Baby born after parents die shows wonders of a grandparent's love

It might seem impossible to think that a baby born after parents die could survive. But a baby boy in China has, thanks to surrogacy, as well as the unwavering devotion of his grandparents.

Baby born after parents die is the fulfillment of a long-held dream

When Shen Jie and Liu Xi of Jiangsu, China were still alive, they always dreamed of having a child. So they had several embryos frozen with the intent of going through the process of in vitro fertilisation (IVF).

But sadly in 2013, the young couple died in a car crash. After their untimely demise, their parents decided not to let their children’s dream of being a mum and dad die with them.

They also saw the embryos as a way to preserve their family line. And so began a legal battle to gain the rights over the embryos.

“[The embryos] are the only carriers of the two families’ bloodlines, and they carry the memories of their parents and can provide emotional consolation to them”

Baby born after parents die in car crash four years ago just turned 100 days old! | Screenshot:
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Eventually, the parents were given custody of the embryos, considering that “the embryos left by Shen and Liu are the only carriers of the two families’ bloodlines, and they carry the memories of their parents and can provide emotional consolation to them.”

In 2014, they started to work on a way to get the untransplanted embryos after learning that it could only be transferred from hospital to hospital.

What’s more, surrogacy is not legal in China. So they had to find other alternatives. Two years later, they found an agency in Laos where commercial surrogacy is legal. After they sifted through 20 candidates over the course of a few years, they chose one surrogate mother.

Baby born after parents die is now happily in the care of his four loving grandparents | Screenshot:
BBC News

On the 9th of December 2017, the surrogate mum gave birth in China. Since she was of Laotian citizenship, the grandparents had to prove that the baby was their grandson through blood and DNA tests.
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After years of waiting and fighting, they finally became grandparents. They named the baby boy Tiantian, which means sweetness, hoping that his arrival would bring joy to both their families after the bitter fate their children suffered.

Sources:

The Straits Times
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BBC News

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"I caught my son masturbating for the first time"

Jamie* is a single mum of sons Leon* (aged 10) and Marcus* (aged 7). They live in a cosy apartment in Siglap, and the boys have their own rooms. Jamie works as a nurse and does late night shifts from time to time. Her boys are looked after by their domestic helper, who lives with them.

“Being a mother of 2 boys, I thought I had seen it all. Like Ray Romano said… Having children is like living in a frat house – nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up. This pretty much sums up my life. I can safely say I’ve been winging it so far, but when I got to this conundrum, I was stumped as to what to do.”

“I never prepared myself for this situation. And I should have been.”

Definitely not a moment a mum would like to put down in her memory book, but here is how the story goes…

I got home around midnight on a Saturday night after a long day at the hospital- the hall lights were off, and the boys’ bedroom doors were shut. I usually check in on them, no matter what time I get home, just to hug them goodnight. This was a routine, and tonight, like every other night, I walked into Leon’s room first, to say goodnight.

As I entered, I noticed that the night lamp was switched on. There, in the dim-lit room, I saw him rubbing himself. I could see everything! I was so stunned, I didn’t know how to react. I froze for a few seconds, just staring down at him, and he freaked out, started yelling for me to leave the room, and took his blanket as cover.

I dashed out, and found myself feeling a mix of emotions. I was furious, disgusted, yet concerned. Telling myself to calm down and let him have his space to ‘recover’ from that encounter, I went into my room, took a shower and spent all that time trying to think of how I was going to approach him to talk about it. We had to talk about it – there was no way we could pretend it didn’t happen.

I kept thinking, “But he’s only 10. Is this normal? Where did he learn how to do it from? Does Marcus also do it? What should I do?”

A few minutes later, I knocked on his door (regretting not having done that earlier), and entered his room. He was snuggled in a corner in his bed, looking all flushed and worried. I felt sorry for him – I didn’t want him to feel victimised. This incident called for an awkward conversation – and it was happening then. I had to do it.

I sat down next to him, held his hand, and told him, “It’s okay. But we need to talk about this. I know it’s a natural thing that boys do, but I was not aware that you were already doing it. Tell me how you feel about it and we can sort this out together.”

“Mum, this is so embarrassing, please don’t tell Marcus”. I assured him that nobody will have to know about this- this was between him and me. He sat up, looking shy and didn’t have eye contact with me. I didn’t push for it because I too felt uncomfortable.

“Sorry mummy, I felt this weird feeling and I just started stroking it. It felt normal. I have been doing it in the shower a few times now. Is it wrong? During sex education in school we covered this and I know what it means. But is it too early for me to be doing it?”

I explained to him that it was a natural process and he had nothing to be ashamed of. I took the opportunity to reassure him that these changes are meant to be, and were part of growing up. I made him understand that masturbation is private but not shameful. Of course, I was secretly thankful that his teachers had already had that talk with the kids – it made this conversation so much easier to have!

It also made me feel good to know that the school was raising a generation that recognises
masturbation
 as a natural part of human sexuality.

He felt better after a while, and by me showing that I was not there to judge him or reprimand him, made him feel more at ease. I did not want to scold him for it, because he wasn’t doing anything wrong. Yes, it was an unfortunate circumstance that I had to walk in on him, but it was not a ‘bad deed’.

We then moved on to chat about what the other boys in school have shared with him about them experimenting with their own bodies, and it was interesting to know that kids at this tender age were very confident about themselves and fully aware on how their bodies work. I actually felt safe hearing the things he was telling me.

Now I know that I have a whole other conversation to have with his younger brother soon!

How to talk to your kids about masturbation

Masturbation. Testicle. Vagina. Why beat around the bush? These are real words to include in sex education and are essential to what makes us human. And parents, there’s no comfortable or easy way around it.

Have an honest and effective conversation with your kids when you deem fit – this conversation has to happen sooner or later. Let your child know that as he gets older, he might want to explore his genitals more and enjoy the sensations of touching more, and explain that is normal.

Another, more creative way, is to give him a good, readable kids’ book on puberty and sexual development. Before buying, look it over yourself to make sure you like its approach. Place it in your child’s room, where he can look at in private, and casually tell him that you’ve left it there for him to look at, only if he wants to. Offer to talk to him about any questions he may have later.

It’s also important to let your son (more specifically in this case) know well before puberty that wet dreams are a normal part of growing up. Reassure him that he can’t control it, and that ejaculation is just a physical sign that he’s growing into manhood.

The key is to show your child that you are there for them at this stage of their life, which can be a scary period for them. Your child may feel guilty about this unless you reassure him/her that it’s not only normal but healthy to have sexual feelings, and that everyone masturbates, though they may not talk about it.

*All names in this story have been changed to protect the identity of those involved

(Story as told to Pavin Chopra)

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The Importance Of Folic Acid During Pregnancy & Why You SHOULD Take It

Folic acid is necessary for everyone, but it is especially vital during pregnancy since it helps to avoid congenital disabilities. This article will discuss this acid, why it’s vital for pregnant women, and more.

What is folic acid?

Folic acid is a synthetic version of the B vitamin folate.  Supplementing folic acid and consuming foods fortified with folic acids, such as some morning cereals, are two ways to obtain folic acid into one’s diet.

Folate aids in the formation of red blood cells and the development of your baby’s neural tube into their brain and spinal cord.

Photo by Anastasiia Chepinska on Unsplash

The importance of folic acid for pregnant women

There are a few reasons why folic acid is vital for those who are expecting. Firstly, folate aids the body in the production of healthy new red blood cells.

The oxygen-carrying red blood cells transport oxygen throughout the body. Folate deficiency anaemia can occur if the body does not have enough folate in its diet to produce enough of these cells. This can result in tiredness, weakness, and a pale complexion.

If you’re pregnant, your baby’s neural tube may not shut properly if you don’t get enough folic acid in your body. Neural tube defects such as spina bifida and anencephaly are major health concerns that affect life quality and lifespan.

Spina bifida is a condition in which the spinal cord or vertebrae do not fully mature. In contrast, anencephaly is a condition in which critical regions of the brain don’t fully grow.

Anencephaly babies do not generally live long, and those with spina bifida may be handicapped for the rest of their lives. So, these are frightening issues.

The good news is that taking enough
folic acid can reduce the risk of neural tube abnormalities
 in your baby by up to 50%.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), taking enough f
olic acid can lower your chance of having a kid with a neural tube defect
 by as much as 70% if you’ve already had a baby with one.

Moreover, folic acid may help to lower the risk of other pregnancy issues, including preterm labour and problems with the development of the baby.

