ReplicatedPG: add empty stat when we remove an object in recover_backfill

Subsequent updates to that object need to have their stats added
to the backfill info stats atomically with the last_backfill
update.

Signed-off-by: Samuel Just <sam.just@inktank.com>
(cherry picked from commit ecddd12b01be120fba87f5ac60539f98f2c69a28)
ReplicatedPG::recover_backfill: do not update last_backfill prematurely

Previously, we would update last_backfill on the backfill peer to

backfills_in_flight.empty() ? backfill_pos :
  backfills_in_flight.begin()->first

which is actually the next backfill to complete.  We want to update
last_backfill to the largest completed backfill instead.

We use the pending_backfill_updates mapping to identify the most
recently completed backfill.  Due to the previous patch, deletes
will also be included in that mapping.

Related sha1s from master:
4139e75d63b0503dbb7fea8036044eda5e8b7cf1
7a06a71e0f2023f66d003dfb0168f4fe51eaa058

We don't really want to backport those due to the changes in:
9ec35d5ccf6a86c380865c7fc96017a1f502560a

This patch does essentially the same thing, but using backfill_pos.

Fixse: #8162
Signed-off-by: Samuel Just <sam.just@inktank.com>