Push model for flushing memtables

Summary:
When memtable is full it calls the registered callback. That callback then registers column family as needing the flush. Every write checks if there are some column families that need to be flushed. This completely eliminates the need for MakeRoomForWrite() function and simplifies our Write code-path.

There is some complexity with the concurrency when the column family is dropped. I made it a bit less complex by dropping the column family from the write thread in https://reviews.facebook.net/D22965. Let me know if you want to discuss this.

Test Plan: make check works. I'll also run db_stress with creating and dropping column families for a while.

Reviewers: yhchiang, sdong, ljin

Reviewed By: ljin

Subscribers: leveldb

Differential Revision: https://reviews.facebook.net/D23067