Stave Off Boredom with these Useful Indoor Hobbies for Women, Men, and Kids

We’re now into our fourth week of the Covid-19 lockdown in Malaysia. What have you been up to since it began? Binge-watching movies, TV series, K-dramas? Those are all good ways to pass the time but after a while, it will get boring. So, get rid of your boredom and gain a new skill (if you don’t already have them) by taking up these interesting hobbies that can easily be done from the comfort of your home.

1. Cooking

It really shouldn’t come as a surprise that cooking is the first indoor hobby we’d like to recommend. By learning how to cook, you’re opening yourself to an infinite amount of possibilities in terms of meal choices. If you don’t have this important skill, you’re likely to get stuck preparing and eating the same ol’ same ol’ food. How boring and unappetizing is that? And since you’ve plenty of free time to do so now, why not learn to cook as it won’t just benefit your stomach but also your wallet. Oh, and be sure to wear an apron since cooking can get messy especially if you’re not well-versed in it. Better yet, wear a
custom-printed apron
 that’s tailor-designed for you by you; because, if you have the option to cook in style then why not?

2. Reading

This hobby might sound boring to some but the benefits of it are more than worth it. When you read facts-based books, articles, etc., you absorb knowledge that can then be applied to everyday life. On the other hand, when you read fictive writing it helps to expand the creative side of your mind as through their words you’ll be able to picture what the author is describing. Besides that, you can also enhance your vocabulary. Therefore, give it a try as you’ve got nothing to lose. Who knows, you might just end up loving it.

3. Exercising

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Now, you must be thinking that this can’t possibly be a hobby (unless it is a hobby of yours). Well, we hate to be the bringer of bad news but it is. So, get off your chair, floor, bed, or any other surface you may be lounging on and get exercising! Just because your movements outside are restricted doesn’t mean you’ve been given the pass to lead an unhealthy life. Thus, stay healthy and fit during this lockdown period by adding some exercise routines to your daily plans.

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Are Your Kids Ready to Go Back to School? Bolster Their Confidence With These 5 Steps to Resilience

As a parent, you wish you could protect your kids from every disappointment, defeat, or scary challenge. Although this isn’t possible, you can teach your children to be resilient. A resilient child has grit.

When they encounter a difficult problem, they try to solve it instead of giving up. When bad things happen, they quickly bounce back, ready to face the next challenge.

When they make mistakes, they grow and learn from them.

Resilient children are hopeful, optimistic, and strong.

Here are 5 simple ways to raise a resilient child

1. Be a supportive role model

Instead of complaining that your child doesn’t share, doesn’t clean up. Stop, Pause. Ask yourself when did you demonstrate that behaviour?

Your child needs one stable, committed relationship with a supportive adult role model.

The more positive adult connections a child has, the more resilient s/he will be. These relationships can be with grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, coaches, or any other positive adult in your child’s life.

Foster and encourage relationships with strong and positive adults, and continue being the supportive role model your child needs.

Your child watches and learns from everything you do, so model resilient behaviours. Be calm and consistent. Admit to your mistakes, but don’t agonize over them. Talk to your child about what you learned or how you can do better next time.

2. Let children make mistakes. Mistakes are proof that your child is learning

When your daughter does a hurried, poor job on a school project, you may feel a strong urge to help her improve or fix it. Stop!

If you’re busy at work, and your son calls to say he left his homework on the table, you may want to rush to the rescue. Stop!

As uncomfortable as it is to let our children make mistakes, this is one way that kids develop resiliency.

Find humour in mistakes.

“Oopsie…. I made a mistake!”

“I am sorry I made a mistake.”

“I apologise that I forgot to replace the towels.”

If children never make mistakes, they’ll never learn how to fix their errors or make better decisions in the future.

Failure teaches perseverance and problem-solving. It causes children to think about their actions and how to avoid repeating those mistakes in the future.

3. Praise Kids the Right Way

The way we praise our kids can affect their mindset and their inclination to take on challenges and persevere.

“You’re so smart!”, they develop a fixed mindset. With a fixed mindset, children believe that qualities like intelligence are personal characteristics that don’t change or develop. As a result, they may avoid challenges that will test their abilities.

Instead of giving “person praise,” like, “You’re so smart,” or “You’re so creative,” try to give “process praise.” Focus on your child’s effort, as in, “I can tell you’ve been working really hard.” You can also give specific praise, like, “You really understand decimals!”

When a child with a growth mindset makes a mistake, the child focuses on how to improve next time. When a child with a fixed mindset makes a mistake, he’s more likely to believe that failure is the result of personal characteristics, such as, “I can’t spell,” or, “I’m just not good at math.

4. Teach Children to Manage Emotions

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The first step is to teach our children that ALL emotions, even the worst ones, are okay. Negative emotions can be opportunities to learn about ourselves, grow, and learn how to cope with these feelings effectively.

This step also involves helping your child label and validate his emotions. For example, you might say, “I understand you’re feeling angry because Angie wouldn’t let you play with his toys.”

The second step is to deal with bad behaviour, if there was any, in order to set limits. For instance, if your child threw a tantrum, he would face consequences at this point. Explain that your child is not in trouble for feeling angry; he’s in trouble for the way he handled his anger.

Finally, you problem-solve. Help your child brainstorm ways to fix the problem or to prevent it from happening again in the future.

I strongly recommend taking ten minutes at bedtime to discuss the day. During this time, you can repair moments of conflict or misunderstanding. Help your child put the day’s disappointments and perceived failures in perspective.

Ask your child if there’s anything he wants to talk about, and LISTEN patiently to his feelings. If there has been conflict between you and your child, try to set aside your feelings and listen to his side of the story, then talk through it and work together to resolve the disagreement.

As children learn to manage emotions in a healthy way, they will also learn to be more resilient. They will be able to deal with life’s challenges and disappointments with emotional maturity instead of tantrums, breakdowns, and giving up.

5. Teach Kids to Problem-Solve

When your child comes to you with a problem, help her brainstorm ways to address the challenge. For example, if your child is nervous about a test, talk through specific solutions like developing a study schedule, finding effective study strategies, and managing time.

As you brainstorm, help your child consider what the results might be for each solution she proposes.

We should give our children frequent opportunities to learn WHAT works and what doesn’t. This means that we shouldn’t immediately rush to solve problems for our children or tell them the best solution.

Trial and error are one of the best ways for our children to learn. This, too, is uncomfortable but necessary.

Children who know how to tackle challenges head-on will grow to be resilient. These children can take failures and disappointment in stride, knowing that these are only problems to be solved.

Step 1:
 What is the problem I am facing?

Step 2:
 Different ways I can solve my problem.

Step 3:
 What would happen (Step 2)?

Step 4:
 Discuss tried Step 2s.

Being positive does not mean ignoring the problem and being happy. Being positive means being resilient and finding a workaround to carry on with life. Not letting anything or anyone stops you!

We hope that this article on how to raise a resilient child would be helpful to all parents out there.

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Netflix ‘Cheat Sheet’ For Dads

Choosing what to watch on Netflix can be a fun journey for dads and kids, as the platform offers a vast array of kids and family content from popular franchises like
Kung Fu Panda
 to recognisable local favourites like
Upin&Ipin
.

Here’s a quick cheat sheet of the latest family-friendly features for dads out there who want to get the best out of their entertainment experience for their kids on Netflix:

Mystery Box

Kids are drawn to what they like, whether it’s their favourite toys, foods, or songs. It’s hard to get them to branch out and try something new.

So with this recently launched feature  – a brand new mystery box. It will introduce kids to new shows and movies they may find interesting, yet instead of presenting it as a simple card, it will be displayed in a “box” like a birthday gift.

They simply have to hover over the middle title within their favourites row where they will be presented with a sparkly mystery box that ‘unboxes’ a fun character tied to a new title that’s labelled ‘New For You’.

 Kids Recap Email

Shows and movies are an important way for kids to connect with the world – helping to teach them about new places, create bonds with family or friends and understand other perspectives.

With these bi-weekly kids recap emails, you will have a better understanding of your child’s preferences and new ways to engage those interests off-screen.

 You will get a recommendation list based on your child’s favourite shows and movies, downloadable printable colouring sheets with activities inspired by your kid’s favourite characters, and a chart for visual examples of the themes or topics your children love the most (i.e. science, friendship) as well as tips designed to educate you on how to use the various kids’ features on Netflix.

 Kids Top 10

Just like how the Top 10 rows help you find something to watch, the Kids’ Top 10 list features the most popular Kids content across Malaysia and with a red badge on popular Kids films, series, and specials for all member profiles.

With this feature, you get to stay on trend with your kid’s favourite content and characters. Seeing what’s popular can help you and your kid find something to watch and bring you closer together by understanding his/her preferences.

Now, to unlock these weapons for the battle, dads will simply have to activate the Netflix Kids Profile. With Kids Profile, you can regulate your child’s safety and access to material on Netflix as well.

With no direct access to accounts and a default maturity setting of 7+, Netflix Kids Profile exclusively plays kid-friendly TV shows and movies. Simply use the “Profile and Parental Restrictions” area inside account settings, to get access to a wide range of controls to personalize your kid’s Netflix experience to your own requirements.

