[SPARK-3411] Improve load-balancing of concurrently-submitted drivers across workers

If the waiting driver array is too big, the drivers in it will be dispatched to the first worker we get(if it has enough resources), with or without the Randomization.

We should do randomization every time we dispatch a driver, in order to better balance drivers.

Author: WangTaoTheTonic <barneystinson@aliyun.com>
Author: WangTao <barneystinson@aliyun.com>

Closes #1106 from WangTaoTheTonic/fixBalanceDrivers and squashes the following commits:

d1a928b [WangTaoTheTonic] Minor adjustment
b6560cf [WangTaoTheTonic] solve the shuffle problem for HashSet
f674e59 [WangTaoTheTonic] add comment and minor fix
2835929 [WangTao] solve the failed test and avoid filtering
2ca3091 [WangTao] fix checkstyle
bc91bb1 [WangTao] Avoid shuffle every time we schedule the driver using round robin
bbc7087 [WangTaoTheTonic] Optimize the schedule in Master
Decrease partitions when testing
increase test parallelism
Make parquet tests less order dependent
more test fixes