And there it was. The thing I’d been avoiding. But I owed it to Justin to not evade. "It’s a bit of both. I think it was your mother’s death that really got to me. People die. And I remember each and every one, as clear as the day it happened. Over time, that’s more and more unhappy memories to deal with. I think I’m trying to move toward thinking of my relatives more as a group and less as individuals." I gave him a small smile to soften the message. "It distances me a little—well, a lot—but on balance I think it works out better."