And yet " A Promise to Ourselves , " written with Mark Tabb , includes details that will surely make their way onto the Internet and supermarket racks : when Basinger told Baldwin she was pregnant with their daughter , it was with such grimness that rather than a seeming cause of joy , it was " like someone telling you that they had wrecked your car " ; Baldwin describes Basinger as having " the legal equivalent of Munchausen syndrome , " appearing most alive " when she was surrounded by a battery of high-priced lawyers " ; he suggests she did everything in her power to distort his relationship with his daughter .