How much folic acid should you take?

Before you get pregnant and until you’re 12 weeks pregnant, you should take a dosage of 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid every day. If you didn’t take folic acid before being pregnant, you should begin as soon as you learn you’re expecting.

Your baby’s spine will have grown by the time you reach 12 weeks pregnant, so you may stop taking folic acid. You can, however, continue to take supplements after 12 weeks if you choose, and it will not endanger your baby.

Consume folate-rich green leafy vegetables, as well as folic acid-fortified morning cereals and fat spreads.

It’s challenging to acquire enough folate from diet alone to ensure a safe pregnancy, which is why a folic acid supplement is essential.

On the other hand,
breastfeeding mothers
 should aim for about 500 mcg each day.

What form is folic acid available?

Photo by Damir Mijailovic from Pexels

Here are a few ways you can get folic acid:

Food

Some food manufacturers must add folic acid into enriched grain products such as breakfast cereals, bread, pasta, and rice. For example, some fortified breakfast cereals provide 100% of the daily required quantity.

This is intended to benefit women who do not take a supplement and do not intend to become pregnant.

Here’s a list of foods that are rich in folic acid:

Avocado

Dark green vegetables like broccoli or spinach

Citrus fruit or juice

Tomato juice

Bananas

Milk

Peanuts

Eggs

Dried peas or nuts

Corn masa (can be found in tacos)

Lentils

Supplements

Folic acid can also be taken as a vitamin or supplement. These tablets are widely available in pharmacies.

Surprisingly, research reveals that
folic acid from supplements is absorbed far better by the body than folate found naturally
 in specific meals. Furthermore, foods can lose folate during storage or be damaged by cooking.

Folic acid in pregnancy- when to stop taking it?

It’s suggested that you take folic acid until you’re 12 weeks pregnant if you’re pregnant or trying for a baby. This lowers the chances of issues with the baby’s development during the first few weeks of pregnancy.

Can you take folic acid tablets before pregnancy?

Yes, you can. The CDC recommends
women of reproductive age consume 400mcg of folic acid daily
. This is to ensure you have enough folic acid to help prevent some birth abnormalities. In fact, folic acid should be part of your diet if you’re planning on getting pregnant.

Can you take folic acid to get pregnant?

Folic acid won’t help you in getting pregnant. Nevertheless, it is very essential in helping you achieve good development in the neural tube. Hence, folate will be helpful for women who are of reproductive age.
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Conclusion

Remember that although folic acid is highly beneficial, it has been known to cause nausea, loss of appetite, wind, and bloating in some people.

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How To Tell If Rashes Are More Than Just A Harmless Rash: Signs To Look Out For In Kids

When a child gets rashes randomly, it can be really frustrating to figure out where it is coming from.

Since their skin can be quite sensitive, they could be getting rashes from the changing of laundry detergent, or the material from their new clothes they just grew into.

We would investigate and try to eliminate these reasons from the list of why they might be sporting rashes.

But if you have done everything you can to try and identify the root cause of their rashes and you’re still unable to determine it, one of the things that it might be, is the start of chickenpox
1
.

How to tell if your child’s rashes is chickenpox

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Chickenpox is a common disease that affects children. The virus that causes chickenpox is known as varicella virus, the same virus that causes shingles. It is a contagious disease and can spread from person to person
1
.

A person infected with this virus can experience fever and rash with blisters. It can spread through
1
:

Air when a person with chickenpox coughs or sneezes.

By touching the fluid that comes out of the blister.

So if your child has recently been to the playground and in contact with other kids who might be carrying the virus, they might have caught the varicella virus. To determine if it might be chickenpox, parents should look out for these symptoms
1
:

Fever, feeling unwell and tired, five days before the rash appears.

Small red spots that itch on the whole body. Usually the rash starts on the chest and back, then spreads to the face, head, both arms and legs.

Within 24 hours, the rashes will look like water blisters (blisters), then burst, dry out and become crusty (4 -5 days).

New spots will continue to appear for five days and take two weeks to disappear.

Usually, chickenpox infection results in lifelong immunity. However, the virus may hide and recur as shingles in adults and sometimes in children
1
.

What should parents do if their child is infected with chickenpox?

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If your child is experiencing symptoms, you should take your child to the doctor. Because children tend to scratch their blisters, they are at risk of complications arising from chickenpox such as a skin bacterial infection, which might require an antibiotic course
2
.

There are some ways that parents can help relieve their child’s discomfort. But we highly recommend getting a proper treatment plan from a doctor and do not administer any medication to your child without a doctor’s prescription.

Other than that, there are other things you can do:

#1. Make sure your child doesn’t scratch!

Scratching the rash can worsen the skin infection if your child has already caught the bacterial infection and it would leave scars
2
. Try these tips to soothe your child’s itchy skin:

Cold oatmeal bath (you can buy it at your local pharmacy). Dab or pat (do not rub) your skin dry.

Apply calamine lotion on itchy spots.

Try antihistamines, such as
diphenhydramine
, to reduce itching
2
.

Wear loose cotton clothing to avoid skin irritation
3
.

Cut their nails so they are not able to scratch and collect bacteria under the nails.

Put gloves or mittens on them if possible
2
.

#2. Stay in a cool area as much as possible

Heat and sweat might further agitate your child’s rash. Try to keep them in a cool area, turn on the fan so there is sufficient air circulation. And use a cool, damp cloth to dab on very itchy areas to soothe their skin and make sure to dry it properly later so it doesn’t become a breeding ground for more bacteria to grow
3,4
.

#3. Give them plenty of fluids

Do make sure your child gets plenty of fluids to prevent them from becoming dehydrated
3
.

Try to give them water over sugary drinks, especially if they already have chickenpox rashes near the mouth. Avoid giving them acidic or salty foods that can make their mouth sore
3
.

Ways to help prevent infection, and/or to stop the infection from getting worse

Of course, we hope for our children never to have to suffer through chickenpox. And thankfully, there is a way we can try to avoid them getting chickenpox, one of which is to get them vaccinated
4
.

The varicella vaccine is given as a preventive measure to put children at less risk of contracting the disease, spreading it to others or developing complications as a result of having chickenpox
1
.

Immunisation activities have been introduced in Malaysia from as early as 1868. At that time, there was only immunisation to prevent smallpox
5
. But today, we have a relatively comprehensive immunisation schedule that is given to Malaysian children under the National Immunisation Programme (NIP)
6
.

Though the varicella vaccine is not currently part of the NIP, it is actually readily available at most general practitioners’ clinics, private hospitals and at your paediatrician’s clinics too
7
.

It is highly recommended that you speak to your doctor or paediatrician at your next visit to ask them about the varicella vaccine for your children.

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Besides that, parents should always ensure that the toys of children are disinfected regularly. Frequently touched surfaces should always be wiped down and disinfected to prevent the disease from spreading too
8
.

Don’t forget to practice these good hygiene habits as well as speak to your family doctor about preventive measures you can take.

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https://www.myhealth.gov.my/en/chickenpox/
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.
Last Accessed
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National Health Service Scotland. Chickenpox. Available From:
https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/infections-and-poisoning/chickenpox#treating-chickenpox
.
Last Accessed
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National Health Service. Chickenpox. Available From:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/chickenpox/
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https://immunise4life.my/the-malaysian-national-immunisation-programme-nip/
.
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https://immunise4life.my/5-additional-vaccines-for-children/
.
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Is having an orgasm during labour possible?

Most women who have given birth will laugh at the idea of having an orgasm during labour. I’ve gone through it twice, both completely natural, and I can honestly say that there was not a moment of pleasure until I held my baby at the end. Like most mums, I cant even imagine anything so painful ever causing an orgasm. However, there is proof that suggests some women are granted the big O.

Is an orgasm during labour possible?

During delivery, the baby passes through the vaginal walls, possibly pressing on the G-spot and brushing the clitoris. After the baby enters the vaginal cavity, it rubs all the areas that are pleasurable at other times. Labour is a completely different context, though. Having been through the pain of labour, it is very hard to see how a woman could have an orgasm. There is so much intense pain at that time that one would think an orgasm would be the last thing that would happen.

In 2009, a documentary entitled, “Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret,” threw the idea of having an orgasm during labour into the news. Before then, it had only been lightly discussed here and there by mostly nonbelievers. After the documentary was aired, women around the world came forward, admitting that they had experienced one of these rare orgasms but were too embarrassed or shy to say anything before.

Find out the benefits of having an orgasm during labour on the next page…

What do the studies say?

