"But ..." Of course. That’s the point. It’s always been the point and until now she was never mature enough to accept that. What did he say? The shaman’s way is hard. He has to do what he thinks is best, and she must accept that ! She must! She should be trying to understand, not telling him what to do. She has to face the fact that she doesn’t know what’s best for him. She can’t know. She barely knows who he is, the man he’s become, the shaman, or anything else. If she wants him to play a part in her life, she’s going to have to stop being the older sister and start being the woman with enough maturity to love her brother without conditions.