Every child is special and unique in their own way. That is why it is so important to engage your children in the tales that create their world. These features are designed to assist dads in making the best decisions for their kids, as well as to make Netflix a safe place for everyone to explore and enjoy entertainment.

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 for more guidance on creating Netflix Kids Profile

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5 tips to help your child avoid making careless mistakes in math exams!

How to avoid making careless mistakes in math exams

You’ve noticed that your child comprehends all the math concepts, and gets nothing less than full marks for all the assessment book practices he/she does religiously every weekend. Then, why does your child keep coming home with results that belie that aptitude? If you haven’t figured it out by now, you might want to consider the fact that your child may be dealing with a case of the dreaded ‘careless mistakes’ which might be the reason for him making mistakes in math exams. This is what both parents and teachers call the silent killer. It can be the one thing that trips your child from passing to failing, or barely missing out on an A. But what can you do as a parent to help?

Firstly, you need to understand that in an exam situation your child is in a high-stress environment (as opposed to doing assessment practices at home). This usually makes them prone to careless mistakes naturally. But, don’t worry! There is still hope. There are some things that you can teach your child to help them understand how to avoid and minimize careless mistakes in math exams.

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Don’t skip too many steps at once

Avoid skipping too many steps at once when it comes to addition and subtraction. Students usually attempt to skip a few steps in problem solving by working it out mentally to save time. However, these mental calculations are not always accurate, which will lead to the wrong answer despite going through all the right steps.

Check calculations and REVERSE-CHECK

Put answers back into the math problem or equation to check for accuracy. Many students skip this especially when they are rushed for time, but this option is often faster than going through and re-working the problem all over again.

Use the correct units

This is a potential stumbling block! Units can be a bane for many students dealing with math. Thus, it is important to be alert of the units presented in the questions, especially when a student is required to convert metres to centimetres or vice versa.

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Time management

Yes, students are under a time limit and need to work fast to finish up all the questions when it comes to exams. But at the same time, it is important not to overlook accuracy. Try not to spend the entire time on solving an addition or subtraction problem, when the focus should primarily be on more complex questions.

Keeping it neat

If possible, try and keep all work and equations neat and systematic. This will help to spend less time on checking equations, and will also prevent a child from accidentally copying a different or wrong answer.

Like with anything else, there needs to be constant practice before one can master the art of avoiding careless mistakes. We recommend that you help your child implement these practices above into their daily routine for math, and eventually spotting careless mistakes and remedying it will become second nature.

Share your tips with us on how you helped your child to avoid making careless mistakes in math exams!

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Top 8 Tried-and-Tested Healthy and Delicious Meal Deliveries In KL

Intrigued to find out what options urbanites in the Klang Valley had, we went on a hunt for nutritious and delicious meal deliveries in KL and were pleasantly surprised by the variety of meal deliveries available.

So, here’s a concise and updated list featuring our top 8 healthy and delicious meal deliveries in Kuala Lumpur.

Top 8 Tried-and-Tested Healthy and Delicious Meal Deliveries in Kuala Lumpur

1# Go Clean

Credit: Go Clean

Background:
 What sets GoClean apart from competitors is that all their meals are created and prepared under the guidance of a nutritionist, a personal trainer, and an executive chef. Their aim is to create suitable portion-controlled macros across a broad spectrum of fitness goals.

While you’d expect to fork out a large sum for such service, the meals by GoClean are actually fairly priced and quite affordable!

Pricing
:
 RM 13.90 and upwards

Daily Specials:
 Available

Suggested Meals:
 Pad Krapow, Mediterranean Fish with Balsamic Pumpkin Salad, or Chicken Meatballs with Zoodles

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 Unspecified Time (Monday to Friday)

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2# Plant Power Cleanse

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Background:
 Plant Power Cleanse is under Nourish Me but focuses specifically on (you guessed it) providing people with plant-based detox regimes. Designed by nutritionists, the 7-day plant-based cleanse cuts out corn, gluten, grains, legumes, processed sugar, and soy.

It includes daily deliveries of lunch, dinner, and snacks, with turmeric tea and nut butters provided. To find out more,
click here
.

Pricing:
 RM530 for 7 days for plant based
lunch
,
dinner
 and
snacks
.

Daily Specials:
 –

Suggested Meals:
 –

Meal Delivery Schedule
: 11.30-1 p.m. (Monday to Sunday)

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3# Meals in Minutes

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Background:

If you’re not a fan of cooking then know that Meals in Minutes is designed exactly for you! All meals delivered are frozen and vacuum-sealed a la Sous Vide style meaning you just need to place the packet into heated water.

Currently, Meals in Minutes has pledged to donate 1 litre of clean drinking water to underprivileged communities every time a meal is sold.

Pricing:
 RM 3.90 upwards
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Suggested Meals:
 Truffled Mashed Potatoes, Creamy Tuscan Salmon, or Rosemary & Thyme Chicken

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 9-5 p.m. (Monday to Saturday)

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4# Meal2U

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Background:
 Meal2U specifically targets gym junkies meaning meals are portion-controlled. To add to that, each meal is labelled with information on the calories, carbs, fat, and protein contained within the dish. Everything is cooked ‘gasless’ to preserve nutrients and vacuum-packed meals are available, too.

Pricing:
 RM 14.90 and upwards

Daily Specials:
 Available

Suggested Meals:
 Smoked Duck Salad, All Day Brunch, or Teriyaki Chicken with Omurice

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 Unspecified Time (Monday to Friday)

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5# Meraki Kitchen

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Background:
 Meraki is derived from the Greek word for doing something with heart and soul. Unsurprisingly, every meal whipped up by Meraki Kitchen delivers just that. You can expect generous servings, too – great if you’re an active person but if not, perfect for splitting into two meals. Bonus: Meraki Kitchen doesn’t provide plastic cutlery unless requested.

Pricing:
 RM 13 and upwards

Daily Specials:
 Menu per day changes weekly but some dishes repeat every other week

Suggested Meals:
 Miso Charred Broccoli & Mushroom Bowl, Korean Honey Gojuchang Bowl, or Yakisoba Pasta

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 Unspecified

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6# Nourish Me

Credit: Food Matters

Background:
 As mentioned, Nourish Me was founded and is run by nutritionists that are also wellness consultants. As such, their goal is to make delicious yet healthy meals more accessible to everyone – especially families hence their family-based meal plans.

Bonus: the calorie count and macros for each dish is clearly stated for discerning customers.

Pricing:
 RM 20 for one meal

Daily Specials:
 Available

Suggested Meals:
 Braised Mushroom Char Siu Pao, Vegetarian Tagine, or No Bake Cookie Bars

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 11.30-1 p.m. (Monday to Friday)

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7# The Naked Lunchbox

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Background:
 The reason it’s named The Naked Lunchbox is that each lunchbox is free from dairy, gluten, MSG, preservatives and additives, and sugars and artificial sweeteners. What remains is freshly made food that’s clean yet delicious.

If you’re dairy-free, gluten-free, paleo, raw, vegetarian, or vegan then The Naked Lunchbox is ideal for you.

Pricing:
 RM 6.90 and upwards

Daily Specials:
 Unavailable

Suggested Meals:

Spiced Corn Ribs, Beef Steak & Mushroom Pie, or Gluten-free Apple Pie

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 Unspecified

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8# Ordinary Eats

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Background:

If you occasionally need to avoid garlic and onion or just want to reduce your intake of meat then Ordinary Eats is your go-to. The menu is entirely plant-based and refrains from using mock meat.

It caters to Asian and Western palettes, with a limited selection of sugar-free desserts available, too.

Pricing:
 RM 16

Daily Specials:
 Available

Suggested Meals:
 Oil-free Pesto, Butter ‘Milk’ Chicken, or Popeye Protein Burger

Meal Delivery Schedule:
 Unspecified Time (Monday to Friday)

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There you have it – 8 healthy meal deliveries that prove healthy eating can be appetizing, fun, varied, and convenient – bon appetit!

Want to cook up your own healthy meals instead? Check out
these delicious plant-based recipes to make at home
.

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Tips To Recover From A C-Section

The birth of a baby is probably the most intense experience of your life. Once baby arrives it is a time for healing, resting and bonding.

But when you add major surgery into the mix, things get a little more challenging. While Caesarean sections are a wonderful, life-saving option, there can be no denying that healing takes longer and can be more difficult. It is major abdominal surgery after all.

Here are some tips that can hopefully help you to recover from a
C-section.

Plan for help after delivery

Whether you give birth vaginally or via C-section, some help and support in the immediate aftermath is always a good thing.  If you know you’ll be having a C-section, make arrangements to always have someone with you at the hospital. A little bit can go a long way.

Plan to take it easy when you get home

Again, accept help whenever it is offered. Your friends or relatives can bring you a meal or help to bathe or change the baby. You need to rest after delivery and healing may be prolonged if you try to do too much at once.

