The context of the following conversation is kai was a reasonable person who was listened to so he put her life in perspective.:
Kai says It took me years to be able to figure out what my life meant..
The friend responds You are the most reasonable and understanding person I know..
Kai responds I didn't use to be. I just wandered around not caring about anything..
The friend responds You figured out what was important and what was not, and helped your friend to her life in perspective only yesterday..