For me it's realising the best version of a mum my kids will get and the best version of a wife my husband will get is that I’m happy and my core needs are attended to. It’s different for everyone, mine is making sure I’m not too tired because I can get snappy, and realising when I need to have a nap. Drop the kids off at nursery and have a two hour power nap whereas before I’d feel massively guilty so I never let myself fall below a certain percent. Getting out and around people, you have to be happy, even if it means more time for you it will impact you and your kids time too.