[SPARK-732][SPARK-3628][CORE][RESUBMIT] make if allowing duplicate update as an option of accumulator

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3628

In current implementation, the accumulator will be updated for every successfully finished task, even the task is from a resubmitted stage, which makes the accumulator counter-intuitive

In this patch, I changed the way for the DAGScheduler to update the accumulator,

DAGScheduler maintains a HashTable, mapping the stage id to the received <accumulator_id , value> pairs. Only when the stage becomes independent, (no job needs it any more), we accumulate the values of the <accumulator_id , value> pairs, when a task finished, we check if the HashTable has contained such stageId, it saves the accumulator_id, value only when the task is the first finished task of a new stage or the stage is running for the first attempt...
This may cause a memory leak?