"Nor ever want to.  Don't fret, Ben, you'll learn the language and acquire the discipline and you'll have loving help from all of us every step of the way.  You stop worrying and jump in that pool tonight; I'll have my arms out to catch you.  All of us will have our arms out, welcoming you home.  Now take this plate in to Duke and tell him I said he was a pig but a charming one.  And take this one in for yourself - oh, of course you can eat that much! - give me a kiss and run along; Ruthie has work to do."