ISPN-4867 Single event marshaller support more clearly defined in API

* Based on Dan's feedback, Hot Rod server API made it look as if you
could pass a per-factory marshaller but that's not really the case.
A single event marshaller is currently supported.
ISPN-4675 Missing server configuration for remote executor thread pool

Add server configuration for the remote command executor and the total order executor.
Replace sfl4j-jdk14 dependency with sfl4j-log4j12 so that jboss logging
writes to log4j in the cdi module (and dependents).

Add more debugging around cache listeners. It seems Class.getMethods()
sometimes returns synthetic methods created by overriding a generic method.