The first reason is often a lack of knowledge about how couples therapy works, how long it takes, or what the goal is for being there. Often people believe that marriage counseling is only used as a last resort before getting a divorce.
Many people consider themselves very private, and don’t want to share an intimate part of their lives with a stranger, while others don’t think that they should have to pay someone else to help them get along.
Most couples wait years before making the commitment to go to couple’s therapy. It’s never too late, but delaying therapy can allow issues to escalate, while attending therapy earlier may have provided some relief for both people. Most couple are not aware of the benefits that therapy can provide, such as improved communication skills, putting old issues to rest, and learning to “fight” fairly.