ISPN-4873 Statetransfer thread pool deadlock

* Update LargeClusterStressTest to create a large number of caches
* Make StateRequestCommand implement TopologyAffectedCommand
ISPN-4941 Re-enabling rebalancing should not start a rebalance for a cache
in degraded mode
Replace sfl4j-jdk14 dependency with sfl4j-log4j12 so that jboss logging
writes to log4j in the cdi module (and dependents).

Add more debugging around cache listeners. It seems Class.getMethods()
sometimes returns synthetic methods created by overriding a generic method.