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Hi there, so the brain is an intricate machine designed to protect you and
help you survive. And some brain’s use the tactic of dissociation 
http://bit.ly/dissociatedangers  . So yes,
this is what happens, for many people this is ‘normal’ (we put normal in
quotes as there is no one size fits all, humans are diverse, normal doesn’t
really exist). So what would be great is to learn new ways to handle stress
and stay grounded instead of drifting off, such as mindfulness 
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then speaking to a counsellor would of course also help, if that’s something
that is possible for you, to see if perhaps unresolved traumatic experiences
from childhood are by any chance involved here, as if there are any that
started this habit of dissociation then it would be great to get help dealing
with them. Otherwise, if you you are young enough you are still living at home
with your parents, note that a lot of people find that this sort of thing
clears up when they get out on their own and become independent adults making
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It all sounds very challenging and like you are dealing with an awful lot. And
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**Some individuals lead their life in a sort of ‘extended shock’ after** 
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**This sort of ‘long-term shock’ is now starting to be be diagnosed as its own
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Hi Lisa, gosh, that is a heck of a lot for one person to navigate. PTSD can go
on for a long time and we can need a lot of support along the way. You might
also be still dealing with grief and bereavement, which is also a process we
have to ride through. We have an article on therapies that work just for
trauma here  http://bit.ly/therapyfortrauma 
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therapy that focuses on the past where you keep talking about the past can
keep you triggered. Therapies that help reprogram the brain are really useful,
like EMDR. Others in this vein are CBT, clinical hypnotherapy, and BWRT.
Otherwise, trauma can also make us more self aware. It can be like a giant
flashlight shining on all the things we used to put up with but can no longer
bear, challenging us to change things for the better. Do you, for example,
like your job still? If not, is there something else you’d rather be doing
now? How could you take steps toward a transition? Best, HT
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Thanks for sharing with such honesty. It certainly sounds like you’ve had your
share of challenges in life. And it’s not surprising you’d have signs of PTSD.
Things like abuse in childhood can leave you with long-term PTSD-like
symptoms, as if you live your whole life in a sort of shock. And finding out
your husband had another secret life would have also been a terrible shock.
And yes, some forms of psychotherapeutic thought would see things as holistic,
meaning the physical body can experience inexplicable symptoms due to
psychological duress (you might find another one of our articles that
addresses this interesting, 
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Hi Al, thanks for sharing. Feeling disconnected like that is called
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PTSD. You might find our article on dissociation useful 
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think you are upset about the issue. The brain is complex when it comes to
trauma. We can have layers of trauma, and the one memory that is actually
upsetting us the most might even be something that ‘logically’ is less
traumatic than other things. Therapy can dig down into those layers, helping
us release backed up emotions, but it also can give you tactics for handling
this sort of dissociated experience. That’s why we can have a traumatic
experience but mentally feel it’s no big deal but then have crazy symptoms. It
acts as a trigger. But it’s not about what happened, it’s about how you feel.
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Gosh sounds painful! If the pain is very severe it is a good idea to go to the
doctor just to rule out any physical problem. Otherwise, it is true that
emotional pain can trigger physical pain. And mourning is an intense process
that can take time to work through. It might be that losing your uncle
combined with the stress of exams has caused your muscles to be tense. There
is an easy guide to a technique therapists use with clients to release tension
here, it’s called “Progressive Muscle Relaxation” – 
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