Set the all-visible flag on heap page before writing WAL record, not after.

If we set the all-visible flag after writing WAL record, and XLogInsert
takes a full-page image of the page, the image would not include the flag.
We will then proceed to set the VM bit, which would then be set without the
corresponding all-visible flag on the heap page.

Found by comparing page images on master and standby, after writing/replaying
each WAL record. (There is still a discrepancy: the all-visible flag won't
be set after replaying the HEAP_CLEAN record, even though it is set in the
master. However, it will be set when replaying the HEAP2_VISIBLE record and
setting the VM bit, so the all-visible flag and VM bit are always consistent
on the standby, even though they are momentarily out-of-sync with master)

Backpatch to 9.3 where this code was introduced.
docs: adjustments for streaming standbys that disconnect frequently

Document problems when disconnection causes loss of hot_standby_feedback
and suggest adjusting max_standby_archive_delay and
max_standby_streaming_delay.

Initial patch by Marko Tiikkaja, adjustments by me