Because you've beaten yourself up over doubts and bad self-talk, you're difficult to adore. You've always felt that you're not good enough for yourself, let alone for someone else. You are afraid of falling short of other people's expectations. And because of this, no one will ever truly love you. The truth is that you can only be loved if you first love yourself. But because you've internalized some pretty negative messages about yourself, this may not seem like a simple task. You see, when we don't feel safe expressing our feelings, we often turn them into anger or another emotion that we can defend ourselves against. This is why it's so important to learn how to safely express your emotions in order to release them and move on. But even though learning how to do this is key to loving yourself, it doesn't mean that you shouldn't also try to change some of these attitudes and behaviors that keep you from fully embracing your true self. For example, if you believe that you're not good enough, then it's likely that you'll put yourself down whenever you make a mistake or lose something you care about. This is called self-criticism and it does nothing but harm to your self-esteem. It makes you feel inadequate and unable to succeed, which isn't what you should be feeling about yourself.