Forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not for the person who has harmed you. Forgiveness necessitates a willingness to forgive. Sometimes you won't because the harm was too severe, the individual was too aggressive, or the person exhibited no sorrow. But forgiveness is your choice no matter what others may think or say. The truth is, you can never fully know how another person's mind works or why they did what they did. All you can do is look at their actions and judge whether or not you can forgive them. If you can't then that's your prerogative. But unless they confess their sins, show remorse, and ask for forgiveness, there's no point in trying to get it from them. People who have inflicted great pain on you will often need help forgiving themselves, not only because of the injury done but also because of the behavior they displayed while doing it. This is especially true if the person who hurt you is still living with or near you. They must find ways to understand what they did wrong and why they should be forgiven even though they don't feel like it. Forgiving someone who has hurt you doesn't mean that you condone what they did. It means that you believe they are worthy of being treated humanely and granted a second chance. Without forgiveness, nothing can ever change and all our efforts would be in vain.