[SPARK-3234][Build] Fixed environment variables that rely on deprecated command line options in make-distribution.sh

Please refer to [SPARK-3234](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3234) for details.

Author: Cheng Lian <lian.cs.zju@gmail.com>

Closes #2208 from liancheng/spark-3234 and squashes the following commits:

fb26de8 [Cheng Lian] Fixed SPARK-3234
(cherry picked from commit 287c0ac7722dd4bc51b921ccc6f0e3c1625b5ff4)

Signed-off-by: Patrick Wendell <pwendell@gmail.com>
[SPARK-3269][SQL] Decreases initial buffer size for row set to prevent OOM

When a large batch size is specified, `SparkSQLOperationManager` OOMs even if the whole result set is much smaller than the batch size.

Author: Cheng Lian <lian.cs.zju@gmail.com>

Closes #2171 from liancheng/jdbc-fetch-size and squashes the following commits:

5e1623b [Cheng Lian] Decreases initial buffer size for row set to prevent OOM

(cherry picked from commit d94a44d7caaf3fe7559d9ad7b10872fa16cf81ca)
Signed-off-by: Michael Armbrust <michael@databricks.com>
[SPARK-3291][SQL]TestcaseName in createQueryTest should not contain ":"

":" is not allowed to appear in a file name of Windows system. If file name contains ":", this file can't be checked out in a Windows system and developers using Windows must be careful to not commit the deletion of such files, Which is very inconvenient.

Author: qiping.lqp <qiping.lqp@alibaba-inc.com>

Closes #2191 from chouqin/querytest and squashes the following commits:

0e943a1 [qiping.lqp] rename golden file
60a863f [qiping.lqp] TestcaseName in createQueryTest should not contain ":"

(cherry picked from commit 634d04b87c2744d645e9c26e746ba2006371d9b5)
Signed-off-by: Michael Armbrust <michael@databricks.com>