Studies are showing that this rare phenomenon of having an orgasm during labour might not be so rare at all. In a survey, midwives reported seeing orgasms approximately 3% of the time. While this may seem a low percentage, it does not take into account the orgasms not noticed or possibly even stifled by embarrassed women.

In another study conducted by psychologist Thierry Postel of Blainville-sur-Mer, France, it showed that out of 206,000 births, 1,536 women either told someone they felt orgasmic sensations or they demonstrated feeling pleasure during the birth. Suddenly, having an orgasm during labour doesn’t seem so far-fetched, does it?

What are the benefits of having an orgasm during labour?

The benefits to feeling pleasure during labour are that it could drastically reduce the pain. Receiving vaginal stimulation of any kind blocks the release of a pain transmitter, so basically the pleasure overrides the pain.

While the thought of pain relief, in any form, may be a nice idea for some women, the reality is that most women are not going to be comfortable mixing sexuality with childbirth. We are all aware that this is how the baby got in there in the first place, but the two worlds are hard to combine. That being said, if an orgasm during labour wants to surprise me, I’ll take that over the pain any day.

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The Lowdown on SPF Sunscreens - Plus 5 Natural Options to Try!

If you’re one of those beach bunnies or sunshine enthusiasts, you’ll need a way to protect your skin from the sun’s harsh rays. In fact, your risk of developing melanoma doubles if you’ve had more than five sunburns in your life, which is why doctors recommend using a sunscreen with a minimum SPF of 15 each and every day.

What Is SPF & How Does it Work?

Every sunscreen you purchase, whether it uses artificial or natural ingredients, will have an SPF rating prominently displayed on the label. It stands for sun protection factor, which measures how well the sunscreen will protect your skin from UVB rays — the radiation that causes sunburns. It’s based on how long it takes for your skin to burn naturally.

If you burn after 10 minutes, an SPF 15 sunscreen will protect you for 150 minutes before your skin would start turning red, multiplying that 10 minutes by a factor of 15. SPF 15 sunscreen blocks 93% of the radiation that causes sunburns. If you go up to SPF 30, it blocks 97%, so there’s just a 4% difference between SPF 15 and 30.

Sunscreen & Artificial Ingredients

Most readily available sunscreens are packed full of artificial ingredients like oxybenzone and avobenzone. While they are effective at blocking UVB rays, a recent study found that these chemicals can soak into the skin and be absorbed in the bloodstream. These chemicals can reach dangerous or even toxic levels after a single day of use.

5 Natural Sunscreen Alternatives

It seems like a bit of a catch-22 — you need to protect yourself from the sun to prevent skin cancer, but most of the sunscreen brands you’ll find at your local drugstore contain these chemicals that can become toxic very quickly. With that in mind, here are some alternatives — natural mineral sunscreens — that can protect your skin without all the artificial ingredients.

1. Badger Clear Zinc Sunscreen SPF 30

When you think of zinc sunscreens, you probably picture lifeguards with a thick white paste smeared over their noses, but that’s not the case anymore. Badger Clear Zinc Sunscreen uses uncoated clear zinc oxide to provide the maximum protection without those white smears. It’s a little harder to rub in, thanks to the beeswax included in its ingredients, but it’s water-resistant for 40 minutes, making it perfect for trips to the beach.

2. Juice Beauty Sport Organic Sunscreen SPF 30

Juice Beauty combines 20% zinc oxide with aloe, coconut and jojoba oils to create a water-resistant sunscreen that has no harsh chemicals and moisturises your skin. It’s water-resistant for 80 minutes, making it comparable to most chemical sunscreens.

3. Nurture My Body Unscented Organic Sunscreen SPF 32

Everyone’s skin is created differently, and some people don’t react well to fragrances or essential oils — even natural ones. Finding a sunscreen without some sort of scent can be challenging and expensive. Nurture My Body’s Unscented Organic Sunscreen uses 25% non-nano zinc oxide and other non-irritating ingredients, making it ideal for anyone with sensitive skin. However, it does have a white tint due to the zinc oxide.

4. All Good Zinc Oxide Sport Sunscreen SPF 30

If you’re looking for a sunscreen that gives you plenty of protection without feeling gross and greasy, then All Good Zinc Oxide Sport Sunscreen is a great option. Its formula, which includes green tea, buriti oil and rose hips, can allegedly help to repair damaged skin while protecting you from harsh UV rays while you’re enjoying your summer activities.

5. Aveeno Baby Continuous Protection Sunscreen SPF 50

Adults aren’t the only ones who need protection from the sun. Aveeno Baby’s Continuous Protection Sunscreen is designed for babies and children with sensitive skin. Like the other mineral sunscreens on our list, its active ingredient is zinc oxide. It also contains oats, like many other Aveeno products, which helps to soothe sensitive skin.
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4 Things Every Parent Should Know About Their Child's 12-Month Checkup

Going to the hospital or clinic for your child’s 12-month checkup is exciting, isn’t it? Your child’s growth and development are indeed your number one priority, especially for all you first-time parents out there, so this is a huge milestone for you too!

Nothing beats this feeling!

But before that, there is also a lot for you as parents, to know and learn regarding your baby’s monthly development. This is important to prevent you from worrying should your child be a bit behind in hitting developmental milestones such as walking and so on.

Babies only require 12 months to grow into active toddler
1
. In fact, during this 12 -month transformation period, they will go through an extraordinary phase. From sleeping all day to being very active toddlers.

Child Development: 0 – 3 Months

It should be noted that at this stage, babies develop physically and mentally to prepare for the outside world. They may begin to do things such as
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:

#1: Newborn physical development

During tummy time, the child holds his head up

Able to move both arms and both legs

Can briefly open his hands

#2: Cognitive development

Follow and watches movements as you move

Able to look at a toy for several seconds

#3: Emotional development

Being calm and smile in response to a voice or sound or when being picked up

Able to look at your face

Seems happy to see you when you walk up to him

Reacts when you talk or smile at him

#4: Language or communication development

Able to make other sounds than crying

Have reactions to loud noises

Child Development: 4 – 6 Months

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During this period, your baby will probably learn more and even manipulate the world around him. Babies will also begin to master the use of hands and explore their vocal abilities.

That’s why some of them tend to ‘vocalise’ a lot at this stage. It’s almost like they’re training to become professional singers!

During these 4 to 6 months, your baby will probably
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:

Roll from tummy to back

Babble or chatter, that sounds a lot like real conversations

Laugh or giggle

Reach for and pick up objects, manipulate toys and other items by hand

Have great head control when holding him

Child Development: 7 – 9 Months

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This is the second phase of the first year when your baby becomes more active.

At the age of 7 to 9 months, after learning that they can move around by rolling, your baby will then begin to learn how to move back and forth.

That’s not all, during this phase your baby can also
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:

Start sitting up without support

Respond to familiar words that sound like their names. He will start saying ‘Mama’ and ‘Dada’

Enjoy clapping activities or games such as
peek-a-boo

Child Development: 10-12 Months

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Do take note that the last developmental stage of a baby’s first year is considered a transitional phase. In fact, during this period they will learn to do things like
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:

Start feeding themselves. Toddlers at this stage of development will begin to master the movement of the pincer grasp – where they can hold small objects such as biscuits between their thumbs and forefingers

Walk around the house using their feet by holding on to furniture

Say 1 or 2 words. ‘Mama’ and ‘Dada’ are the most common nicknames for parents. Your child may also stop at his track at the word “No” and look at you.

In any case, parents are reminded to always be sensitive of your baby’s growth and pay attention if he is not reaching the level of development as he should. Most importantly, always trust your instincts.

If you are unsure of anything regarding your baby’s growth or well-being, please bring him to see a paediatrician immediately. Don’t wait too long, okay?

Child Examination After 12 Months

New parents out there should be aware that their new monthly routine is to bring their baby for checkups with a doctor or specialist at the hospital. It starts from the first month until the 12th month.

Your child has now turned a year old, so instead of just coming in and listening to what the doctor has to say, why don’t you prepare yourself with these 4 important questions to ask the doctor?

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#1: Vaccines

Ask your doctor if he or she can give you something to ease your child’s pain after a vaccine injection.

This is because at a 12-month examination, there are vaccine injections that are offered according to Malaysia’s Child Immunisation Schedule, for example Measles, mumps, rubella (MMR) vaccine
7
.

