how families can offer either despair or consolation 
(ROOT (SBAR (WHADVP (WRB how)) (S (NP (NNS families)) (VP (MD can) (VP (VB offer) (NP (CC either) (NN despair) (CC or) (NN consolation)))))))
(ROOT (SBAR (WHADVP (WRB )) (S (NP (NNS )) (VP (MD ) (VP (VB ) (NP (CC ) (NN ) (CC ) (NN )))))))