ISPN-4561 CacheManager.stop with indexing to Infinispan fails

https://issues.jboss.org/browse/ISPN-4561

As discussed, introduced a graph to store cache dependencies and enforce it at stop time, plus an API to interact with that. Query will register cache dependencies accordingly. Backporting should be straighforward.
For example if the cache is being stopped in parallel, it might need to be restarted.