But we loved with a love that went beyond love. It's a study of obsessive love, doomed love, that keeps the mind occupied for a while as we try to figure it out for ourselves. It is a romantic idea to hold on to your love after the death, actual or metaphorical, of the one you love. Love is not just a feeling but a decision that you make about another person. Love is not just chemistry or biology, it is an act of will. Love is not just happiness, it is also pain. Love is not just pleasure, it is also work. Love is not just attraction, it is also responsibility. Love is not just inspiration, it is also wear and tear on the body. Love is not just unity, it is also division. Love is not just complementarity, it is also asymmetry. Love is not just resemblance, it is also difference. Love is not just community, it is also isolation. Love is not just equality, it is also inequality. Love is not just communication, it is also silence. Love is not just memory, it is also hope. It's a beautiful phrase that captures well how much our love for her exceeded the normal bounds of friendship. Here are other ways this phrase has been translated: "our love was deeper than words," "our love was greater than love," and my favorite "our love was nothing short of divine."