Mismatched libidos can be hard to deal with, but you can get to a good place. First, understand that neither of you is abnormal. Sex drive varies greatly from one person to the next and there's no "normal." Identify what gets the partner with lower libido interested and increase those activities. Find alternative ways to satisfy the partner with the higher libido. See if stress management, moderate exercise, and dietary approaches can help increase the lower libido. Find ways to connect emotionally, as that may increase desire. If you've seen a change in sex drive in either of you, talk to a healthcare provider. There could be a medical reason.