Push-pull provides you with a tool for growing and expanding a woman's existing attraction to you. It's like Miracle-Gro for her romantic affections for you. It is frequently the difference between a scrawny runt of an attractor tree and a large one in full bloom. Pulling out the weeds keeps the tree healthy and strong. The term "push-pull" was first used by John Gray in his book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". The idea here is that men are naturally driven to seek power and control over their environment while women are driven to nurture and protect those around them. Men are attracted to women who show dominance and authority, while women are drawn to men who demonstrate strength and confidence. In terms of dating culture, push-pull is used when describing a type of relationship where each partner tries to pull the other away from their own kind (i.e., men pulling away from women or women away from men). This type of relationship tends to be short-lived because neither party gets what they need from the other situation often leading to breakups. Asking a girl if she wants a "push" or "pull" relationship with you is just a fun way of asking her which kind of man she is looking for. Most girls will say they want a balanced relationship, but many are looking for someone who can give them what they need from a partner at different times!