An apparatus that enables non-penetrating sex between a first user and a second user comprising: a first element (207, 333, 510, 602, 752, 782) comprising an opening configured to fixedly or releasably couple with a tubular element (102, 202, 422, 501, 603, 800, 912, 913) on an open end of said tubular element; and, a second element (104, 204, 304, 402, 424, 431, 435, 511) comprising a coupling element configured to fixedly or releasably couple with said tubular element on a second end of said tubular element opposite of said open end; said first element coupled directly or indirectly to a first user at a first external portion of said first user; said second element coupled directly or indirectly to said first user at a second external portion of said first user, and wherein said second end of said tubular element is located proximal to an inner portion of a garment (601, 701, 710, 711, 720, 730, 740, 750, 760, 770, 781) that is in contact with said first user, and wherein at least a portion of said tubular element extends between said inner portion of said garment and said first user; wherein said second element secures said second end of said tubular element in a position that is external to all orifices of said first user; wherein said second element secures said second end of said tubular element in said position during said non-penetrating sex to prevent said second end of said tubular element from entering any of said orifices of said first user; wherein said first element and said second element are configured to immobilize said open end and said second end of said tubular element relative to said first user such that said first element and said second element ensure that both said open end and said second end of said tubular member remain external to said first user when a second user moves a member in and out of said tubular element during said non-penetrating sex, and wherein said tubular element is configured to remain outside of all of said orifices of said first user during said non-penetrating sex. a first element (207, 333, 510, 602, 752, 782) comprising an opening configured to fixedly or releasably couple with a tubular element (102, 202, 422, 501, 603, 800, 912, 913) on an open end of said tubular element; and, a second element (104, 204, 304, 402, 424, 431, 435, 511) comprising a coupling element configured to fixedly or releasably couple with said tubular element on a second end of said tubular element opposite of said open end; said first element coupled directly or indirectly to a first user at a first external portion of said first user; said second element coupled directly or indirectly to said first user at a second external portion of said first user, and wherein said second end of said tubular element is located proximal to an inner portion of a garment (601, 701, 710, 711, 720, 730, 740, 750, 760, 770, 781) that is in contact with said first user, and wherein at least a portion of said tubular element extends between said inner portion of said garment and said first user; wherein said second element secures said second end of said tubular element in a position that is external to all orifices of said first user; wherein said second element secures said second end of said tubular element in said position during said non-penetrating sex to prevent said second end of said tubular element from entering any of said orifices of said first user; wherein said first element and said second element are configured to immobilize said open end and said second end of said tubular element relative to said first user such that said first element and said second element ensure that both said open end and said second end of said tubular member remain external to said first user when a second user moves a member in and out of said tubular element during said non-penetrating sex, and wherein said tubular element is configured to remain outside of all of said orifices of said first user during said non-penetrating sex.