SPARK-3811 [CORE] More robust / standard Utils.deleteRecursively, Utils.createTempDir

I noticed a few issues with how temp directories are created and deleted:

*Minor*

* Guava's `Files.createTempDir()` plus `File.deleteOnExit()` is used in many tests to make a temp dir, but `Utils.createTempDir()` seems to be the standard Spark mechanism
* Call to `File.deleteOnExit()` could be pushed into `Utils.createTempDir()` as well, along with this replacement
* _I messed up the message in an exception in `Utils` in SPARK-3794; fixed here_

*Bit Less Minor*

* `Utils.deleteRecursively()` fails immediately if any `IOException` occurs, instead of trying to delete any remaining files and subdirectories. I've observed this leave temp dirs around. I suggest changing it to continue in the face of an exception and throw one of the possibly several exceptions that occur at the end.
* `Utils.createTempDir()` will add a JVM shutdown hook every time the method is called. Even if the subdir is the parent of another parent dir, since this check is inside the hook. However `Utils` manages a set of all dirs to delete on shutdown already, called `shutdownDeletePaths`. A single hook can be registered to delete all of these on exit. This is how Tachyon temp paths are cleaned up in `TachyonBlockManager`.

I noticed a few other things that might be changed but wanted to ask first:

* Shouldn't the set of dirs to delete be `File`, not just `String` paths?
* `Utils` manages the set of `TachyonFile` that have been registered for deletion, but the shutdown hook is managed in `TachyonBlockManager`. Should this logic not live together, and not in `Utils`? it's more specific to Tachyon, and looks a slight bit odd to import in such a generic place.

I see. `listFilesSafely` translates a `null` into an `IOException`; still, that should only happen if you're trying to list a directory that has wrong permissions, which would be very weird since this should only be trying to delete directories that the process itself created...