[SPARK-3822] Executor scaling mechanism for Yarn

This is part of a broader effort to enable dynamic scaling of executors ([SPARK-3174](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3174)). This is intended to work alongside SPARK-3795 (#2746), SPARK-3796 and SPARK-3797, but is functionally independently of these other issues.

The logic is built on top of @PraveenSeluka's changes at #2798. This is different from the changes there in that the mechanism is implemented within the existing scheduler backend framework rather than in new `Actor` classes. This also introduces a parent abstract class `YarnSchedulerBackend` to encapsulate common logic to communicate with the Yarn `ApplicationMaster`.

I have tested this on a stable Yarn cluster.

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A remaining task for this issue is to tone down the error messages emitted when an executor is removed.
Currently, `SparkContext` and its components react as if the executor has failed, resulting in many scary error messages and eventual timeouts. While it's not strictly necessary to fix this as of the first-cut implementation of this mechanism, it would be good to add logic to distinguish this case. I prefer to address this in a separate PR.
Can this ever happen? Seems like `schedulerBackend` is initialized in the constructor.