Set up baby care stations in a few places in your home like one in your living room, one in your bedroom and one in the nursery, so you don’t have to go up and down the stairs for every nappy/diaper change.

A tote or a basket with a swaddle, burp cloth, nappies/diapers, wipes and a change of clothes for baby is helpful to keep around so you’re prepared wherever you happen to be resting.

Be patient with your body

Spending nine months growing a baby and then having major surgery means your body needs a bit of time to heal and get back to normal function. Many women post-surgery worry about that first time emptying their bladder and first bowel movement.

Especially since for C-section mothers, the hospital will be monitoring if and when you go for that all important first pee after the catheter is removed. For most, its a temporary issue. Just try to relax and you can try squirting some water on the area
to stimulate
 urine flow.

Be kind to yourself

This is the time to be really kind to yourself. Ask for what you need, don’t try to do too much and remember to take your pain medications as per recommended by your doctor. Even if you typically avoid medications, remember that you’ve just had major surgery.

Your baby needs a mother who is pain and stress free! If you are worried about breastfeeding while on medication, many pain relievers are considered safe and most likely your doctor has already prescribed the safe option for you.

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A worry-free bath time for you and your baby

Your newborn is home, and you are surrounded by peace and love – and terror during bath time. Trust us, we know the feeling. We’ve been there! To make matters worse, babies can sense their parents’ anxiety and might feel the same way, too. They are our mini versions of us, remember? So even if you get jitters just by thinking of holding your tiny human all covered with soap, you got to
mum up
.

It doesn’t matter if you are on day one or day 231, but if you’re still in distress and haven’t figured out why baby is fussy every time you put her in her tub, we have three surefire ways to make bath time with your baby a breeze. And with one less thing to worry about, you can focus on providing the love and care that you were made to give.

Mise En Place
 Your Bath Time Gear

Mise en place
 is a French culinary process that kitchen professionals use wherein ingredients are prepared and organised before cooking. You can do the same thing with your baby’s bath time essentials. That’s because bath time – like cooking – is all about preparation.

Make sure you have enough space around your baby’s tub or basin for all of your gear, toys and bath products. Everything should be within arm’s reach to avoid leaving the baby alone. Remember, your little bundle of joy relies on you for everything, so make sure to keep him safe at all times.

Sing a Soothing Song

If your newborn is a little fussy during bath time, try singing. It will work wonders to make that anxiety disappear.

You don’t need to sound like a true blue singer to make bath time oh-so-relaxing for your baby. You don’t even have to sing – you can just talk. And you don’t have talk sense either, actually!

When your baby was still in your womb swimming in her amniotic fluid, she already got used to hearing your voice. So doing the same when she’s finally on this side of your belly can be a familiar experience for her. She just has to feel that there’s nothing to fear because her mummy will always be here. Sounds sweet, right? Better yet, it works!

Use Baby Products You Can Trust

So far so good. The key to a worry-free and relaxed bath time is trust. And when it comes to the products you use on baby’s skin, trust is just as important.

To establish a happy bath time routine, it’s important that the product you use for your baby’s delicate skin can maintain its soft and healthy glow. Take it from the experts and experienced moms. They all recommend tried-and-tested products that are perfectly suitable for babies such as
Cetaphil Baby
. In fact, in a survey conducted by Home Tester Club, 10/10 moms agree that Cetaphil Baby Moisturising Bath & Wash gently cleanses & moisturises baby’s delicate skin. It has gentle ingredients that complement a mother’s loving touch and supports the skin’s natural development in its most vulnerable early stages.

Trust Cetaphil Baby

With Cetaphil Baby, you can set your worries aside, mums. It contains 1/3 moisturiser with soothing aloe vera and almond oil leaving your baby’s skin soft and clean. And it contains nothing that can harm your baby’s sensitive skin. Below are more reasons to choose Cetaphil Baby for your little one:

Paraben-free

Soap-free

Tear-free

pH balanced

Hypoallergenic formula

Gently cleanses and moisturises baby’s delicate skin

Paediatrician-recommended

We take the trust you put in Cetaphil seriously. That’s why Cetaphil Baby conducted an online survey with 200 paediatricians and dermatologists and found that paediatricians truly do recommend Cetaphil Baby.

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Can my child’s astigmatism go away?

Astigmatism is a refractive error, and is often caused by an abnormal curvature of the cornea. A refractive error means that the shape of the eye does not bend light correctly, leading to blurred vision. In order to see things clearly, light has to be refracted by the lens and the cornea correctly before it reaches the retina in order to see things clearly.

Children with astigmatism may have difficulty seeing finer details of objects both close and far away. They may also experience symptoms of fatigue, headaches and eye strain as a result of blurred vision.

Astigmatism In Children: What Causes Astigmatism?

Astigmatism in children may be caused by irregularly shaped lens, resulting in a blurred image.

Astigmatism occurs when the front surface of the eye (cornea) is curved irregularly – usually one half is flatter (or steeper) than the other.  When light rays enter the eye they do not focus correctly on the retina, resulting in a blurred image.

Astigmatism may also be caused by an irregularly shaped lens, which is located behind the cornea. Studies have found that astigmatism usually begins at birth, but it may also appear later in childhood or even later when we are adults. In some cases, astigmatism may occur after an eye surgery or injury.

Treatments for astigmatism

Although astigmatism may not go away on its own, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, children with mild astigmatism may not need to undergo any treatment. An eye exam can determine the severity of your child’s astigmatism and whether is it necessary to undergo any treatment to correct it.

Corrective eyeglasses

Corrective eyeglasses can help improve your child’s astigmatism.

It has been shown that corrective eyeglasses tend to yield the most effective results in correcting astigmatism in children. The use of corrective lenses in eyeglasses can help to bend the incoming light rays to compensate for the error caused by faulty refraction so that images are properly received onto the retina.

In addition to the spherical lens power used to correct near sightedness or far sightedness, astigmatism requires an additional ‘cylinder’ lens power to correct the difference between the powers of the two principal meridians of the eye.

Contact lenses

Experts recommend that contact lenses only be used to correct astigmatism in children above the age of 12.

Corrective contact lenses can also be used to correct astigmatism, with the soft toric contact lenses being the most common option. Soft lenses are made of hydrogel, which allow oxygen to move through the lens and into the eye. The high water content in soft lenses evaporates easily, so soft lenses can only be won for a day and then discarded.

Experts recommend that contact lenses only be used to correct astigmatism in children above the age of 12, and to be careful about cleaning the lenses properly to avoid eye infection.

Refractive surgery

LASIK may be recommended by your eye doctor to correct your child’s astigmatism.

In some cases, refractive surgery such as LASIK can be recommended by your eye doctor to correct the surface of your child’s eye. After the surgery, you child’s astigmatism should be gone – along with any related form of near-sightedness or far-sightedness.
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It is best to discuss the condition of your child’s astigmatism with your eye doctor, and see if they advise refractive eye surgery in your case.

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Everything You Need To Know About Immunisation For Your Child In Malaysia

Since the world was hit by the pandemic, there has been a larger emphasis by the Ministry of Health Malaysia (MOH) to introduce more precautionary measures by updating the immunisation schedule for the protection of young children.

In December 2020, Director-General of Health Tan Sri Dr Noor Hisham Abdullah announced that the Pneumococcal vaccine has become available to all newborn babies at MOH Health Clinics throughout Malaysia and was included into the National Immunisation Programme (NIP)
1
.

Children born on 1 January 2020 onwards who are aged 5 months or more are eligible to receive the vaccine under the updated NIP.

Dr Noor Hisham explained that pneumococcal conjugate vaccine (PCV) is given to prevent various diseases caused by
Streptococcus pneumoniae
 or pneumococcal bacterial infections that can result in
1,2
:

Inflammatory disease (pneumonia)

Inflammation of the sinuses (sinusitis)

Middle ear infection (otitis media)

Inflammation of the meninges

Spinal cord (meningitis)

Bacterial infection in the blood (septicemia)

Besides the addition of this vaccine to the list, there are many other vaccines included in the NIP that are made available to all parents for free at government clinics.

Which Vaccines Are Included in the National Immunisation Programme
3
?

Table adapted from Info Sihat, Ministry of Health Malaysia 2021

There are many vaccines covered in the NIP, so parents can make an appointment at the nearest government health facilities to get their children immunised according to the schedule.

It is important for parents to consider vaccinating their children according to the NIP to help protect them from contracting these contagious and dangerous diseases.

17 Dangerous Diseases That Can Be Avoided By Getting Your Kids Vaccinated

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Vaccines are especially important to babies because their immune systems are developing from the time they are born.

Therefore, by giving vaccines to babies according to a set schedule, you can protect your baby from potentially fatal diseases
4
. For example:

Tuberculosis (TB) – This disease can cause serious infections such as meningitis and spread to other organs
5
.

Diphtheria – Toxins released by bacteria may lead to blocked airways
6
.

Pertussis (whooping cough) – Can cause whooping cough and lack of oxygen to the brain
7
.

Tetanus – Bacterial poisoning that can cause cramps in the muscles of the body and affects the ability to open the jaw
8
.

