Thinking that you are open might be different than actually acting like it. It is helpful to focus on feeling open and confident to ensure you are not appearing closed or guarded. Although it can be nerve-racking to meet new people, especially single men, being vulnerable is necessary in creating and maintaining intimacy and love. It is common to put up walls to protect yourself from pain, fear or rejection, but be aware these same defenses can get in the way of a great man approaching you. Our body language is one of the major ways we communicate our feelings and who we are to others. It can be even more powerful than what we say with our words. Gaining awareness about your body language will be useful in determining if you are putting out intimidating vibes. If you are unsure how others perceive your body language, ask a male friend to see what he thinks. A smart and respectful man who is interested will look for encouragement from you to determine if he should approach you or hold back. If you find yourself prone to crossing your arms, looking down or avoiding eye contact, it is likely men feel it is not in their best interest to meet you.