"But, Jubal, women are not men.  We care about what a man is.  It can be something as silly as:  Is he wealthy?  Or it can be:  Will he take care of my children and be good to them?  Or, sometimes, it can be:  Is he good? - as you are good, Jubal.  But the beauty we see in you is not the beauty you see in us.  You are beautiful, Jubal."