There are also additional vaccines that are recommended by the Ministry of Health which are taken at 12-month old as well, for example
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:

Varicella (chickenpox)

Influenza (flu)

Meningococcal

Hepatitis A (HepA)

These are a few of the many vaccines available for your child, do check with your doctor about the other vaccines offered for more information.

Before you decide on getting any vaccine injections, let us share some useful information on why mums and dads are advised to get their children immunised.

Vaccines for babies are important because babies have weak immune systems
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.

By giving vaccines to babies according to a set schedule, you can help protect your baby from dangerous diseases such as
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:

Tuberculosis (TB) – Can cause serious infections such as pneumonia, meningitis and can continue to spread to other organs.

Diphtheria – Toxins released by bacteria may lead to blocked airways
11
.

Pertussis (whooping cough) – Can cause whooping cough and lack of oxygen to the brain
12
.

Tetanus – Bacterial poisoning that causes cramps in the muscles of the body and affects the ability to open the jaw (braces).

Haemophilus influenzae type B (Hib) – This bacterium can cause infections of the lungs (pneumonia), respiratory tract and meningitis.

Hepatitis B – This virus can cause severe damage to the liver and increases the risk of the individual getting liver cancer in the future.

Polio – This virus can cause paralysis and even death.

Measles – This virus can cause fever, diarrhoea, vomiting, infections of the brain (encephalitis) and lungs (pneumonia)
13
.

Mumps – This virus can cause viral meningitis and infection of testicles (orchitis)
14
.

Rubella – The rubella virus can spread among humans, pregnant women, especially during the first three months of pregnancy and can cause miscarriage, fetal death, stillbirth or birth defects (congenital rubella syndrome)
15
.

Pneumococcus – This bacteria can cause severe lung infections and meningitis.

Rotavirus – This virus can cause severe diarrhoea and dehydration.

Human Papillomavirus – This virus can cause cervical cancer and genital warts.

Varicella (Chickenpox) – This virus can cause a blister like rash and fever, which can also cause shingles later as adults if the virus reactivates
16
.

Influenza  – This virus can cause epidemics of flu diseases or flu season
17
.

Meningococcal – This bacteria can cause deadly infections of the lining of the brain, spinal cord (meningitis) and bloodstream
18
.

Hepatitis A – This virus can cause short term infection of the liver
19
.

#2: Growing Up Little Ones

Surely you want to keep track of your child’s growth. The 12-month growth chart is an interesting way to track your child’s growth progress.

For boys at 12 months old, doctors will observe a weight of around 7.8 kg to 11.8 kg, and a height of 71.3 cm to 80.2 cm.

Girls are slightly smaller than boys, so doctors will usually observe a weight of around 7.1 kg to 11.3 kg and a height, 69.2 cm to 78.9 cm at 12 months old.

Head girth is also measured to ensure a child’s head size is within a healthy range.

Here is the baby development chart for your own reference:

Baby boy development chart
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Month

Length (cm)

Weight (kg)

Head Circumference (cm)

0

46.3 – 53.4

2.5 – 4.3

32.1 – 36.9

1

51.1 – 58.4

3.4 – 5.7

35.1 – 39.5

2

54.7 – 62.2

4.4 – 7.0

36.9 – 41.3

3

57.6 – 65.3

5.1 – 7.9

38.3 – 42.7

4

60.0 – 67.8

5.6 – 8.6

39.4 – 43.9

5

61.9 – 69.9

6.1 – 9.2

40.3 – 44.8

6

63.6 – 71.6

6.4 – 9.7

41.0 – 45.6

7

65.1 – 73.2

6.7 – 10.2

41.7 – 46.3

8

66.5 – 74.7

7.0 – 10.5

42.2 – 46.9

9

67.7 – 76.2

7.2 – 10.9

42.6 – 47.4

10

69.0 – 77.6

7.5 – 11.2

43.0 – 47.8

11

70.2 – 78.9

7.7 – 11.5

43.4 – 48.2

12

71.3 – 80.2

7.8 – 11.8

43.6 – 48.5

Table adapted from World Health Organization

Baby girl development chart
23,24,25

Month

Length (cm)

Weight (kg)

Head Circumference (cm)

0

45.6 – 52.7

2.4 – 4.2

31.7 – 36.1

1

50.0 – 57.4

3.2 – 5.4

34.3 – 38.8

2

53.2 – 60.9

4.0 – 6.5

36.0 – 40.5

3

55.8 – 63.8

4.6 – 7.4

37.2 – 41.9

4

58.0 – 66.2

5.1 – 8.1

38.2 – 43.0

5

59.9 – 68.2

5.5 – 8.7

39.0 – 43.9

6

61.5 – 70.0

5.8 – 9.2

39.7 – 44.6

7

62.9 – 71.6

6.1 – 9.6

40.4 – 45.3

8

64.3 – 73.2

6.3 – 10.0

40.9 – 45.9

9

65.6 – 74.7

6.6 – 10.4

41.3 – 46.3

10

66.8 – 76.1

6.8 – 10.7

41.7 – 46.8

11

68.0 – 77.5

7.0 – 11.0

42.0 – 47.1

12

69.2 – 78.9

7.1 – 11.3

42.3 – 47.5

Table adapted from World Health Organization

The doctor will also examine the child’s other limbs to make sure that everything is normal and healthy.

#3: Development Check

Another thing that the doctor will assess is your child’s development. However, remember that each baby is unique and grows at his own pace. So don’t fret too much about this. In general, a 12-month-old child should already be able to
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Take a few steps or even walking

Feed themselves food

Putting things into containers and taking them out

Babbling words like ‘mama’ and ‘papa’

Shaking their head no

Able to wave goodbye

Pick up things with their fingers

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#4: Prepare to See a Doctor

Provide all necessary information to the doctor. For example, bring along your child’s vaccination records. Also, be sure that you’re prepared to talk about your child’s health problems, if any.

If your child goes to a daycare centre or nursery, get all the information you need to know from the teacher/guardian first, perhaps regarding their developments or problems while at the centre. This way, should there be any issues with your child, you can discuss it together with the doctor during your visit.

List down the questions you would like to ask the doctor so that you have everything you need to know in order. You may also include tips on how to help increase the child’s weight or what to do if your child falls and hurts his head, for example.

It’s always a good thing to be prepared, don’t you think?

Try these tips and don’t forget to share your experience with us!

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Mum freaks out when her 2-month-old grows a sharp tooth overnight

Imagine waking up one morning to find that your baby, barely two and a half months old, sprouted a tooth overnight! Not only a tooth – but a fang! Baby teeth growth isn’t supposed to happen till they’re about six months, so imagine this mum’s absolute HORROR to find her baby had grown a fang overnight.

Baby teeth growth overnight: 11-week-old sprouts fang

Source: Facebook/Tara O’Byrne

According to an article in the
Irish Mirror
, Tara O’Byrne, mum of Oscar O’Bryne was left shocked after discovering her 11-week-old baby grew a sharp fang tooth overnight.

She told the Irish Mirror that she had gone in to check on him around 7am. “I usually give him a soother and he goes back asleep for an hour, but he kept crying.”

So, she decided to take him out. It was only after she changed him and was getting ready to feed him that she found the sharp tooth growing out of his mouth. It had grown overnight!

Immediately, Tara rushed Oscar to Our Lady of Lourdes Hospital. Here, seemingly unprofessional doctors spent more time debating what it was than actually treating her son.

Frustrated, she took him to the nearby Temple Street Hospital instead, where they were put in touch with a dentist.

Dentist removed baby teeth growth

Source: Facebook/Tara O’Byrne

“We got an appointment and brought him in. I had to hold him and hold his arms down while she took the tooth out.

But something went wrong during the procedure and the suction caused the tooth to go up the baby’s nose. “I had to wind him to get it out, but he was okay,” Tara shared.

“There were dentists coming in to take pictures of the tooth and everything. We took it home to show Oscar when he gets older.

“We were terrified at first but now we’re seeing the funny side. Me and my husband were laughing about it, it’s mad – especially at this time of the year!”

Talk about an early Halloween trick!

What is a normal baby teeth growth rate like?

Baby teeth growth only begins after six months. | Source: Pexels

While Tara’s baby’s tooth growth is super rare and out of the ordinary, baby teeth growth normally begin only at 6 months of age.

Usually, the first two teeth to grow are the two bottom front teeth, followed by the top four front teeth. All 20 teeth (10 in the upper jaw and 10 in the lower jaw) should be out by the time the child is two and half to three years old.

