mon/OSDMonitor: fix pool deletion checks, races

Unify the pool deletion safety checks into a single set of functions.
Make sure we check the committed state and error out if there is a problem.
Also check the pending state, if any, and delay+retry if there is a
problem there.

This ensures that we correctly verify that a pool is not in use when it
is deleted (by another tier or by cephfs).  These checks are also now
applied to librados calls.

Fixes: #7590
Signed-off-by: Sage Weil <sage@inktank.com>
Merge pull request #1380 from ceph/wip-pool-delete

mon/OSDMonitor: fix pool deletion races

Reviewed-by: Joao Eduardo Luis <joao.luis@inktank.com>