Haemophilus influenzae type B (Hib) – This bacterium can cause infections of the lungs (pneumonia), respiratory tract and meningitis
4
.

Hepatitis B – This virus can cause severe damage to the liver and increases the risk of the individual getting liver cancer in the future
4
.

Polio – This virus can cause paralysis and even death
4
.

Measles – This virus can cause fever, diarrhoea, vomiting, infections of the brain (encephalitis) and lungs (pneumonia)
9
.

Mumps – This virus can cause viral meningitis and infection of testicles (orchitis)
10
.

Rubella – The virus can cause fever, rash, nausea and mild conjunctivitis
11
.

Pneumococcus – This bacteria can cause severe diseases like meningitis or milder infections like sinusitis or ear infections
4
.

Rotavirus – This virus can cause severe diarrhoea and dehydration
4
.

Human Papillomavirus – This virus can cause cervical cancer and genital warts
4
.

Varicella (Chickenpox) – This virus can cause a blister like rash and fever, which can also cause shingles later as adults if the virus reactivates
12
.

Influenza  – This virus can cause epidemics of flu diseases or flu season
13
.

Meningococcal – This bacteria can cause deadly infections of the lining of the brain, spinal cord (meningitis) and bloodstream
14
.

Hepatitis A – This virus can cause short term infection of the liver
15
.

Covering All Bases To Help Protect Your Kids

Raising children is a huge responsibility. It can be hard to remember all of the things your child needs to stay safe and healthy.

Besides vaccinating your kids, you can also teach them good eating habits and basic health and hygiene practices. For example:

Washing their hands every time they use the toilet, after they blow their nose, before they eat or whenever they come home from school/outside.

Do not share food and drinks, clothes, combs, toothbrushes or other personal items with other children.

Close their mouth when they cough or sneeze, and to wear a mask whenever they are unwell.

Sanitise their hands whenever possible.

Limit physical contact with other children.

All Vaccines Are Well-Tolerated In Malaysia

If you are worried about the safety of vaccines in Malaysia, you need not worry. All vaccines listed in the Malaysian National Immunisation Programme (NIP) have been recommended by the National Fatwa Committee Council
16
.

In fact, MOH experts also certify that the vaccines in the NIP are effective and have tolerable safety profiles for use by children.

Moreover, the vaccines are also rigorously tested on thousands of people through large-scale clinical studies and closely monitored before being marketed commercially to ensure the safety of its recipients
17
.

So parents do not have to excessively worry about this aspect. If you have any concerns regarding the safety profile of any vaccine, please speak to your doctor.

To find out more about getting your child protected against diseases and keeping them at optimal health, speak to your healthcare provider like the family doctor or paediatrician at your next visit!

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From the Desk of the Director-General of Health Malaysia. Kenyataan Akhbar KPK 24 November 2020 – Pelaksanaan pemberian Vaksin Pneumokokal di Bawah program Imunisasi Kebangsaan Untuk Kanak-Kanak. Available From:
https://kpkesihatan.com/2020/11/24/kenyataan-akhbar-kpk-24-november-2020-pelaksanaan-pemberian-vaksin-pneumokokal-di-bawah-program-imunisasi-kebangsaan-untuk-kanak-kanak/
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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Pneumococcal conjugate vaccine information statement. Available From:
https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/hcp/vis/vis-statements/pcv.html
.
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Bahagian Pendidikan Kesihatan Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia. Jadual Imunisasi Kebangsaan Terkini. Available From:
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.
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UNICEF. Vaccines and the diseases they prevent. Available From:
https://www.unicef.org/parenting/health/vaccines-and-diseases-they-prevent
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Mayo Clinic. Tuberculosis. Available From:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/tuberculosis/symptoms-causes/syc-20351250
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Mayo Clinic. Diphtheria. Available From:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/diphtheria/symptoms-causes/syc-20351897
.
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National Health Service Inform. Whooping cough. Available From:
https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/infections-and-poisoning/whooping-cough
. Last Accessed 24 August 2022.

Mayo Clinic. Tetanus. Available From:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/tetanus/symptoms-causes/syc-20351625
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Mayo Clinic. Measles. Available From:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/measles/symptoms-causes/syc-20374857
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National Health Services. Mumps – Complications. Available From:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/mumps/complications/
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World Health Organization. Rubella. Available From:
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/rubella
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PORTAL MyHEALTH. Chickenpox. Available From:
https://www.myhealth.gov.my/en/chickenpox/
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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Types of Influenza Viruses. Available From
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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Meningococcal Disease. Available From:
https://www.cdc.gov/meningococcal/index.html
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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. What is hepatitis A – FAQ. Available From:
https://www.cdc.gov/hepatitis/hav/afaq.htm#overview
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Finding The Best & Worst Foods For You Based On Your DNA—Is It Possible?

What if you could take a simple painless test and find out exactly what you should be eating according to your genes? Our DNA differentiates us from everyone else. Therefore, what we eat and what diet we follow should be unique to us as individuals.

What does DNA have to do with what we eat?

The simplest definition of DNA is that it is a genetic code found in every living cell determining unique physical characteristics and features. These include obesity and certain diseases to what we look like, e.g. hair and eye colour. Take this concept of individualising further, and you can base your nutritional intake on your genes. This makes perfect sense particularly for those who may have the obesity gene or a hereditary illness, or even those who have been on diets that don’t seem to work.

Culinary genomics

Research has shown that eating according to your genetic makeup does improve overall health compared to just eating what you want (obviously!) or following the latest diet no matter how effective it may be. DNA-based nutrition is also called culinary genomics—preparing and consuming food that positively interacts with your genes. Basing a diet on ingredients, the way food is prepared and meal planning according to an individual’s DNA is becoming more creative and is a natural progression from how many of us are eating anyway, i.e. more plant-based, less (or no) sugar, less salt, low carb, vegan, etc.

Eat what’s right for you!

Personalised nutrition isn’t some fad or even a new concept; but it is becoming more mainstream and available to consumers. There are no complicated tests to undergo, blood drawn, questions asked—these days a simple saliva swab is all that is needed to discover what your body needs to perform better, stay healthy and even decrease the chances of getting certain illnesses linked to the consumption of sugar, salt and saturated fat.

We have all been through this scenario—you cut down on carbs, avoid high-cholesterol food (seafood, fatty meat, dairy) and eat as cleanly as possible, but you still gain weight and cholesterol levels remain high. What you need is an eating plan based on scientific facts where the food you eat is exactly what your body needs to function at its best. The best (and easiest) way to do this is by taking a DNA test, and not from referring online as most of us are regularly inclined to do.

Consider this an investment into your long-term health goals and weight maintenance. DNA-based tests don’t come cheap but neither do doctors’ bills, medication, supplements or those holidays you take to de-stress!

By taking a DNA test, you will find out:

How effective specific (low carb, high protein, Mediterranean) diets will be for you

Caffeine metabolism rates

Gluten/sodium sensitivity

Vitamin and mineral deficiency risks

Once you have such accurate information, you can plan and manage your diet to lose, gain or maintain your weight, take the correct supplements and eat food that will truly benefit you in the long run.

How DNA testing works

All you have to do is send away for a
DNA Wellness Plan
, and a saliva collection kit will be sent to you. You DNA will then be analysed in a lab through genotyping, and a detailed report sent to you.  From here, health and wellness professionals will be consulted and a detailed personalised plan created, which you can access and put into motion. Considering how easy it is, getting a test done should be something we should all do to ensure what we eat enhances our health.

A healthy lifestyle is all about longevity attained through diet, a positive attitude, good mental health and being fit. Your diet is a crucial factor in your overall well-being and ultimately how long you live and how ill you could become. By knowing exactly what you lack and shouldn’t eat too much of, you are already well on your way to becoming healthier and slimmer, if that’s your end goal.

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Stretch Marks: Why You Get Them And How To Naturally Reduce Their Appearance

Stretch marks, also known as striae, are scars that normally occur due to
rapid weight loss
 or weight gain, such as during pregnancy, causing an abrupt change in the structure of the skin.

When the skin is overstretched, the two main elements that support its elasticity, collagen and elastin, break. Leaving behind scars that look like narrow lines, known as stretch marks. Stretch marks are often pinkish, purple or red in the early stages, and tend to fade to a paler silvery, translucent colour over time.

While stretch marks can appear anywhere on your body, it’s more common to get them on places where larger amounts of fat are stored, such as the abdomen, breasts, hips, buttocks and thighs.

What affects whether you get stretch marks?

Genetics, lifestyle and skin health all play a role in whether or not you develop stretch marks. Some people are genetically predisposed to them, which may have something to do with overactivity of messengers in the genes responsible for scar development (1).

Stretch marks can also be attributed to the chronic use of steroids, which weakens the skin’s collagen structure, resulting in scars.

The most common types of stretch marks

Different types of stretch marks are categorized by their cause and for how long you’ve had them. The following are the three most typical ones:

Striae atrophica arise due to the thinning of the skin and breakdown of elastin or collagen components.

Striae distensae occur during puberty due to hormonal changes and rapid growth. They often look like stripes.

