I 'd thought that in our little bubble , a bubble , it should be said , that was defined not by class or money or education , but rather by goodness and decency and values and realness ( even I am laughing now ) , the men were somehow different from the men Out There who dated women multiple decades younger than themselves , prized them for their looks and their fecundity and fell in love with the magical rejuvenating mirrors they found in the women 's adoring young eyes .