[CF] Rethinking ColumnFamilyHandle and fix to dropping column families

Summary:
The change to the public behavior:
* When opening a DB or creating new column family client gets a ColumnFamilyHandle.
* As long as column family handle is alive, client can do whatever he wants with it, even drop it
* Dropped column family can still be read from (using the column family handle)
* Added a new call CloseColumnFamily(). Client has to close all column families that he has opened before deleting the DB
* As soon as column family is closed, any calls to DB using that column family handle will fail (also any outstanding calls)

Internally:
* Ref-counting ColumnFamilyData
* New thread-safety for ColumnFamilySet
* Dropped column families are now completely dropped and their memory cleaned-up

Test Plan: added some tests to column_family_test

Reviewers: dhruba, haobo, kailiu, sdong

CC: leveldb

Differential Revision: https://reviews.facebook.net/D16101