Meet the expert: Tony Dunne is an independent celebrant trained by The Academy of Modern Celebrancy. Tony says: Writing your vows can be daunting, but if you follow some simple guidelines, then it can be the emotional highlight of your wedding ceremony. It's important to discuss your vows with your partner before you start composing them, so you can agree how long they should be, whether you would like them to include humour or to be traditionally sentimental or romantic. Remember to be yourself. If you're a romantic person, then this is the time to be as sentimental as you wish, and don't forget to tell your partner what you love most about them. Read your vows out aloud a few times before the day to ensure you're very familiar with them, as you may be nervous on the day. Finally, keep your vows secret from your partner until you're declaring them at the ceremony. This will heighten the emotion and love felt by both of you and your family and friends.