[SPARK-3086] [SPARK-3043] [SPARK-3156] [mllib]  DecisionTree aggregation improvements

Summary:
(1) Variable numBins for each feature [SPARK-3043]
(2) Reduced data reshaping in aggregation [SPARK-3043]
(3) Choose ordering for ordered categorical features adaptively [SPARK-3156]
(4) Changed nodes to use 1-indexing [SPARK-3086]
(5) Small clean-ups

Note: This PR looks bigger than it is since I moved several functions from inside findBestSplitsPerGroup to outside of it (to make it clear what was being serialized in the aggregation).

Speedups: This update helps most when many features use few bins but a few features use many bins.  Some example results on speedups with 2M examples, 3.5K features (15-worker EC2 cluster):
* Example where old code was reasonably efficient (1/2 continuous, 1/4 binary, 1/4 20-category): 164.813 --> 116.491 sec
* Example where old code wasted many bins (1/10 continuous, 81/100 binary, 9/100 20-category): 128.701 --> 39.334 sec

Details:

(1) Variable numBins for each feature [SPARK-3043]

DecisionTreeMetadata now computes a variable numBins for each feature.  It also tracks numSplits.

(2) Reduced data reshaping in aggregation [SPARK-3043]

Added DTStatsAggregator, a wrapper around the aggregate statistics array for easy but efficient indexing.
* Added ImpurityAggregator and ImpurityCalculator classes, to make DecisionTree code more oblivious to the type of impurity.
* Design note: I originally tried creating Impurity classes which stored data and storing the aggregates in an Array[Array[Array[Impurity]]].  However, this led to significant slowdowns, perhaps because of overhead in creating so many objects.

The aggregate statistics are never reshaped, and cumulative sums are computed in-place.

Updated the layout of aggregation functions.  The update simplifies things by (1) dividing features into ordered/unordered (instead of ordered/unordered/continuous) and (2) making use of the DTStatsAggregator for indexing.
For this update, the following functions were refactored:
* updateBinForOrderedFeature
* updateBinForUnorderedFeature
* binaryOrNotCategoricalBinSeqOp
* multiclassWithCategoricalBinSeqOp
* regressionBinSeqOp
The above 5 functions were replaced with:
* orderedBinSeqOp
* someUnorderedBinSeqOp

Other changes:
* calculateGainForSplit now treats all feature types the same way.
* Eliminated extractLeftRightNodeAggregates.

(3) Choose ordering for ordered categorical features adaptively [SPARK-3156]

Updated binsToBestSplit():
* This now computes cumulative sums of stats for ordered features.
* For ordered categorical features, it chooses an ordering for categories. (This uses to be done by findSplitsBins.)
* Uses iterators to shorten code and avoid building an Array[Array[InformationGainStats]].

Side effects:
* In findSplitsBins: A sample of the data is only taken for data with continuous features.  It is not needed for data with only categorical features.
* In findSplitsBins: splits and bins are no longer pre-computed for ordered categorical features since they are not needed.
* TreePoint binning is simpler for categorical features.

(4) Changed nodes to use 1-indexing [SPARK-3086]

Nodes used to be indexed from 0.  Now they are indexed from 1.
Node indexing functions are now collected in object Node (Node.scala).

(5) Small clean-ups

Eliminated functions extractNodeInfo() and extractInfoForLowerLevels() to reduce duplicate code.
Eliminated InvalidBinIndex since it is no longer used.

CC: @mengxr  @manishamde  Please let me know if you have thoughts on this—thanks!
remove `private[tree]` (because the object is already `private[tree]`)