[SPARK-3243] Don't use stale spark-driver.* system properties

If we set both `spark.driver.extraClassPath` and `--driver-class-path`, then the latter correctly overrides the former. However, the value of the system property `spark.driver.extraClassPath` still uses the former, which is actually not added to the class path. This may cause some confusion...

Of course, this also affects other options (i.e. java options, library path, memory...).

Author: Andrew Or <andrewor14@gmail.com>

Closes #2154 from andrewor14/driver-submit-configs-fix and squashes the following commits:

17ec6fc [Andrew Or] Fix tests
0140836 [Andrew Or] Don't forget spark.driver.memory
e39d20f [Andrew Or] Also set spark.driver.extra* configs in client mode
(cherry picked from commit 63a053ab140d7bf605e8c5b7fb5a7bd52aca29b2)

Signed-off-by: Patrick Wendell <pwendell@gmail.com>