Fix API watchdog from killing me

100% of time, API watchdog was killing my windows/ideaj processes at 6
timeouts (3 minutes), because nano opens a local windows socket but the
api watch looks for the wrong one.
Fix runit starCol.R test

for some datasets was getting weird string/hack expansions from R then
failing the test (but H2O was all fine).
Fix bugs with racey GLM2 completion

An xval task would complete before the main model would, then it would
remove/delete the main GLM job while other xvals where running, causing
them to self-cancel & crash.  Fix an NPE.  Fix race in Jobs on not
setting initial state ("state" was init'd to null, which is not
"RUNNING" so "isRunning()" on a new Job reports false)