"Mmmm... my dear, I'm always suspicious of a disinterested interest.  You look as if you had a normal glandular balance, so it is my guess that it is either Ben, or this poor boy from Mars, or both.  You had better take your motives out in private and have a look at them.  Then you will be better able to judge which way you are going.  In the meantime, what do you want me to do?"