My mom , also a migraineur , did the same kind of philosophical resignation thing you mention early on in your blog , but , alas , without your seemingly diligent search for some kind of relief - and I resent her for it to this day , because migraines in anybody has subsequently become a symbol , for me , of someone who will just not ever be there when their loved ones need them most . " during which I was able to stay home and be close to my mother " - your mother must have been exceptional in some way , then , because over the years I have developed an absolute and complete aversion to being near my mother when she had ( has ?