Baby teeth growth facts:

Generally, for every 6 months of life, approximately 4 teeth will grow out.

Girls normally have teeth before boys do at the same age.

Lower teeth will normally grow before upper teeth.

Teeth in both jaws usually erupt in pairs — one on the right and one on the left.

Primary teeth or baby teeth, are smaller and whiter than permanent teeth.

By the time a child is 2 to 3 years of age, all primary teeth should have erupted.

Children start losing their primary teeth around the age of six or seven.

This is the normal baby teeth growth chart. | Source: WebMD
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5 Reasons Why You Should Book a Family Holiday to Desaru Coast

Known for its tranquil and scenic beaches, fishing villages and plenty of nature-based activities, Desaru Coast has always been a hidden gem in Malaysia, making it an ideal family holiday destination for relaxation away from the hustle and bustle of the city.

Located along the east coast of Johor, Desaru Coast has recently grown in popularity with the introduction of its resort areas which makes it a true paradise for a perfect family holiday.

With open spaces across 3,900 acres along a 17-kilometre of unspoiled beaches, it’s no surprise why Desaru Coast is the top family holiday destination and here are five reasons why you and your family should join in all the fun.

Splashing Good Time

One of the biggest attractions for families here is the
Adventure Waterpark

Desaru Coast
. As one of the biggest waterparks in the world, it sprawled over 25 acres featuring a mix of 20 wet and dry rides, slide and attractions.

The waterpark is set against the backdrop of Kampung-themed surroundings, making it a unique experience for everyone.

Seeking for thrills? Try the Riptide ride that will sweep you away at the steepest angles and fastest speeds giving you an unparalleled feeling of weightlessness. For families with younger children, you can head over to the Kids Ahoy with three age-appropriate play areas with water play equipment and a combined total of 13 different water slides designed just for your little ones.

The Kids Club

Being on a family holiday does not mean your kids can’t hang out with children their age. Desaru Coast offers plenty of enriching space for your little explorers to embark on an exciting adventure filled with imagination and creativity.

Roxity Kids Club
™
 at Hard Rock
Hotel Desaru Coast
, for example, offers your children a chance to hang with the Roxtars, colourful, music-inspired characters with the coolest crew to keep them entertained. With extensive programmes such as learning how to play the drum to playing dress-up, and plenty more to choose from.

Private Beach All-Day!

Credit: Shutterstock

Imagine a white sandy beach, clear blue sky and beautiful calm water. Doesn’t this sound like a relaxing invitation
 to
you and your family? Desaru Coast offers a 17-kilometre stretch of beaches with plenty of space from the crowds, for privacy perfect for you and your kids.

While you will be busy working on your tan with the sea breeze gently blowing against you, your children can enjoy a casual deep as the calm and shallow seawater sets as the best setting for them.

Your toddler, on the other hand, gets to enjoy her time playing with the sands. Not only does playing with wet sand heighten her
development of fine motor skills
, but it also helps with her hands and eye coordination.

Relax & Rejuvenate

A holiday is not complete with a much-needed pampering session. While your children are away enjoying themselves at the kid’s club, parents can destress by signing up at the spa.

Hard Rock Hotel
Desaru Coast
offers
 Rock Spa
®
with a musical twist on traditional head-to-toe treatments,
Heavenly Spa by Westin
™
, offers a selection of holistic treatments to invigorate body and spirit, while
Anantara Spa
 at Anantara Desaru Coast Resort & Villas lets you discover your private ritual for full serenity.

Take It Up A Notch

Desaru Coast also offers other attractions within the Desaru Coast area including Desaru Coast Riverside, golfing at
T
he E
ls
 Club
 Desaru Coast
, hiking at Belungkor Hill, guided mangrove ride, and plenty more!

Complete your holiday with
a
few memorabilia purchase
s
 at
The Rock Shop
®
, which is Hard Rock Hotel Desaru Coast’s merchandise outlet
 that
sells limited-edition souvenirs including tees, jackets, collectable pins and more.

The hotel also has
Roxtars Toys & Sweets
™

which sells children’s plushies, and other exciting toys, as well as colourful sweet treats. Or treat yourself at
T
he Seafarer’s Gift Shop at Adventure Waterpark Desaru Coast, which offers waterpark essentials such as wetsuits and other apparel.

Desaru Coast is only a four-hour drive from Kuala Lumpur via North-South Expressway as it is located at the eastern tip of Peni
n
sular Malaysia. It is also accessible via flight – just one hour journey to Senai International Airport and another hour shuttle to Desaru Coast.

What are you waiting for?
Visit
desarucoast.com
 for more information and to book your perfect family holiday destination today!

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Breastfeeding animals by humans: The milk of human kindness?

Breastfeeding animals by humans – could it be more common than you imagined?

Did you have to look twice at the picture below? I certainly did. It shows a Thai woman
breastfeeding
 a tiny puppy while her child looks on.

The story behind this photo — which has gone viral — is that the stray pup was orphaned after its mum was killed in a car accident. So the woman in the picture decided to breastfeed the little orphan canine.

Not surprisingly, her gesture and kindness has been applauded and admired by touched netizens in Thailand and other Asian countries.

Breastfeeding animals by humans: This Thai woman took it upon herself to nourish a stray orphaned puppy.

Breastfeeding animals by humans: Not just in Asia

We hear of mothers
breastfeeding
 baby animals in other parts of the world too – like the two Swedish women who raised kittens like babies, with one of them even letting the kitten suckle at her breast.

But in contrast to the Thai woman, these two wannabe cat mums had not stepped in to help out a forsaken animal.

Instead,
reports say
 that the pair had pushed the two cats around in strollers, spoon-fed the felines who were strapped in high chairs and had also let the kittens suck on pacifiers!

The cats were taken by Swedish animal protection officers and the women were been banned from owning pets again.

Breastfeeding animals by humans: Is it safe?

It’s often true kindness that leads a human to nurse another’s baby — especially if it belongs to another species. But where should the line be drawn?

In the case of the Thai woman, she was clearly acting out of compassion for the pup, who would have probably starved to death if not for her intervention. This wasn’t the case with the Swedes who seemed to be merely satisfying their own particular brand of fetish.

Also breastfeeding a baby animals may come with health risks to both the human and animal.

Veterinary experts say
 that breastfeeding a human baby and animal baby concurrently is probably not a good idea because of the risk of certain
zoonotic diseases
 being passed on to the former.

Also, human breastmilk may not be the ideal for of nourishment for baby animals, unless short-term and in an emergency situation.

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Using Psychology to Shape Behaviour: Punish, Reward or Remove?

It’s 8pm and your son has school tomorrow. In your hand are colouring worksheets—his homework, that he refuses to do. You call his name and ask him to colour, he ignores you. You keep trying, but it’s useless. He sits motionlessly on the sofa, transfixed by Paw Patrol on the TV.

Your frustration is starting to show.

Gah. Parenting is hard work. But fret not, behavioural challenges can be overcome. It doesn’t matter if kids are typically developing or have special needs; psychology offers ways to shape our child’s habits. Behavioural psychology, in particular, is frequently employed in special needs education.

Operant Conditioning

In the early 1900s, a psychologist named B.F. Skinner studied rats and how their actions change when a response (like food pellets or a mild electric current) is introduced. From this emerged the concept of Operant Conditioning.

Operant conditioning suggests that a particular behaviour can be strengthened or decreased based upon what happens after the behaviour takes place. And guess what? It applies to humans too.

Let’s explore the 2 major responses that shape behaviour:

1) Reinforcement

Reinforcement
strengthens
 a behaviour. There are two types of reinforcements—positive and negative. These two terms don’t actually mean ‘good’ or ‘bad’. They are just words to express the presence or ‘taking away’ of something.

Let’s use the scenario we introduced at the beginning, where your son refuses to do his homework.

What do you do?

a) Using Positive Reinforcement

You could try using Paw Patrol (or anything your child likes) as a reward. Say to your child, “If you finish your colouring, you can watch 10 minutes of Paw Patrol.” Then you actually have to let your child watch Paw Patrol, as you promised.

As time goes by, parents can make it harder to earn a reward.

Another thing you could do is offer lots of praise to your child for doing homework. “Great job, Aidan! That was a very responsible thing to do,” you could express if you see your son getting on with his colouring without prompts. Throw in a high five. Children love praise and encouragement.

b) Using Negative Reinforcement

This method involves taking away something your child doesn’t like, if he does his homework. For example, you could create a rule: if he doesn’t do his homework, he will have to give you 20 cents from his allowance. To avoid the aversive stimulus (that is giving away his money), your child would probably choose to do homework instead.

