Mike went on earnestly, "Goodness is not enough, goodness is never enough.  That was one of my first mistakes, because among Martians goodness and wisdom are the same thing, identical.  But not with us.  Take Jill.  Her goodness was perfect when I met her.  Nevertheless she was all mixed up inside - and I almost destroyed her, and myself too - for I was just as mixed up - before we got squared away.  Her endless patience (not very common on this planet) was all that saved us... while I was learning to be a human and she was learning what I knew.