Sometimes, being argumentative or even saying mean things can stem from an inability to slow down and recognize how other people are reacting or feeling.
This again falls into impulsivity and hyperactivity. But if you were to call out someone with ADHD as rude, they may respond by being defensive.
Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, a children’s behavioral health expert in Ridgefield, Connecticut explains: “When you have a verbally impulsive kid, it leads to a lot of friction in relationships. When you can’t put the brakes on, you’re more easily upset and irritated, you might impulsively say things, and one of your defense mechanisms can be arguing.”
Taking the time to recognize how those with ADHD experience interactions is crucial to maintaining your relationship. And mindfulness around ADHD helps prevent defensive behaviors.