[x86] Fix yet another bug in the new vector shuffle lowering's handling
of widening masks.

We can't widen a zeroing mask unless both elements that would be merged
are either zeroed or undef. This is the only way to widen a mask if it
has a zeroed element.

Also clean up the code here by ordering the checks in a more logical way
and by using the symoblic values for undef and zero. I'm actually torn
on using the symbolic values because the existing code is littered with
the assumption that -1 is undef, and moreover that entries '< 0' are the
special entries. While that works with the values given to these
constants, using the symbolic constants actually makes it a bit more
opaque why this is the case.