bubble up out-of-memory errors from liballoc

This makes the low-level allocation API suitable for use cases where
out-of-memory conditions need to be handled.

Closes #18292

[breaking-change]
update jemalloc
auto merge of #18406 : thestinger/rust/oom, r=cmr

This makes the low-level allocation API suitable for use cases where
out-of-memory conditions need to be handled.

Closes #18292

[breaking-change]