Striae gravidarum only occurs during pregnancy. “Mama Stripes” can sometimes be seen as the pregnancy progresses, especially in the last trimester when the baby rapidly gains weight, but are most commonly noticed after giving birth. So, just when you think it’s all over and you can finally enjoy your new baby and start getting back into shape, you realise you’re looking a little like a Tapir!

Can you do anything to prevent and reduce the appearance of stretch marks?

Credit: Healthline

As with most things, it is easier to prevent stretch marks from occurring rather than getting rid of them.

While it doesn’t exist one magical solution to prevent them completely, let’s look at a few different ways that can help you reduce the risk and the appearance of stretch marks.

Stretch marks treatment via natural remedies: How they help and what to look for

Natural remedies can help reduce the appearance of stretch marks and scars.

Key factors to look out for when you’re searching for a remedy are the potential abilities to increase cell proliferation and turnover, encourage natural collagen production, reduce inflammation and hydrate the skin.

When applying a topical remedy, be sure to massage it into the skin to ensure it is absorbed well and to increase the blood supply to the area.

Gentle exfoliation is also helpful in increasing circulation and stimulating cell turnover.

Your diet: How to eat your way to less stretch marks

Consuming a diet rich in skin-nourishing vitamins and minerals, along with the application of natural remedies, is an effective two-pronged approach to treating stretch marks and scars.

Vitamins E, A and C, as well as essential fatty acids, boast skin-regeneration and -healing abilities.

Below are a few foods and ingredients to look out for.

Vitamin E

Known for its skin-healing properties, Vitamin E consists of tocopherols and the lesser known tocotrienols. Both tocopherols and tocotrienols promote a healthy skin barrier and reduce
oxidative effects
.

Tocotrienols are thought to have more potent antioxidant properties than α-tocopherol (2), and can therefore be absorbed quickly and penetrate through the deep layers of skin.

Good sources of Vitamin E

Sunflower seeds, almonds, kiwi fruit and spinach are a few examples of foods rich in Vitamin E . Red palm oil and rice bran oil are high in tocotrienols, while argan oil, olive oil and jojoba oil are high in tocopherol.
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Omega-3 fatty acids

Omega-3 fatty acids play a key role in skin tissue reconstruction and cell membrane structure. Omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids modulate local inflammatory response at wound sites, accelerating the skin’s healing process.

Recent studies (3) have demonstrated how Omega-3 fatty acids can prevent wound infections and improve early wound healing, and after several days, decrease the deposition of collagen, preventing extensive scarring.

Good sources of Omega-3

Sacha Inchi oil and Flaxseed oil are high in Omega-3 fatty acids. Consuming cold-water fish such as salmon, herring and mackerel, as well as walnuts and chia seeds, can also increase your intake of health fatty acids.

Vitamin A

Research shows that retinoids, a vitamin in the vitamin A family, may improve the appearance of stretch marks.

Good sources of Vitamin A

Carrots, sweet potatoes and red palm oil. Topical application of Rosehip oil and jojoba oil are hydrating and also rich in Vitamin A.

Vitamin C

Vitamin C is essential for the synthesis of collagen, which is key in maintaining your skin healthy and elastic.

Good sources of Vitamin C

Foods high in Vitamin C include fruits such as papaya and citrus fruits and vegetables such as broccoli and Brussel sprouts.

Oils such as calendula and lavender

Credit: Freepik

Stretch marks and scars can appear inflamed and are sometimes sensitive to touch. These types of oils can greatly reduce the inflammation and calm the skin down.

Polyphenols

Eating a diet rich in the micronutrients antioxidant polyphenols can help speed up your skin’s healing process and aid in wound healing.

Good sources of Polyphenols

Plant-based foods, such as berries, leafy green vegetables and herbs are high in polyphenols.

Traditional herbs

Ulam, a collection of Malaysian herbs traditionally eaten raw, exhibit strong antioxidant properties, and many are also known for their skin-healing properties.

Centella asiatica, more commonly known as Pegaga and Gotu Kola in Malaysia, is a herb high in terpenoids that helps increase collagen production in the body.

It’s positive effects, such as reducing the appearance of stretch marks and helping prevent new stretch marks from forming, are backed by a number of clinical trials and studies. Pegaga is used in many exclusive cosmetic brands as an anti-ageing component to reduce fine lines and tighten the skin.

With the right habits you can prevent stretch marks and reduce their appearance

Stretch marks are a normal part of growing and nothing to be ashamed of. With that said, you can take action to prevent stretch marks from arising in the first place and treat the ones you already have naturally.

While there is no one way to prevent stretch marks completely, eating well and exercising regularly help avoid rapid weight loss or gain. Organic oils rich in vitamins and skin-healing properties, as well as the consumption of skin-nourishing foods, are a great way to go.

Reference

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2. Serbinova EA, Packer L. Antioxidant properties of alpha-tocopherol and alpha-tocotrienol. Methods Enzymol. 1994;234:354-66. doi: 10.1016/0076-6879(94)34105-2. PMID: 7808307.

3. 1. Kiecolt-Glaser J.K., Glaser R., Christian L.M. Omega-3 fatty acids and stress-induced immune dysregulation: Implications for wound healing. Mil. Med. 2014.

4. Kang S, Kim KJ, Griffiths CEM, et al. Topical Tretinoin (Retinoic Acid) Improves Early Stretch Marks. Arch Dermatol. 1996;132(5):519–526. doi:10.1001/archderm.1996.03890290053007

5. Bylka W, Znajdek-Awiżeń P, Studzińska-Sroka E, Brzezińska M. Centella asiatica in cosmetology. Postepy Dermatol Alergol. 2013 Feb;30(1):46-9. doi: 10.5114/pdia.2013.33378. Epub 2013 Feb 20. PMID: 24278045; PMCID: PMC3834700.

6. MALLOL, J., BELDA, M., COSTA, D., NOVAL, A. and SOLA, M. (1991), Prophylaxis of Striae gravidarum with a topical formulation. A double blind trial. International Journal of Cosmetic Science, 13: 51-57.

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12-year-old boy rapes 6-year-old sister after watching sex scene in video game

A 12-year-old boy raped his sister three times after being influenced by sex scenes from a video game. The 6-year-old girl was told that they were ‘special bundles and snuggles’.

The boy told Swindon Youth Court, in England, that he watched a sexual act in the game, ‘Grand Theft Auto’, and recreated the scene on his sister more than once.

Boy raped his sister after watching sex scene in video game

The game in question, is for those aged 18 and above, and is known for the graphic nature of sex and violence. The boy wanted to try out the scenes to ‘see what it was like for himself’.

Apparently, he raped his sister while the adults in the house were asleep, or in another room. On one occasion, another sibling was in the room when it happened.

The incidents came to light when the little victim confided in her school friend, and the girl told their teacher. The boy has pleaded guilty to the charges.

When asked by the judge what he would do if he had the opportunity to commit his crimes again, the boy replied, “I would stop myself, I have learned that it’s wrong.”

The boy is currently not living with his siblings. He will have to complete a 12-month referral order.

“We just want to make things right and do what’s best for the safety of the children,” the boy’s mother has been quoted as saying.

“My daughter used to be very sad this was her fault, but she’s come on leaps and bounds, she’s a very strong girl and there’s not an ounce of sadness in her now, I’m so proud of her,” she said.

Real Dangers of Watching Porn or Adult Content on Children

Pornography is a serious menace. Research has found out that long term exposure to pornography can cause many detrimental behaviours. A study by the
American College of Paediatricians
 found out that subjects:

demonstrated increased callousness toward women (for males only)

considered the crime of rape less serious

were more accepting of non-marital sexual activity and non-coital sexual practices such as oral and anal sex

became more interested in more extreme and deviant forms of pornography

were more likely to say they were dissatisfied with their sexual partner

became more accepting of sexual infidelity in a relationship

valued marriage less and were twice as likely to believe marriage may become obsolete

showed a greater acceptance of female promiscuity

What Can We Do to Protect Our Kids?

Placing home computers in public spaces in the home, and never in a child’s room (including mobile phones, iPads, gaming devices, etc.)

Set and enforce limits around screen time.

Equip all media devices with Internet filters and parental controls.

Model healthy, respectful relationships and self-worth.

Talk to your child openly. Share your family’s values and expectations regarding sex and relationships.

Know what your children are watching, playing and listening to. Discuss any inappropriate content or behaviours with them.

ACPeds president and pediatrician, Michelle Cretella, M.D. warns parents that, “The chances of accidentally coming across porn at some point is probably close to 100 percent for most kids.”

“Tell them that ‘If you ever see something that bothers you, or that makes you feel yucky, please tell me, and I will help you.’”

If you catch your child watching porn or adult content:

1. Remain Calm

Being overly-emotional, angry, concerned and confused is normal… but won’t get you anywhere. Perhaps these words are enough to describe your feelings as a parent when you first find out that your child often watches adult videos.

However, the first thing you must do is to
calm yourself down
. This is so that you can begin a conversation with your child in an even-tempered manner.

2. Avoid Scolding Them

Don’t blame or scold your child. Stay calm and act maturely.

