Even if a guy is interested in marriage, he may be unsure how he will handle these duties. Most men are frightened of commitment because they believe they will no longer have control over the direction their life would go as a result of their lack of confidence. The fear of marriage can also come from experience. Perhaps someone in his family has walked down the aisle before now and it did not work out. Or maybe he has seen some of his friends' marriages struggle for attention or money with often terrible results. Regardless of the cause, when a man does not feel comfortable with marriage he will try to find ways to avoid it. He may do this by saying things like "I don't want to get married yet" or "I'm not ready". Even if you aren't looking for a long-term relationship, every woman wants to know that her partner is willing to settle down and commit. So keep writing those e-mails and make sure you are available on his date night plans. If you notice that your boyfriend is trying to weasel out of getting married then tell him so. Explain to him that you want to save your energy for after you both marry other people and that you cannot do your best if you are busy trying to convince him to live together first. Finally, remember that fear of marriage is normal.