Based on life situations and stress levels, every relationship passes through periods of increased and decreased physical intimacy. However, there are a few indicators to keep an eye out for that could suggest deeper concerns with intimacy. Here are some indicators that you have an intimacy phobia: You don't trust your partner and don't communicate well with them. You aren't emotionally open and do not discuss serious life issues with others. In the bedroom, you are often unable to express your desires. You prefer to have physical intimacy scheduled and prevent any unexpected encounters in the bedroom. You stay away from physical contact. Due to trauma or negative childhood experiences, you tend to self-sabotage.