Show your support and care at all times. Get to know what exactly they have seen/read.

3. Provide Additional Supervision or Surveillance

What else can you do once you know that your child has come across/frequently watches pornographic videos? Parents can take the extra step by providing extra supervision at home and in school. This includes limiting their access to viewing adult videos and being wary of who they befriend.

(Source:
 International Business Times
,
Yahoo News)

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Is Our Gut Our 2nd Brain? The Mind-Gut Connection Explained

By now you’ve most likely heard the big news: your gut is your considered your second brain and it needs some extra attention. This is especially true when it comes to your mental health. With anxiety and depression being the leading cause of disability in 2020 with 40 million people suffering globally, it’s time that we start to take a holistic approach in addressing the matter and for that science is taking a bottom up approach.

Micro-what?

The term “microbiome” gets thrown around quite a bit when chatting about gut health. Let’s break it down so you can g(u)t a better idea of what’s going on.

The microbiome beings as soon as you pass through the birth canal. As you exit the womb, you’re covered in this healthy bacteria which then grows into this 3 pound mass known as the microbiome. Research has found that humans are made up of 90% microbes and only 10% human cells.

During the early stages of life (from birth until the age of 3), these bacteria are sensitive and the foundation of health is being built. During this time it’s very crucial to ensure that these bacteria are in healthy balance referred to as homeostasis.

Your gut microbiome grows to be incredibly intelligent. It is made up of 100 trillion of these tiny bacteria that influence almost every function in your body. These bacteria control your weight, mood, sleep, skin, and brain health, which is why it’s important to make sure they stay balanced and well fueled.

The state of your gut can be the reason you feel fabulous or why you feel sluggish.

But, why is the gut called the second brain?

There are a few key reasons for the gut being referred to as the second brain.

The first reason we call it our “second brain”, is that the microbiome controls almost everything about us. Such as:

Your genetics

Your healthy weight balance

The foods you crave

The quality of your sleep

Your immunity

Your hormones

Detoxification

Autoimmunities

What’s happening with your skin

How you feel and think

This is why I would arguably say that it is our first brain!

Secondly being that it runs entirely on its own through the Enteric Nervous System. You don’t have to tell yourself to digest your food or your heart to breathe, do you? The brain, heart, lungs, liver, pancreas, and gut all make up this system.

The Enteric Nervous System is home to the longest cranial nerve called the vagus nerve, something we refer to in my programs as the “wandering nerve”. The vagus nerve sends out these signals called “action potentials” that keeps everything running smoothly in the body.

The communication is entirely automatic and 90 percent of the communication that runs through this vagus nerve is from the gut to the brain, meaning your gut is continually influencing how your brain functions through this gut-brain connection.

Gut-Brain Connection

You’ve most likely used the phrases “I have butterflies in my stomach” or maybe you’ve had a “gut wrenching experience” where you felt your fears in your stomach. These phrases aren’t just a play on words but have some truth to them as the brain and gut have a sensitive relationship.

Your gut is home to over 100 million neurons; that’s as many as your spinal column. On top of that, it is home to 30 different neurotransmitters; that’s as many as in your brain!  And it is the powerhouse of your immunity with 85 percent of your immunity being held between your gut wall.

The communication between the gut and the brain is a two-way street. An imbalanced and inflamed gut can send signals to the brain, just as an imbalanced and inflamed brain can send signals to the gut. This is why when working with clients I often see those suffering from
IBS
 also suffering from anxiety or depression and vice versa.

Therefore, a person’s stomach or intestinal distress can be the cause and/or the product of anxiety, stress, or depression.

What research is now finding is that 90 percent of your serotonin — your happy hormone– and 50 percent of your dopamine — your reward hormone– is housed in your gut lining. So, with 90 percent of your happiness being held in your gut and 80 to 90 percent of that communication through the vagus nerve being from your gut to your brain, it makes sense to tune into what you’re eating to tackle depression, anxiety, and stress.

So, now what?

Simply put: when you have an inflamed gut, you have an inflamed brain and when you have an inflamed brain you can have an inflamed gut. To see relief in one, it starts with tackling inflammation. This is why when working with students in the
Gut Recharge Program
, we take the dual approach for fighting inflammation.

Tuning into your nutrition is the first step in healing your anxiety and depression using a holistic approach. Figuring out your trigger foods and then eliminating them to allow the body to heal will do wonders for the mind, body, and soul.

Next, you also want to focus on what’s happening outside of your plate. You can drink all the green juice and eat all the kale salads, but if you’re not dealing with what’s going on inside your head you’re only fighting half the battle.

Tuning into your stress management, your eating habits, your relationships, and your environments will create a platform to set you up for success.

If you’re someone that is looking for a holistic approach to healing your anxiety and depression, check out the Gut Recharge Program. We cover topics like this and so much more so that you can heal for good.
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10 Ways To Manage Your Stress For Peace Of Mind

We know by now that stress is not something to ignore. In fact, chronic stress can pose some real health risks to your body. When chronic stress develops into long-term stress, it can lead to high blood pressure, chest pains, chronic digestive issues, insomnia, panic attacks, and even depression.

In order to maintain a healthy body, mind, and soul, here are 10 ways to manage your stress for peace of mind.

Eliminate Your Triggers

Take a moment to contemplate on what, or who is causing you to feel stressed. Some ideas: your job, your relationship with someone specific, or maybe even your diet? If you can identify triggers then you can start to work towards eliminating your triggers.

If you can’t eliminate the trigger entirely, then how can you reduce your interaction with or approach towards that trigger?

If you’re struggling to identify your stress triggers, then consider keeping a stress journal. Simply note moments when you feel stressed and try to notice if you can find a pattern.

Maintain A Balanced Diet & Avoid Sugar

Although eating well hasn’t been proven to have a direct connection to stress reduction, eating healthy and staying away from refined sugar can make you feel a lot better – physically and mentally.

You may start to develop more energy and in turn, become more focused and productive. Being alert and on top of your to-do list can also help reduce work-related stress.

Consider Supplements

There are numerous supplements available that promote stress reduction – you’ll actually be spoilt for choice! 3 great options are:

Ashwagandha: A natural remedy loved by the Ayurvedic community, ashwagandha is known for
treating stress and anxiety
.

Green Tea: Easily accessible and effective, green tea contains polyphenol antioxidants which
can increase serotonin levels
(known as the ‘happy’ chemical).

Omega 3 Fatty Acids: According to
this study
, Omega 3 Fatty Acids helped medical students reduce their anxiety by 20%.

Refrain From Stimulants

While it might be tempting to turn to a glass (or more) of alcohol, the side effects are not worth it. Besides straining your wallet, alcohol can strain your mental health, too, as it’s classified as a
depressant
. As for everything else, it’s about balance.

If you always turn to alcohol “to relax”, cutting down can be hard – but comes with many benefits.

Another hard fact to swallow: caffeine is a stimulant that infamously causes
jitters
.

Set Boundaries & Say ‘No’ More

Saying  ‘no’ more can be liberating as it will provide you with more time to focus on yourself, as opposed to doing things you don’t want to do or meeting people you don’t feel like seeing. Again, it will be hard to set boundaries and to say ‘no’. Just remember that your overall health should always be at the top of your priority list. Once you start saying ‘no’, it will only get easier and easier as your self-love deepens.

Move Your Body

Working out can help to reduce stress, so if you still are not exercising, then it’s time to get moving! Even just 15 minutes a day is enough for your body to start producing endorphins – a chemical known for making people feel ecstatic.

Why not hit up your favourite class at the gym, go for a run, or a long walk?

Connect To Your Breath

When faced with a stressful situation, the body automatically reacts by going into fight or flight mode. This means your heart rate increases, breathing becomes shallow, you get a dry mouth, and might experience other unpleasant sensations.

The first thing to do in situations like that is to take a slow, deep breath. Then take another. For a more long-term solution, find a
meditation
 or breathwork technique that resonates with you and practice it daily – even if just for ten minutes.

Get Lost (Safely)

Reading
 is often an underrated cure for stress. It’s been proven to increase relaxation which, of course, helps with stress.

A study conducted by the
University of Sussex
 found that participants who read for merely six minutes began exhibiting slower heart rates and reduced stress levels.

Remember:
 Reading comic books is still reading.

Schedule In Time For Your Hobbies

Do you get enough play in your life? Those moments where you are doing something purely for the pleasure of it – no expectations, no deadlines? Moments like that allow your body, and mind, to unwind and relax.

If you haven’t quite found a hobby then start experimenting. If you have, start scheduling in time to continue your (perhaps long lost) hobby.

Set Yourself Up For A Good Sleep

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It’s undeniable: A bad night of sleep often results in lower energy levels, which then affects your mood and/ or leads to stress.

In order to avoid a restless night, why not set up your room to be conducive to sleep like a queen/king? You can try lighting candles, using a diffuser, playing soothing music, utilising an eye mask, and so much more.

Keep Going

Yes, forming new habits can be challenging. You will thank yourself later when the quality of your life improves!

