You need not feel ashamed or embarrassed.  Understand that Love languages are more about how we want to receive love, not necessarily about giving love.  A person might have suffered from abuse or assault in the past. The bitter experience leads to the development of post-traumatic disorder which triggers unpleasant feelings when faced with a similar situation. There could be another reason why such uncomfortable situations arise like your family background or culture. Often, we grow up in families where moral ethics do not allow any affectionate physical relationships. Eventually, you feel guilty about having a physical relationship with your partner (if you’ve one). This is extremely natural and is triggered by your upbringing. Dr. William. H. Masters, an American gynecologist, established a theory of Sensate Focus. It is a three-step process that helps you get rid of the awkwardness and successfully build a sexual relationship with your partner.