cluster.tcl: fix redis links leak in refresh_nodes_map.
Cluster: better handling of stolen slots.

The previous code handling a lost slot (by another master with an higher
configuration for the slot) was defensive, considering it an error and
putting the cluster in an odd state requiring redis-cli fix.

This was changed, because actually this only happens either in a
legitimate way, with failovers, or when the admin messed with the config
in order to reconfigure the cluster. So the new code instead will try to
make sure that the keys stored match the new slots map, by removing all
the keys in the slots we lost ownership from.

The function that deletes the keys from the lost slots is called only
if the node does not lose all its slots (resulting in a reconfiguration
as a slave of the node that got ownership). This is an optimization
since the replication code will anyway flush all the instance data in
a faster way.
Cluster: don't accept cluster bus connections during startup.
Cluster test: added function assert_cluster_state.