Don’t forget that for every problem, there is always a solution – and often is a lot about your mindset and how you approach different situations.
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Wean Your Baby With 4 Basic Tips for a Smooth Transition

Mums, your baby is now around six months old and can now sit up on his own. He watches you eat and cheekily tries to grab your food.

You know what? Your baby is now at the
weaning stage
. In other words, he is ready to start
eating solid food
.

But as a new mum, you may not be sure about the basics of a child’s weaning journey. Here’s help for you to make this transition smooth and easy!

1. Is
Your Baby Ready for Weaning? The Telltale Signs

Weaning is an exciting new phase for mothers. But how can you be sure that your baby is absolutely ready to start his journey towards eating solid food?

According to most paediatricians, babies are ready for their first taste of solids by the time they are around six months old. By this age, babies begin to lose their “extrusion reflex,”or what they use for sucking a breast or bottle, and begin to develop motor skills for chewing and eating.

Here are the telltale signs that will confirm your baby is ready for this new phase of his life:

2. Baby’s
First Food

Now that you are weaning your toddler, you should try to offer him food that provides all the nutrients he requires. This is important for the overall growth of your child.

According to experts, a baby’s natural stores of iron begins to deplete around the time he is ready to
start eating solid food
, which is at the age of six months. Because of this, babies should be given baby iron-fortified cereal, as well as foods naturally rich in iron (such as chicken or pork), as some of their first foods.

Iron-rich food should be combined with Vitamin C, which helps in the absorption of iron.

Offer him a variety of food from the four main food groups in the correct portions. Familiarise yourself as well with the serving sizes of various food groups to help you plan a healthy diet for him.

3. Texture of
Weaning Food

What should be the texture of the solids that you offer to your toddler? You can’t jump straight away to giving him food that adults consume.

Mums, weaning is a journey, and so the texture of food should also gradually change as the weaning process progresses.

For example, for the first stage (at around six months), keep the texture
smooth and runny
 to help your baby enjoy the process of learning how to eat. Give your baby soft, mashed fruit and cooked, strained vegetables at this stage. You can also give soft protein-rich foods such as beancurd/tofu, cooked and mashed lentils, and finely flaked fish.

However, as your baby’s ability to chew and bite improves between eight and ten months, you can move towards food with more texture. For example, you could add finely minced meat and finely shredded poultry in his diet.

4. How
Much to Feed Your Baby

Feeding a baby is a delicate affair as every baby has a unique appetite. Feed the baby too little and he mayremain hungry. Feed him too much, and he could be overfed, resulting in possible digestive unease.

Here is how you couldportion your toddler’s solid intake:

Mums, we know that the transition from milk to solids is a bit tricky, and you might meet some resistance or challenges along this journey. But as long as you persevere and follow the advice we have detailed here, the transition from milk only to solids is bound to be smooth.

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Best Stretch Marks Creams for Pregnancy to Ease Itchy, Sensitive & Dry Skin!

What’s the best way to fade stretch marks?

Mothers go through a lot of physical and emotional changes during pregnancy. Stretch marks, also known as striae, happen when the skin stretches quickly, usually due to pregnancy, sudden change in weight, or even rapid growth during puberty.

Stretch marks appear in different areas of our body such as the stomach, arms, hips, and thighs. Although they are perfectly normal, some women actually do find them bothersome as they feel itchy, sensitive and also it affects their self-esteem.

Some women usually find it hard to fade their post-pregnancy stretch marks. And here at theAsianparent, we have just the solution for you!

How to Choose A Good Stretch Marks Cream

Don’t let your stretch marks get you down, Mama, because there is a way for you to fade them!
 You have to be patient though because it will take some time.

The best way to deal with stretch marks is to start applying a good stretch mark cream consistently throughout your pregnancy.

Take note of these few things before purchasing your stretch marks cream:

Ingredients

Pregnant women should be extra careful when consuming or applying any medication to avoid any potential risks to the baby. It is best to go for creams that are made with natural ingredients or medically-approved chemical ingredients, and paraben-free.

Feel and Comfort

A good cream provides moisture and hydration to the skin. We recommend choosing an anti-inflammatory stretch mark cream if you have sensitive skin.

We have compiled some of the most-loved stretch mark creams in Malaysia.

Mama’s Choice Stretch Mark Cream

Our top choice is Mama's Choice Stretch Mark Cream that deeply moisturizes stretch mark-prone skin and relieves itching. This cream is safe to use during and after pregnancy as well as during breastfeeding. You can count on this to provide comfort to your stretching belly, hips, and breast.

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

A blend of natural ingredients derived from Lipobelle
TM
 Soyaglycone

Aloe vera to improve skin elasticity and keep the skin soft, hydrated and supple all-day

Enriched with shea butter, olive oil, and jojoba oil

Rich in antioxidants and collagen-building components

Feel and Comfort:

Soothes itchiness

Soft and gentle enough to be applied on the skin’s most sensitive area

 Mama’s Choice Stretch Mark Cream
Buy at Shopee

Pureen Stretch Mark Lotion

Pureen is one of the most trusted mum and baby care brands in Malaysia. The Pureen Stretch Mark Lotion is developed with its TRIPLE ACTION FORMULA that helps prevent and reduce stretch marks.

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

Cocoa butter, shea butter, olive oil dan Rose Hip Seed oil

Collagen and Sodium Hyaluronate to strengthen the skin and enhance its elasticity

Vitamin E for antioxidant protection

Feel and Comfort:

Contains oil to soften the skin

Relieves itchiness due to dry skin

 Pureen Stretch Mark Lotion (150ml) -
RM30.40
dari

Pureen
5
/5
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Palmer’s Cocoa Butter Massage Lotion for Stretch Marks

Palmer's Cocoa Butter Formula Massage Lotion helps increase skin elasticity and reduces the appearance of stretch marks. This cream is highly recommended for stretch marks during and after pregnancy or sudden weight changes and can be used all over the body.

Bonus point - it does not only reduce stretch marks but also corrects skin tone and texture.

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

Pure Cocoa Butter dan Shea Butter

Natural oils

Collagen, Elastin, and Lutein keep the skin moist and supple for 48 hours, allowing the skin to stretch more easily

Free from mineral oil, parabens, phthalates, fragrance allergens, and dyes

Feel and Comfort:

Not oily

Suitable for whole body use, instead of your usual body lotion

 Palmer's Cocoa Butter Stretch Mark Cream
dari

Palmer's
4.8
/5
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Bio-Oil®

Bio-Oil is a scar removal product that is not only very popular in this country, but around the world.

Renowned for its very own research laboratory, the brand is known as Bio‑Oil® in all countries other than Austria, Czech Republic, France, Germany, Slovakia, and Switzerland where it is known as Bio-Oil® and in Japan where it is known as Bioil®.

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

Calendula, Lavender, and Rosemary oils as well as Chamomile extract

Vitamin A and E

Free from chemical ingredients and preservatives

Feel and Comfort:

PurCellin Oil™ makes this a non-oily body oil a.k.a “dry" oil that feels light on the skin

Easily absorbed into the skin

 Bio Oil -
RM66.40
dari

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Burt Bees Mama Belly Butter

Mums love this cream as it is specially formulated to soothe the skin throughout the 9 months of pregnancy.

Burt Bees Mama Belly Butter has a creamy texture that will nourish mum’s growing belly with softness, extra care, and comfort before and after the arrival of the baby.

Apply this belly butter early on during pregnancy so it is much easier to fade them later!

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

99% natural ingredients

Sunflower oil, coconut oil, almond oil, shea butter, jojoba oil

Vitamin E

Free from phthalates, parabens, petrolatum and SLS

Feel and Comfort:

Not sticky

Easily absorbed into the skin

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Mustela Stretch Marks Prevention Cream

This Mustela cream helps prevent the appearance of stretch marks since pregnancy. It does not contain any fragrances or ingredients that can be harmful to the baby.

It was developed in collaboration with physicians to ensure that it is safe for mum and baby.

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

Avocado peptides strengthen skin elasticity and make skin feel supple and comfortable

Galactoarabin, a patented stretch mark treatment ingredient extracted from the Larch tree, increases skin elasticity and helps skin withstand stretch marks

Beeswax and shea butter provide lasting moisture and nourishment, leaving skin feeling soft

Feel and Comfort:

Hypoallergenic, safe to use during pregnancy and breastfeeding

Does not contain potentially harmful ingredients such as parabens, phthalates, phenoxyethanol, bisphenols A/S, caffeine and alcohol

 Mustela Stretch Marks Prevention Cream -
RM120
dari

Mustela
Beli di Shopee

Mederma Stretch Mark Therapy

Mederma® Stretch Marks Therapy locks hydration to help prevent stretch marks. This cream can be applied during pregnancy, beginning the second trimester onwards, and even during breastfeeding.

What we like about it:

Ingredients:

Cepailin, a proprietary botanical blend

Hyaluronic Acid

Centella Asiatica plant extract

Feel and Comfort:

Easily absorbs into the skin

Increases the moisture content of the skin

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Mederma
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12 signs you may be a helicopter parent

While you might have heard of helicopter parents before, here, we dive deep into the topic to provide you with a better understanding of this parenting style. What are some typical traits of helicopter parents? What are the effects of parenting styles on child development? And what can you do if you are a helicopter parent?

