Add AssertLockHeld for cs_main to ChainActive-using functions

All functions that use ChainActive but do not aquire the cs_main
lock themselves, need to be called with the cs_main lock held.

This commit adds assertions to all externally callable functions
that use chainActive or chainMostWork.

This will flag usages when built with -DDEBUG_LOCKORDER.
Solve chainActive-related locking issues

- In wallet and GUI code LOCK cs_main as well as cs_wallet when
  necessary
- In main.cpp SendMessages move the TRY_LOCK(cs_main) up, to encompass the call
  to IsInitialBlockDownload.
- Make ActivateBestChain, AddToBlockIndex, IsInitialBlockDownload,
  InitBlockIndex acquire the cs_main lock

Fixes #3997
Merge pull request #4058

55a1db4 Solve chainActive-related locking issues (Wladimir J. van der Laan)
e07c943 Add AssertLockHeld for cs_main to ChainActive-using functions (Wladimir J. van der Laan)