The context of the following conversation is Sasha helped her friend Liza who was in a bad situation. Liza refused to help herself and went back to the bad situation.:
Sasha says I know that you told me I should just break up with Jim, but I stayed with him and now he's drinking more than ever!.
The friend responds But Sasha, you know that the only way for him to get help is if he decides to quit drinking on his own..
Sasha responds I know, but he just seemed so helpless and he really needs me..
The friend responds He's only going to continue treating you badly the longer you stay..
Sasha responds I know, I guess I'm just confused and I still love him..
The friend responds Sasha, you really need to leave him. If I can't convince you, I guess you'll just have to learn for yourself one of these days..