What Is Helicopter Parenting?

“Helicopter parenting”
 involves pouring an unhealthy amount of attention into your child’s life. As the name implies, helicopter parents tend to hover over their children at all times. This kind of behaviour continues even when children are grown up.

From giving advice all the time to dealing with your children’s issues yourself, helicopter parenting goes hand-in-hand with intruding into your children’s lives – a lot.

Dr Lim Boon Leng, a psychiatrist at Gleneagles Hospital, says that helicopter parenting is “a maladaptive”, since the parent is “overprotective, hovers around the child, and gets involved in his affairs and activities excessively”.

And it’s not just young children. Helicopter parenting can even affect teenagers and adults.

Although children grow up and move out, they remain financially and emotionally reliant on mum and dad. Parents can still withhold financial support or tenderness to penalise children and obtain the results they want.

Signs of helicopter parenting: Even University students can feel the effects of helicopter parenting. | Image source: stock photos

Signs of Helicopter Parenting

There are many ways to identify whether you’re a helicopter parent or not. Helicopter parents have a particular mindset, unlike others parents.

Do any of these signs of helicopter parenting seem familiar to you?

Signs of Helicopter Parenting: Do you believe that…

1. Your main role as a parent is minimising pain in your child’s life?

2. A smooth life will help your child to grow up happily?

3. You can’t stand seeing your child experiencing painful or negative setbacks?

4. It’s okay to intrude into your kid’s social life, continuously giving them advice and listening to their problems?

5. Your child may not be able to handle life’s challenges, such that you call them excessively throughout the day until even they become anxious?

Signs of Helicopter Parenting: You…

6. Take full control and handle your children’s social issues (e.g. arguments with other kids or teachers) by talking it out with the adults who could be responsible.

7. Finish your child’s assignments for them and ask teachers for an extra grade.

8. Preach to your child’s teachers after class, telling them what they should be doing.

9. Keep your child within your sight at all times when possible (e.g. driving your teenager to meet their date, even if it’s close by).

10. Organise your older child’s room, wash and fold your teenager’s clothes, even though they are quite capable of doing such tasks themselves.

11. Don’t let them take any risks (e.g. telling your primary-schooler they are not allowed to ride a bike for fear of injuries).

12. Don’t accept failure in your child.

Why Helicopter Parenting Doesn’t Work

Helicopter parents overly shield their children from a huge range of issues. They may go so far as solving the child’s problems. Or helicopter parents may make decisions for their children even if they are old enough to do these things for themselves.

While such parents have the best intentions at heart, the reality is they could be harming their child’s development.

Parental behaviour such as this results in a generation of helpless children who are at a loss when tasked with making a decision. Without the confidence to self-motivate, children of helicopter parents find it harder to be
independent
 at any stage in their life.

Here is how helicopter parenting
does not
help your child.

Helicopter parents want to find easy ways to prevent their children from getting stressed, such as by doing their assignments or chores.
However
, some frustration can be good as it helps your child improve his problem-solving skills. Meanwhile chores can teach your child how to be responsible.

They think they know how to best guide their children’s physical activities.
However
, when it comes to sports and teamwork, too much hand-holding only deprives your child of learning experiences, such as resolving conflicts, cooperating, leading others towards a common goal, and coping with defeat. They can only learn these skills by experiencing them on their own.

Some parents strip children of the opportunity to be independent when they keep them by their side all the time.
However,
doing so only reduces your child’s self-confidence and may even lead to aggression and/or depression.

They want to protect their children by not allowing them to take any risks.
However
, not taking any risks at all can hamper one’s mental and physical growth.

They won’t accept the child’s mistakes, instead taking over the tasks that their child has to do.
However,
doing so will only deny your children a chance to learn from trial and error. Trial and error allows your children to teach themselves, and eventually, how to navigate the world or resolve issues later in life.

Psychological and Emotional Effects of Helicopter Parenting

Although helicopter parenting may come from the best of intentions, it comes with a lot of negative consequences for the child. According to experts and helicopter parenting statistics,
1
 children are at risk of developing behavioural problems when they grow older.

With extensive helicopter parenting, your child could become:

Anxious and depressed
. Helicopter parents can also force unfeasible expectations onto their children, who become self-critical, faulting themselves even for the slightest of errors. Over time, this behaviour can slowly develop into anxiety and depression.

Developing low self-esteem.
Previous studies
2
 have shown that children whose parents don’t care for their children, or don’t give them opportunities to improve via trial and error, were at risk of perceiving themselves as worthless.

Low self-esteem in younger and older kids is a common effect of overprotective parents, and is one of the signs of helicopter parenting. | Image source: stock photos

Too dependent on you.
By doing everything for your children instead of letting them figure it out on their own, you’re creating a situation of dependency. Your children will only ever see you as the solution, even  in adulthood. Always remember that struggling is actually good, as it helps a person learn how to do things better.

Aggressive and impatient to their peers
. Parents who over-impose their authority and intervene too much in their children’s lives can make them feel as though they’re not in control. In response, their children uphold their own influence by becoming
irritable
3
 when talking to peers.

Overweight.
Helicopter parents tend to limit their children’s outdoor playtime activities (to avoid injuries, mostly). This often results in children sitting indoors. Most of the time they’ll be in front of a TV or computer. And this deprives them of opportunities to develop social skills and exercise.

A study by the University College London
4
 has discovered that children brought up with parents who did not impose as much psychological control over them become happier, more satisfied adults.

Helicopter Parents, Here’s What You Can Do About It

There are ways to curb the signs of helicopter parenting. Here are some practical tips:

Don’t Punish Mistakes

Trust kids with tasks that are age- and developmentally-appropriate.

Equip children with the skills needed to complete a task.

Encourage them to make mistakes, but be ready to guide them when they do so. The aim is to teach them
life lessons
 so that they can learn responsibility and accountability.

Observe how your child deals with frustration first before intervening.

It’s fine to let your child get a few minor injuries. Remember: the point is to keep him as protected as needed, not as protected as possible.

Making your child feel safe and trusted in your hands is an important way to guide them properly. | Image source: stock photos

Open Communication Channels

Listen to your children intently, especially with regard to social conflicts. Support them as they talk and let them express their full range of emotions. Then, teach them to soothe themselves and find ways to resolve the issue.

Reassure them that you care for them before helping them solve a problem.

Engage them in conversation that helps stimulate their critical thinking and problem-solving skills.

Be vulnerable and let your kids see you struggle.
5
 They will learn about
perseverance
, which might even set them up for future success.

Teach Them Independence

Emphasise how their struggles can be an opportunity for learning and collaboration.

Highlight the importance of the process more than results.

Let your children solve problems on their own, as it helps them learn to become mentally stronger. Let them test their limits. Celebrate their efforts, not just their successes, especially when they persevere through difficult problems.

Don’t forget to start small, and don’t push further if they can’t take it. Let them explore their own passions that they naturally excel in, instead.

Teach your child to talk to his own peers or teachers if he has issues with them.

Provide times for your children to be free. You can leave older children in the fenced backyard or playground while you prepare dinner or do something else.

Expert Recommendations

Julie Lythcott-Haims was the Dean of freshmen in
Stanford University
. In her 10 years of serving the University, she realised that new students were increasingly academically brilliant, but also increasingly unable to care for themselves.

She pinpoints the source as helicopter parenting. While this style of parenting may help students perform excellently in terms of academics, it protects them from hardship, failure and disappointment. She points out that such parents are stripping their children of the chance to learn who they are, what they love and how to navigate the world.

Lythcott-Haims advises four simple ways to curb helicopter parenting:

Beat the signs of helicopter parenting. Start with chores young, gradually increasing the need for self sufficiency. | Image source: stock photos

Independence:
Encourage your older children to be independent by asking them to run errands, teaching them to cook meals on their own, and so on. According to Lythcott-Haims, this is a good thing. It teaches your child valuable social skills such as self-sufficiency, a good work ethic, and confidence.

Individuality:
Don’t say “we” to refer to your child. Letting your child own the important aspects of his life allows them be at the forefront of their dreams and aspirations, so that you don’t need to do everything for them.

Trust others:
Let your child’s older mentors guide him as needed. By letting these other adults do what they do the best, your child can interact with and question them independently. You are essentially teaching your child how to stand up for himself.

Step back:
Don’t do their work for them
 – it makes them feel helpless (even if it gets the grades). Instead, make your presence known should they they need guidance. Give them the chance to express their sense of fulfillment when they nail a school project independently.

Parents, remember that it’s alright to be involved in your children’s lives. But it’s impossible to protect or advise them 24/7.

As Lythcott-Haims says, putting yourself out of your job as parents is the only way you’ll know you’ve successfully raised an adult.

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References:

Today,

www.todayonline.com/singapore/are-you-helicopter-parent

WebMD,

www.webmd.com/children/ss/slideshow-kids-injuries

The Atlantic,

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