2) Punishment

Punishment has the opposite effect of reinforcement. It Is meant to
weaken
 a behaviour. But like reinforcement, it is divided into ‘negative’ and ‘positive’. Let’s try a different illustration:

Your daughter pinches you hard when you try to wash her hair. She does this all the time and it gets so unrelenting that you often stop trying.

So how can punishment be used to lessen (and eventually rid of) this habit of hers?

a) Using Positive Punishment

You could impose ‘time out’. If she pinches you, tell her she has to sit alone in a corner and not do anything for 5 minutes. This is of course dependent on whether your child finds ‘time out’ undesirable. If your child actually enjoys sitting alone in a corner, this probably won’t work.

b) Using Negative Punishment

Negative punishment means removing something your child enjoys. But wait, how is this different from positive reinforcement, where your child doesn’t get to watch Paw Patrol without first completing homework?
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Remember, here you want to lessen the occurrence of a negative behaviour (that is the pinching). In reinforcement, you wanted to increase a desirable behaviour.

Negative punishment would result in something like lessening the amount of time your daughter usually gets to play with her favourite toy, if she pinches you.

Something to Ponder

This article is only a brief introduction to techniques under behavioural psychology—also known as Behaviourism. There are other learning theories that offer different perspectives and methods.

Of the methods mentioned, positive reinforcement is seen as the most effective one. Punishment, on the other hand, is considered problematic by some as it does not tell the child what to do. It only focuses on what not to do. Moreover, it can cause resentment and fear in a child.

As with most teaching approaches, not all methods work the same with all kids. Try to understand your child and speak to a teacher or therapist if you need help.

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7 Ways To Take Control Of Your Physical & Spiritual Health

Health and happiness are something we should all aim to achieve at one point in our lives. However, there are multiple ways that can help you be happy and healthy, both physically and spiritually, and sometimes, not all of them are equally effective and beneficial to one’s well-being. So, if you are feeling like you need to take control of your mental, physical, and spiritual health, here are some useful tips and tricks that will help you make that happen.

1. If you’re feeling lost, start with therapy

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We live in quite unstable times, so it’s no surprise if you currently feel anxious and depressed. Therefore, before you start doing anything else, it’s advisable to
consult a mental health professional
 who’ll be able to give you a few useful pieces of advice. Talking to a therapist doesn’t have to be a long-term commitment, but it will definitely do you good to talk to someone who knows how to listen and understand your issues.

2. Also, don’t forget your regular health checkup

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If you suspect that something might be wrong, then it’s crucial to visit your GP and have a regular health checkup, just to make sure that everything’s fine. Now, it’s perfectly understandable if you feel a bit anxious regarding the checkup, but remember that it’s better to go early and take care of a health issue before it gets too late. This is especially important for
women who are going through menopause
 since it often requires additional medical attention. Also, asking someone you love to accompany you can be of great help, as you’ll feel supported and cared for.

3. Adopt a few positive habits

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Self-care should be your biggest priority if you’re looking to improve your way of living. Luckily, there are so many to choose from:
doing yoga
in the morning,
meditation
, walking or exercising at least twice a week, just to name a few. It’s totally up to you to decide which ones work for you best, just be consistent and patient because results won’t be there overnight. Aside from that, you can also spend less time on social media, because it’s been well-known that spending a lot of time online can have a negative impact on your self-confidence.

4. Be mindful of what you eat

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For some women (and men), eating is a way of celebrating and enjoying life. Still, eating when you’re bored, lonely, or sad can be quite damaging to your gut. Comfort snacks are great, but instead of candy bars and fast food, you can also eat fruits, vegetables, and nuts. This is important because unhealthy microbes in the intestines can be the leading cause of
menopause weight gain
, so consuming probiotics can be a great way to restore your gut health and feel better in the long run. Aside from that, probiotics can reduce symptoms of some digestive disorders as well as help boost your immune system in general. Also, avoid eating late at night, and if possible, try eating breakfast every morning so you will have energy until lunchtime.

5. Practice gratitude and mindfulness

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As mentioned before, focusing on your spiritual health can seriously improve your quality of life. Now, if you’re not religious, you can still be spiritual by practising gratitude and living a mindful lifestyle. Meditating in the morning is a great way to start your day and get your thoughts in order. Additionally, being patient and learning to enjoy boredom will help you feel better and more present in your day-to-day life.

6. Make sure you sleep well

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Getting a
good night’s sleep
is crucial if you want to live a healthy and happy life. Experts recommend at least 7 hours of sleep every night, so if you have trouble dozing off, it’s essential to find a way that will help you rest so you’ll be able to feel fresh during the day. So, having a comfortable bed and staying away from screened devices is a sure way to sleep better, thus, in case you need a distraction in bed, it’s more advisable to read a book than to spend time on your phone.

7. Stay away from unhealthy things

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Sometimes, we all need to be a bit bad in order to feel better, however, indulging in unhealthy stuff on a regular basis isn’t a way to be healthy. Smoking, drinking, and eating greasy food might feel great, but it’s recommended to do so in moderation in order to preserve
your own well-being
. So, next time you feel tempted to order a large pizza, take a second to examine yourself and see if there are any healthier substitutes available. That way, you’ll learn how to practice self-discipline which, in return, will make you feel proud and accomplished.

Final thoughts

Living how to grow requires honesty and control and these tips will surely be of great help. Therefore, learn how to take care of your physical and mental health, and don’t forget to be grateful for everything that you own already. Finally, eating well, exercising, and taking care of your body is a good path towards a prosperous and happy life.

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To my partner who cheated on me while I was pregnant

Seven years.

For seven whole years, we’ve lived together, tried to build a life together. You wanted to try to have a baby, to have our own family already. I wasn’t ready, but you wanted a child so I agreed. Little did I know that, at seven months along, just a few months before I was to bring our baby out into the world, you would find another.

What’s worse, you got this other woman pregnant. What did you expect to gain from confessing? Do you expect me to forgive you in an instant? I love you, but it’s just too much. The shock of your confession wasn’t even the worst part. That the other woman knew full well that you were still in a committed relationship truly hurt. What if she were in my place? Would she want the man she planned to grow old with to find another woman and get her pregnant?

She even has the nerve to harass me, as if she has more right to you than me, who’s been by your side all these years. I put my life on hold to give you what you want, children, a family.

There are no words to describe the pain I feel. But I don’t even care about myself now. All I care about is that the stress of all of this doesn’t affect my baby. I trusted you. I didn’t think for a second that you would betray me. I was unaware that you were cheating for a year.

I choose to stay with you and you chose me. But this doesn’t erase all the heartbreak I feel. I ask the Lord why this had to happen, when I’ve accepted and prepared myself for motherhood. My mind and my heart are in constant conflict. It’s hard for me to see you each day. I don’t know if I can ever trust you again. When I look at you, all I see are your lies.

I hope I can find a way to heal, if not for me than for the sake of our baby.

This was shared in confidence by one of our loyal readers. Her identity has been kept anonymous upon her request.

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12 Ways to Be a Mean Mum and WHY Mean Mums Don't Have Bad Kids

One of these days, your child will call you a mean mum for not letting them do what they want. You might be taken aback by this. And when another person sees how well you’ve disciplined your child, you’ll get praise. Confused yet?

Take it as a compliment.

You’ve heard about spoiled children before, and it scares you. But you know that it isn’t their fault. It’s usually the parents’ fault. So when you catch yourself
not
spoiling your kids and being called a mean mum, don’t worry! That just means you haven’t given up yet.

So come on ladies, be a “mean mum.” It’s easy to see through tantrums and fits thrown by children. All you need is a firm but gentle hand – it’s all about tough love, emphasis on love.)

12 mean mum ways

1. Telling your kids to go to bed

Have you ever told your children how going for days without sleep can seriously mess them up? You should. And they shouldn’t be mad about it. Because everyone needs sleep. And if they can’t sleep,
you
can’t sleep. It’s a win-win.

2. Not giving your kids dessert everyday

The best sweets are often the ones you rarely eat. You get to savour the moment! That’s what makes the sweet a “treat.”

And kids should learn that too much sugar can rot their teeth faster than they can say “high fructose corn syrup.” Would they like to have black ugly teeth for the rest of their lives? Do they want to go to the dentist all the time? We didn’t think so! So yeah, they have you to thank, mean mum!

