During any decision-making process—be it ordering dinner at a restaurant, signing a mortgage, or deciding whether to pursue a serious relationship—we can easily become swept away in a wealth of considerations. But this internal dialogue is also the backbone of the decision-making process and the way we cover our bases to make sure we make decisions we’re happy about. When it comes to matters of the heart, our emotions can make things more complicated—fear of rejection can deter us from pursuing a relationship, and feelings of self-doubt and insecurity can drive us to talk ourselves out of shooting our shot at all.