ISPN-4317 Optimize server test suite

 * all tests for remote queries use the same server
 * removed unnecessary test cases for the suppress-state-transfer tests and merged hotrod and memcached cases
 * merged single-node jdbc tests
 * added proper server killing (a small arquillian extension by Martin which was forgotten during the migration)
 * moved the Unstable category from class level to the failing method in ExampleConfigsTests
 * removed some server starts from TransportStackConfigurationIT test

This saves ~40 server starts (from ~130), which should translate to >10 minutes in teamcity (server start takes ~15 seconds there). 
Can also be renamed DieServerDie :D