3. Making them pay for their own stuff

If you want something, you have to get it yourself. That’s how life works. So teach your kids the value of paying for your own stuff. Tell them how amazing it is to have full control over what you buy. Plus, they’ll learn how to spend wisely and appreciate what they buy more.

4. Not manipulating the world to your kid’s advantage

Your children will definitely experience a time when not everything will be handed to them on a silver platter. One day they’ll learn that they’re not exceptions to the rule.

So please stop manipulating the world so your kids always get what they want. You’re not preparing your children for the future, you’re setting them up to fail miserably.

5. Making them do hard things

Don’t just immediately help them when they have difficulty doing things. Let them struggle. And when they do overcome the obstacle, they empower themselves.

6. Giving them a watch or an alarm clock

Your child should learn how to value and manage their time. If they can’t, they’ll just end up being late to everything and not being able to do the things they want. A watch can also boost their confidence. It helps them feel responsible and grown up.

7. Not buying them the best and the latest

You aren’t doing your child any favors when you spoil them. So be a mean mum and teach them that  they can’t have it all.

 They should know that having the best and the latest things isn’t the most important thing in life. Give them a lesson about the true value of things. And teach them gratitude and satisfaction for the things they already have.

8. Let them feel loss and failure

If your kid breaks something they own, you don’t need to replace it. So just don’t do it. They need to learn a valuable lesson in taking better care of their stuff.
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In fact,
let them fail
 all the time. Experiencing failure makes them realise that they have to work for something to get it, and that not everything will be given to them. It teaches them responsibility and accountability.

9. Controlling their media consumption

We’ve said it again and again,
children’s media consumption
 should be regulated. And just because other parents let their kids go crazy on gadgets doesn’t mean you should, too. Put your foot down when it becomes an unhealthy obsession, or when the media they consume is inappropriate.

Stand up for decent parenting and let the rest follow.

10. Getting them to apologize

If your child can’t recognize when something’s wrong and own up to it, how are they going to be well-balanced adults in the future? How will they be able to have healthy long-term relationships?

If your kid does something wrong, make them realize what they did wrong and make them face the consequences. You can’t just ignore rudeness, bullying, and dishonesty. You have to nip it in the bud.

11. Making them mind their manners

Children should learn to mind their manners at an early age or rude behaviour will turn into habit. Courtesy and politeness should be practiced, not just by your children, but by you as well. Good manners will take them far.

12. Making them work for free

Teach them the value of volunteer work, whether it’s cleaning the house or helping their grandparents with something. It teaches them about generosity and compassion.

Making them work for free in the service of others, even just their family, teaches them empathy. It teaches them to put themselves in other people’s shoes and realise that other people have needs, too. They learn that people have their own problems, and these are often greater than their own.

Being a mean mum can be good sometimes

Don’t worry about your children calling you a mean mum when you know you’ve done the right thing. In fact, you should probably treat yourself for teaching your kids better behaviour.

And even if your kids call you a mean mum to your face, please let them know that you love them. They will change, and they will realise that what you’ve done for them will help them grow into better human beings.

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Recipes to increase breast milk: This mum bakes and sells lactation cookies!

It’s hard to believe that this mummy of 3, Joanna Goy, was totally clueless about breastfeeding when she had her first baby 5 years ago.

Today, Joanna makes her own lactation cookies and runs
Singapore Lactation Bakes (SLB)
,
which specialises in the creation of lactation cookies and muffins.

We ask Joanna, a former banker, how she found her true calling.
She also reveals a secret recipe to increase breast milk supply!

Recipes to increase breast milk: Mum bakes lactation cookies

To start with, tell us a little bit about your breastfeeding journey?

(
Joanna is mummy to 3 beautiful girls, Jolinda (5), Jophia (2) and Jorissa (4 months old)
)

Joanna reveals,
“
When Jolinda was born, I was totally clueless about breastfeeding. I thought it was something that came naturally so I didn’t prepare myself for it at all.”

“It did not occur to me that I had to read or learn about breastfeeding, as I thought it was going to be a breeze and natural. But I was wrong.”

“I didn’t have enough milk, and almost went into depression. Returning to work meant more stress and pressure.”

“I did not try any breast milk booster with Jolinda as I had no idea there were even supplements to increase breast milk.”

“That first breastfeeding journey only lasted for 9 months.”

2 years later, I was blessed with Jophia. This time, I joined a mummy support group – there was a lot of support emotionally as well as a lot of advice, and that really made a difference.”

“This is when I got to know about milk boosters and started doing more research about them.”

“Geared with more knowledge, I am now doing much better at breastfeeding Jorissa, and am supporting a group of breastfeeding mums too!”

How did you stumble upon the idea of lactation cookies?

Says Joanna, “I came to know about lactation cookies from my mummy friends. They were trying lactation cookies and were recommending them to each other.”

“Initially, I was skeptical, as it sounded too good to be true.”

“Also, to my shock, I found that lactation cookies are costly. So I decided to try baking them myself. At first, to be honest, I did not see an immediate increase in my milk supply. But a few days later, I noticed my milk supply had increased.”

“As I continued baking and eating more of the lactation cookies, the amount of milk that I was able to produce gradually increased as well.”

“Eventually, I had so much surplus milk, I could even give my daughters a milk bath! I was so happy and relieved that my children were finally able to enjoy the benefits of breast milk!”

 How did you end up starting Singapore Lactation Bakes (SLB)?

Joanna tells us, “After my experience with Jolinda, I knew what it felt like to have a low supply and feel unsupported. I felt deeply about this and I really hoped no other mum would have to go though what I went through, so I offered the cookies to my own circle of friends.”

“They loved them and soon word spread, bringing me to the blessed place I am now.” And that is how
Singapore Lactation Bakes
(SLB) was born.

“We are also blessed with the opening of our own store recently! It is located at 183 Jalan Pelikat #B1-105 s(537643), we are a team of four at the moment.”

You mentioned that you were a banker before…what made you quit or change lane?

Joanna says, “As SLB progressed, I got the opportunity to talk to a lot of different mums who had various problems with breastfeeding. I really wanted to help them more.”

“I couldn’t do that while holding on to two jobs so I chose to quit mine and focus on helping the mums. I also took breastfeeding courses to gear myself with more knowledge to help more mummies.”
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 Were there any hiccups to starting and running this business?

“I think I’ve been blessed in this area as everything has been smooth so far.”

“I think the biggest challenge is keeping up with with the variety of bakes (both what we have now as well as with developing new flavours/products) while balancing taste and effectiveness.”

“We have seen an increase in demand over the years as hospitals have begun advocating breastfeeding in the recent years”, Joanna reveals.

Cookies and muffins go for $6.50, cookies cups are $16.90 and teas are $
9.90.

 What feedback have you received from mummies? Has it helped them boost breast milk supply?

Joanna informs us, “The reviews have been quite good. Though it might not work for everyone, the majority of mummies have reported that our bakes have worked for them.We are working relentlessly to improve our bakes in terms of their variety, taste and effectiveness.”

“It’s usually a gradual increase in the amount of milk they pump, not necessarily just a specific pump or latch timing.”

“As our slogan says, “Eat. Breastfeed. Repeat”.”

“We encourage mummies to eat the bakes, breastfeed and then repeat. The boosters will not increase milk permanently. They will increase milk supply temporarily either by having fuller breasts or more let down.”

“Mummies are encouraged to pump the milk out. They need to pump or latch when they experience let down, to stimulate their body to make more milk. Our bodies work by demand and supply. More milk drawn will result in more milk produced.”

As a mumpreneur, how do you manage running SLB and looking after kids?

Joanna admits, “This has been a real challenge. That is why SLB’s working hours are from 9 am – 5 pm. We drop our kids off at school in the morning and pick them up afterwards and try to spend as much time as we can, when we are with them.”

From your experience and knowledge, which food works well as breast milk boosters and which don’t?

Joanna says, “We have a list of 68 boosters for customers to take a look at and try.”

 Ultimately, it really depends on how their bodies work and react to the different foods.

PHOTO: SINGAPORE LACTATION BAKES

For myself, conventional boosters do not work. My boosters are miso (yes, Japanese miso) and peppermint (Yes! Peppermint! It’s a known milk killer but it really worked very well for my milk supply). I have a weird body!

