Memories that come with anniversaries

"What are you planning for our anniversary this year?" I recently asked my husband. We then got talking about the different ways we had celebrated over the years and how it was an occasion we looked forward to. it was not lost on us though, that for many couples anniversaries are not necessarily anything to look forward to. You may have come across that chauvinistic joke that when a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. As horrified as I was to read it, in the context of celebration o anniversary signifies trouble rather than triumph. Instead of drilling on the triumph of having lived together than triumph. Instead of drilling on the trouble comes in many forms.it could be the trouble of living with a hopeless drunk who causes misery to his wife and children. or it could come in the form of violence. The lists endless. To put it another way, some couples, its actually a triumph that they managed another year together and each still alive!

By Miriam Ongoma.

Location: Stage Mandazi, Kakamega, Kenya