[SPARK-2316] Avoid O(blocks) operations in listeners

The existing code in `StorageUtils` is not the most efficient. Every time we want to update an `RDDInfo` we end up iterating through all blocks on all block managers just to discard most of them. The symptoms manifest themselves in the bountiful UI bugs observed in the wild. Many of these bugs are caused by the slow consumption of events in `LiveListenerBus`, which frequently leads to the event queue overflowing and `SparkListenerEvent`s being dropped on the floor. The changes made in this PR avoid this by first filtering out only the blocks relevant to us before computing storage information from them.

It's worth a mention that this corner of the Spark code is also not very well-tested at all. The bulk of the changes in this PR (more than 60%) is actually test cases for the various logic in `StorageUtils.scala` as well as `StorageTab.scala`. These will eventually be extended to cover the various listeners that constitute the `SparkUI`.
this is only used internally by `memUsed`, `diskUsed`, etc. Should we make those more efficient also now that we can just add the totals from each rdd (and then add up other blocks)?