Joanna also shares a breast milk booster recipe with us, that apparently works very well. Thank you, Joanna! 🙂

Lactation carrot cake

CARROT CAKE

2 cups plain flour

1 tsp cinnamon

1 tsp baking powder

1 tsp bicarbonate of soda

1/2 tsp salt

1.5 cups ground walnuts/pecans

4 large eggs

1.5 cups caster sugar

300ml sunflower oil

3 cups of grated carrots

CREAM CHEESE ICING

150g unsalted butter,

softened 240g f cream cheese

 840g icing sugar, sifted

METHOD

Whisk together sugar, eggs and oil until thick.

 Add finely grated carrots and fold them into the mixture.

 Add flour, baking soda, baking powder, flax seed and cinnamon and mix gently.

Fold in walnuts.

 Grease and line a 7” tin.

 Pour mixture into the tin and place in the oven at 175 °C for 25-27 minutes or until a skewer comes out clean.

Leave to cool.

For cream cheese icing, in a large bowl,

Beat butter till pale and fluffy.

Add the cream cheese.

Add icing sugar.

Add in the powdered sugar and vanilla until it’s smooth and creamy.

Decorate as desired.

Lastly, any advice to new mums on breastfeeding and breast milk?

Joanna has this to say, “You are not alone! When you feel like giving up, just tell yourself – just one more day!”

“Finding a support group or meeting up with a Lactation consultant will help you identify the problem and rectify it too. Just don’t give up!”

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Does a Balanced Diet Affect My Child Mentally?

The early years of a child are one of the most important stages of life because it is vital for
cognitive, physical and behavioural growth
. As a parent, you would obviously want the best for your child, and giving them a nutritious, well-balanced diet is of utmost importance. Many parents might think that a
nutritious meal
 is only important for their child’s physical development, but do you know that a well-balanced diet is also crucial to your child’s
mental and emotional growth
? Yes, that glass of milk does not only strengthen your child’s bones, but it also assists in nerve stimulations and regulates your child’s blood pressure!

Brain development can be highly affected by the quality and adequacy of your child’s diet. Even during pregnancy and early life, poor nutrition can lower
IQ scores and even lead to learning disorders,
 according to Dr. Reynaldo Martorell, a renowned International Nutrition professor at Emory University.

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Attentional issues, as well as behavioural and societal issues, could also occur. Providing adequate energy, vitamins, minerals, and nutrients are necessary to provide enough nutrition for brain development, while also allowing for your child’s body to grow and mature healthily.

Studies have shown that iron deficiency, even in children, can lead to a decrease in the transmission of dopamine, a naturally produced chemical that sends signals to the brain to initiate movements.

Dopamine deficiency is closely related to Attention Deficiency Hyperactivity Disorder or more commonly known as ADHD. ADHD may cause your child to be inattentive, hyperactive, and/or impulsive. Some of the best sources of iron include tofu,
red meat
, and lentils (yes, that
dhal
 curry that goes with your
roti canai
!). The best way to make sure your child has enough iron in his diet is to ensure he eats according to a balanced diet.

Other than how a well-balanced diet can affect your child’s learning behaviours, surprisingly a good diet can also affect your child’s societal behaviours. With participation in family meals, your child will start to mimic eating choices, behaviour and patterns of family members. For example, when a family member shares about his or her day it will show your child how important
communication is within family members
 in order to form a strong family bond.

Added to that, in the first two years of your child’s life, if your child does not receive adequate nutrition, it is more likely that your child will show signs of becoming withdrawn, being less active and staying away or shying away from interaction.

Key Factors for Meal Planning

Now that we have learnt how a balanced diet can have positive effects on your child, it is super important to consider these 3 things when planning a meal for your child:

1#
Balance

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A balanced diet means incorporating all the food groups (carbohydrates, greens, protein, and fat) from the Malaysian Food Pyramid into each and every single meal.
 Parents should make an effort to prepare meals containing more foods from the lower part of the food pyramid
 and fewer foods from the higher parts of the food pyramid.

2#
Moderation

Too much or too little can be unhealthy for you and your child, especially when it comes to food and nutrients. As parents, you might think that forcing your child to scoff down bowls of kale salad and cutting down on the carbohydrates would be a good idea, but in fact, it is not.

Practising portion planning is essentially necessary to ensure that your child eats according to the recommended serving size for each food group in the food pyramid. Parents can practice the
suku-suku-separuh
 (quarter-quarter-half) rule propagated by the Ministry of Health Malaysia.

For a properly balanced plate, one
suku
 (quarter) should consist of protein and another quarter should consist of carbohydrates such as rice, noodles or grains while the rest of the plate should be filled with vegetables and fruits.

3#
Variation

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Eating a varied, well-balanced diet means eating a variety of foods from each food group daily, in recommended amounts. It is super important to choose a variety of foods within each food group because different foods provide different types and amounts of key nutrients important for your child’s growth and wellbeing, both mentally and physically.

Added to that, kids get bored really easily, so preparing
different variations of a meal
 each time will make it more interesting, so that your child would not get bored and refuse to eat.

Finally, child nutrition is not just about keeping your child’s tummy full. It is about planning a balanced meal that is as nutritious and fun as possible for them, because in the long run, the meal you crafted determines how your child grows and develops.
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The clueless mum’s guide to back-to-school shopping

Going back-to-school shopping with children during holiday season? Oh dear. The packed shopping malls, long queues and endless store-hopping with overstimulated little ones right, left and center can be a nightmare for any parent. And shopping for school supplies is serious business. You can’t miss anything or else, you’ll have to plan for another outing (eeep!). So wouldn’t it be nice to have just one place where you can do your back-to-school shopping, ever so happily? Oh wait, there is such a place indeed.

Mums and dads, welcome to Tesco.

Tesco truly understands every parent’s dilemma about back-to-school shopping. They feel you and they’re happy to be your one-stop destination for all sorts of back-to-school needs!

Must-Buy Back-to-School Items

We promised you a complete shopping guide, so here you go:

1. Wearables

It’s always a good idea to purchase a size larger, as school children often go through growth  spurts. Remember to get at least two sets of uniforms, or as many as you need for your laundry rotation.

a. School uniform

Get up to 30% off on AP and AP Plus uniforms. Collared white shirt as low as RM8.33

Movern Belt (flat price RM5)

b.School shoes

Fabric and Croc Primary School Shoes RM12.90/pair (flat price RM5)

70% off on selected ASADI shoes

c. School socks

Children’s 3-in-1 School Socks (flat price RM5)

2. School bags

Children nowadays are hunched over due to the weight of their school bags.

Get a trolley bag or a non-woven bag to go with their backpack to distribute the load on your child’s back.

Inter-Polo Trolley School Bag RM49.90/unit

We Bare Bears
 non-woven bag RM3.50/ unit

3. Stationery

Tesco 3-in-1 Arch Files RM5.90 per set

Tesco ball pen 0.7 Blue/Black/Assorted 4s TBP-318R RM1.10/set

Faber-Castell Stationery Set RM15.00/set

Eva Pencil Case Assorted Designs RM29.80/unit

286 X-Shock 2B Pencil Box 12s RM9.45/pack or BUY 2 for RM8

4. Accessories

– Water tumbler

– Hair bands, hair clips etc.

– Food containers and lunch boxes

Don’t these jaw-dropping prices make you just want to drop everything and dash to Tesco right now?

Smart Shopping Tips

Now that you’ve got your shopping list ready, it’s time to prep yourself and the children for a fun shopping trip! Here are some tips for you to avoid overspending and unwanted drama at the mall:

Stick to your shopping list

No matter what your heart tells you, check off all mandatory items first before you spend on extra ones.

Prep your children in advance

Let your children know that this is strictly a back-to-school shopping trip. Give them their own shopping lists, so at the same time, you can also teach them about financial responsibility.

Go for quality

Some items may be pricier than others, so be sure to get the best value for your money. It’s okay to spend a little more on good quality school attire as they’ll most likely last longer.

Avoid rush hour crowds

We recommend weekday mornings, when most people are at work, or Sunday mornings because #lazySunday.

Grab discounts and special deals

Tesco is currently offering big discounts on selected back-to-school items, including uniforms! Need we say more?

Hassle-Free Shopping for the Whole Family

You’ll surely have an enjoyable shopping experience at Tesco with your family as it offers a wide range of good quality products at affordable prices. Also, Tesco has literally everything else you need to shop in comfort! If you feel like taking a break from shopping, there are many places to refuel with yummy snacks or even delicious meals. There are also baby rooms and prayer rooms for your convenience.

It’s time to get back-to-school shopping done in style! Let’s shop smart, enjoy hassle-free shopping and grab amazing back-to-school deals at Tesco today!

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